Does your boyfriend spend the night when your kids are home?

[Anonymous]

Acquaintance forgot to lock her door and her child walked in on her and her boyfriend having sex in the middle of the night. I say, what's the boyfriend doing there overnight in the first place?

[Anonymous]

I agree with you.

I would call that a parenting fail.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Depends how long they've been together. SIL has been with her fiance since her son was 3. He's now 10. They took things slow in the beginning, introduced him to her son, did things together so they got to know each other, and by the time her son was about 6-7, he was spending the night. They got engaged when he was 8, but some life circumstances have put their wedding on hold until next year.

[Anonymous]

No. Nasty and low class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends how long they've been together. SIL has been with her fiance since her son was 3. He's now 10. They took things slow in the beginning, introduced him to her son, did things together so they got to know each other, and by the time her son was about 6-7, he was spending the night. They got engaged when he was 8, but some life circumstances have put their wedding on hold until next year.

7 years, and they can't pull the trigger and get married? Sounds like a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends how long they've been together. SIL has been with her fiance since her son was 3. He's now 10. They took things slow in the beginning, introduced him to her son, did things together so they got to know each other, and by the time her son was about 6-7, he was spending the night. They got engaged when he was 8, but some life circumstances have put their wedding on hold until next year.

7 years, and they can't pull the trigger and get married? Sounds like a loser.

Actually it was my SIL who wanted to take things very slowly after being in an abusive relationship with her son's father. Smart on her part. Then he suffered a devastating loss that sent him into depression and took him a bit to come out of (the life circumstances). He's a great guy. Successful, smart, and treats my SIL and nephew amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Acquaintance forgot to lock her door and her child walked in on her and her boyfriend having sex in the middle of the night. I say, what's the boyfriend doing there overnight in the first place?

When is she supposed to have sex? What time does it go from hanging out to overnight?

[Anonymous]

My parents divorced when I was about 6yo. My mom had a couple (like two) boyfriends stay the night over the course of the next 10 yrs. It was fine, I wasn't scarred, and I didn't end up promiscuous or resentful. But the thing is:

- I was NOT particularly traumatized by the divorce.

- I wasn't an especially needy kid, I was pretty independent.

- They were serious boyfriends.

- Of course my mom never left me alone with a boyfriend of hers, ever.

- The guys were not there all the time. They stayed occasionally (like once a week or every couple weeks once the relationship was very serious).

- One of the guys was particularly sensitive about my feelings. If I had anyone picking me up in the morning - like a friend's parent picking me up for a game or event - he'd be up and out of the house early so as not to embarrass me. Otherwise, he'd take my mom and me to breakfast. (I went to Catholic school with kids whose parents were often very judgmental.)

[Anonymous]

PP here - my dad lived in another state, so she couldn't just wait for my dad's nights with me to have company. Planned slumber parties or sleepovers (when I was out of the house for the night) would have been good options, too.

[Anonymous]

I think if you are in a long-term, committed relationship it is fine.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But only when my husband is out of town.

[Anonymous]

Often times, it goes against custody agreements to have someone spending the night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. But only when my husband is out of town.

Damn, that's hot. You just made me hard.

[Anonymous]

Nope.