I wish society didn't encourage people to put off having kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very future-oriented and decided to get pregnant at 27 because I wanted to space my children apart, with time for a third if I wanted, and not feel pressured to work into my 60s to pay for college.

So, I got married at 27, immediately got pregnant, and had a kid 11 months later. People were sort of shocked that I had kids so "young" but they weren't thinking long term, IMO. I was educated, making 6 figures (as was my husband) and knew what I wanted. People really shouldn't try to advise others, either way, about when to have kids because we all have different priorities.

Sounds good to me, you will get flamed, because this forum is filled with women who never got the therapy they needed earlier in their life, but you are
Right. I followed a very similar plan as you did, and it’s been great!! No regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very future-oriented and decided to get pregnant at 27 because I wanted to space my children apart, with time for a third if I wanted, and not feel pressured to work into my 60s to pay for college.

So, I got married at 27, immediately got pregnant, and had a kid 11 months later. People were sort of shocked that I had kids so "young" but they weren't thinking long term, IMO. I was educated, making 6 figures (as was my husband) and knew what I wanted. People really shouldn't try to advise others, either way, about when to have kids because we all have different priorities.

Most people aren’t making 6 figures at that age. What industry are you in? That kind of salary is the exception for someone just s few years out of college.

[Anonymous]

I'm a journalist and having children in your 20s in that field is a non starter. You just can't do the demands of the job. The news doesn't stop at 5 so you can leave to pick up your child from the day care center.

So I waited until my late 30s, when I was in charge of the department as well as a highly valued employee they wanted to keep. That allowed me a lot of flexibility. It also allowed one of us (DH) to cut back and go freelance, so he was home with the kids.

We're just finishing up the high school years now in our late 50s. Kids will be heading off to college, and we're winding down to retirement.

Perfect for us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am very future-oriented and decided to get pregnant at 27 because I wanted to space my children apart, with time for a third if I wanted, and not feel pressured to work into my 60s to pay for college.

So, I got married at 27, immediately got pregnant, and had a kid 11 months later. People were sort of shocked that I had kids so "young" but they weren't thinking long term, IMO. I was educated, making 6 figures (as was my husband) and knew what I wanted. People really shouldn't try to advise others, either way, about when to have kids because we all have different priorities.

Most people aren’t making 6 figures at that age. What industry are you in? That kind of salary is the exception for someone just s few years out of college.

Lots of people in law, consulting, or finance make that much in their late twenties. Especially in major metro areas. It’s not uncommon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am very future-oriented and decided to get pregnant at 27 because I wanted to space my children apart, with time for a third if I wanted, and not feel pressured to work into my 60s to pay for college.

So, I got married at 27, immediately got pregnant, and had a kid 11 months later. People were sort of shocked that I had kids so "young" but they weren't thinking long term, IMO. I was educated, making 6 figures (as was my husband) and knew what I wanted. People really shouldn't try to advise others, either way, about when to have kids because we all have different priorities.

Most people aren’t making 6 figures at that age. What industry are you in? That kind of salary is the exception for someone just s few years out of college.

Lots of people in law, consulting, or finance make that much in their late twenties. Especially in major metro areas. It’s not uncommon.

Yeah, right. And you're not making that much and working 9 to 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am very future-oriented and decided to get pregnant at 27 because I wanted to space my children apart, with time for a third if I wanted, and not feel pressured to work into my 60s to pay for college.

So, I got married at 27, immediately got pregnant, and had a kid 11 months later. People were sort of shocked that I had kids so "young" but they weren't thinking long term, IMO. I was educated, making 6 figures (as was my husband) and knew what I wanted. People really shouldn't try to advise others, either way, about when to have kids because we all have different priorities.

Most people aren’t making 6 figures at that age. What industry are you in? That kind of salary is the exception for someone just s few years out of college.

Lots of people in law, consulting, or finance make that much in their late twenties. Especially in major metro areas. It’s not uncommon.

Yeah, right. And you're not making that much and working 9 to 5.

Certain types of engineering you can. That is more 9-5 or has flex-time/remote work available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am very future-oriented and decided to get pregnant at 27 because I wanted to space my children apart, with time for a third if I wanted, and not feel pressured to work into my 60s to pay for college.

So, I got married at 27, immediately got pregnant, and had a kid 11 months later. People were sort of shocked that I had kids so "young" but they weren't thinking long term, IMO. I was educated, making 6 figures (as was my husband) and knew what I wanted. People really shouldn't try to advise others, either way, about when to have kids because we all have different priorities.

Most people aren’t making 6 figures at that age. What industry are you in? That kind of salary is the exception for someone just s few years out of college.

Lots of people in law, consulting, or finance make that much in their late twenties. Especially in major metro areas. It’s not uncommon.

Yeah, right. And you're not making that much and working 9 to 5.

I hit 6 as a fed at 28 working 40 hour weeks. It's possible. Followed a similar track to pp, had kids as soon as I got married (at 29) because we knew we're wanted them and didn't want to be old parents. It's about the long game. I want to know my grandkids. I wanted to get being pregnant over with because it blows. And I wanted to get through the early childcare money suck early enough to know we'll still be youngish and working in the college money suck.

[Anonymous]

I honestly cannot believe this thread is still going. People make different choices, and some things aren't a choice. I could not have had kids at 29 because I didn't meet my husband until I was 32. Not because I prioritized my career, but because I didn't find the right person in my 20s. Had kids later in my 30s. End of story.

Societal pressure didn't encourage me to put anything off, and the same is true for just about everyone I know.

[Anonymous]

Statistically, women who have chlidren later in life live longer.

http://time.com/4574770/older-moms-may-live-longer/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very future-oriented and decided to get pregnant at 27 because I wanted to space my children apart, with time for a third if I wanted, and not feel pressured to work into my 60s to pay for college.

So, I got married at 27, immediately got pregnant, and had a kid 11 months later. People were sort of shocked that I had kids so "young" but they weren't thinking long term, IMO. I was educated, making 6 figures (as was my husband) and knew what I wanted. People really shouldn't try to advise others, either way, about when to have kids because we all have different priorities.

You had a kid 11 months after getting pregnant? Way to keep the bun in the oven.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am very future-oriented and decided to get pregnant at 27 because I wanted to space my children apart, with time for a third if I wanted, and not feel pressured to work into my 60s to pay for college.

So, I got married at 27, immediately got pregnant, and had a kid 11 months later. People were sort of shocked that I had kids so "young" but they weren't thinking long term, IMO. I was educated, making 6 figures (as was my husband) and knew what I wanted. People really shouldn't try to advise others, either way, about when to have kids because we all have different priorities.

Most people aren’t making 6 figures at that age. What industry are you in? That kind of salary is the exception for someone just s few years out of college.

Lots of people in law, consulting, or finance make that much in their late twenties. Especially in major metro areas. It’s not uncommon.

Yeah, right. And you're not making that much and working 9 to 5.

Keep your pants on Karen
. No one said anything about hours worked...the point is that it’s not uncommon to make six figures in your late 20s. it’s also not uncommon to work way more than 40 hours a week for less than six figures. Hello trendy non profit, how do you do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a journalist and having children in your 20s in that field is a non starter. You just can't do the demands of the job. The news doesn't stop at 5 so you can leave to pick up your child from the day care center.

So I waited until my late 30s, when I was in charge of the department as well as a highly valued employee they wanted to keep. That allowed me a lot of flexibility. It also allowed one of us (DH) to cut back and go freelance, so he was home with the kids.

We're just finishing up the high school years now in our late 50s. Kids will be heading off to college, and we're winding down to retirement.

Perfect for us!

It’s unfortunately a nonstarter in most industries. Finance, law, medicine, journalism, etc. Really the only job where it won’t matter is one where you don’t have to put in the hours because there isn’t as much to learn. For example, sales.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a journalist and having children in your 20s in that field is a non starter. You just can't do the demands of the job. The news doesn't stop at 5 so you can leave to pick up your child from the day care center.

So I waited until my late 30s, when I was in charge of the department as well as a highly valued employee they wanted to keep. That allowed me a lot of flexibility. It also allowed one of us (DH) to cut back and go freelance, so he was home with the kids.

We're just finishing up the high school years now in our late 50s. Kids will be heading off to college, and we're winding down to retirement.

Perfect for us!

It’s unfortunately a nonstarter in most industries. Finance, law, medicine, journalism, etc. Really the only job where it won’t matter is one where you don’t have to put in the hours because there isn’t as much to learn. For example, sales.

I don’t know. It seems like there are tons of people who are wildly successful and put in the hours. Am I missing something? Don’t people just hire nannies? If you want money, there is a clear and obtainable path to get it. The problem is that most people, understandably, don’t want to take the path. But just acknowledge that you choose not to make $$, not whine that “it’s hard” or “you have to work 60 hours a week.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok here is a zinger for you people. I battled unexplained fertility in my mid-late twenties. Got pregnant finally at age 32 and have been getting pregnant easily (first month of trying) ever since. I am on baby #5 no at age 37. Guess nature or God didn't think my 20s was ideal.

Not a zinger, just unusual.
Congratulations on your babies.

One baby per year??