Sick of mania FB posts of manic sister-in-law - she's having a bad episode
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SIL is totally in a full blown state of mania. She has been for at least 6-7 months. It has no end. In 4 months she has bought all new furniture, then totally renovated, then did glam shots of herself and says she is doing a wesbite selling her know how, then she is doing the MMM for 42 thou/yr because she will make the first month's installment and then some the first week (site not up yet), then she found a dream house (online) per FB post, 1 hour later she is looking for contractors for her new home office to-be (in said dream house), she is going to all of these millionaire sales people seminars and posting pics there saying they are her friends that she spent the day with, now she is on day 4 of diet number bazillion, she posts also that her thoughts are racing OMG everything is moving so fast, she posts so much is happening at once OMG she needs an assistant, she is flying to vegas, LA, etc. etc. (meanwhile very sick child she doesn't notice till he has to be hospitalized, again, this time pneumonia, last time unresponsive due to severe fever maybe dehydrated, or was that 2 times ago. . .lost count of her toddlers hospitalizations).
She is a telemarketer. She is not well off. She declared bankruptcy 2 years ago. I need to detach because it is like a never ending psycho drama that I am intrigued by in a dysfunctional way - like free entertainment. Although what makes it mildly annoying is that she is so insecure and competitive, and she believes she is competing with everybody and that I guess, in her mind, she is "Winning!" "Winner!" That is all. Just sharing. |
Anonymous
| You sound like an asshole. If she's truly mentally ill, she deserves compassion, not contempt. If you feel the child is in danger, discuss with family RE proper steps to take in that regard. |
Anonymous
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Most of us human beings would find it heartbreaking to have a close relative suffer from serious mental illness. You must be either stupid, ignorant, or hateful. Or some combination of the three. I certainly hope the rest of your SIL's relatives have more of a clue than you do.
Signed, Daughter of a dad with bipolar disorder who has watched him do the exact things you are talking about and found it extremely difficult in many ways, but never thought of it as "free entertainment" |
Anonymous
| Family is in denial and would be enraged if I said she is bipolar in mania and needs help. It is frustrating and I wish I could detach completely but every day somebody calls and "has big news" about her next manic move. And I have to pretend I think it's fantastic and normal. If it was my own sister, I'd have done an intervention already. |
Anonymous
AGREE |
Anonymous
| Why do you have to pretend it's fantastic and normal? So what if they would be enraged? Not only are you mean, you are a coward. |
Anonymous
| If you're sick of her FB posts, then turn her off in your feed. You are still friends and she will see your posts, but you do not see any of her posts. Problem solved. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Does she have a spouse? |
Anonymous
| When I was reading your post, OP, my first thought was you're manic! I could barely get through the first paragraph. |
Anonymous
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Op - you are the reason so much mental illness goes untreated. You are the exemplication of stigma. You mock her and her mental illness, and you see it as entertainment. You are sick and tired of her having a mental illness because of what you have to read on Facebook?
A manic episode lasting 6-7 months is a very long episode. I feel so much for your sister in law that there is not a single person in the family who has any compassion or any care about her as a person at all. No one supporting her, getting her help. Just a family of people mocking her and her illness and how it shows on Facebook. Her post makes me feel sick. |
Anonymous
I wondered this too. Zero mention by OP about anyone else who sees or can help of this sick child. OP, what's that all about? Does she have a spouse in her life or significant other? Is that the person whom you say is in denial? When you say she is bipolar, is that because you know she has the diagnosis or because you assume she is, based on her actions? (And yeah, having seen a bipolar friend spend wildly when in a manic state, I agree that the SIL's actions and grandiose statements do sound like signs, but that is not the same as a doctor actually diagnosing your SIL.) OP, I hope you can see why others, while inexcusably rude about it, are seeing you as lacking in compassion and courage here. What have you done to try to reach her or (probably more effective if she's manic) to reach those closest to her? The ones you say are in denial? Maybe you have tried and tried and this vent is because you're so frustrated - I get that. But how can you help this kid, even if you're done with the mom? If she is ignoring her child to the level you claim this sounds like it's heading for a call to child protective services unless there is another parent in the picture. And if there IS another parent, how did that person let the child get that dehydrated?? |
Anonymous
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In her free time OP also
...kicks puppies ...throws eggs at the homeless ...makes fun of people who have lost their hair from cancer |
Anonymous
| Compassion can be exhausting. Sometimes we need to vent / let our evil side express itself. Better on an anonymous forum than in real life, no? If not here then where? |
Anonymous
Where did you see any signs that there had ever been even a shred of compassion. This isn't a vent about being exhausted from caring for an ill family member. This is just all about how annoyed and irritated she is by her SIL having a mental illness. It is all about OP and written in a way that would indicate she has never cared in any way about her SIL except for how her SIL's illness impacts her. |