Sick of mania FB posts of manic sister-in-law - she's having a bad episode

[Anonymous]

Is she hot? Maybe she can snag a rich older guy to fulfill her dreams.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure she isn't a drug addict?

Also agree with PP, 6-7 months is a very long time for a manic episode, but could be explained by meth or coke addiction.

[Anonymous]

OP I find you really sad. My best friend went through more manic phases than I can count before she was properly diagnosed/medicated. At no point did I find her bizarre rants and delusions "free entertainment" or find it annoying that she had an obvious problem. You sound sick.

If you really care about this person, then find her some help. Or find her kid some help (I can't tell if you feel bad for the kid or not). I'm sure the doctors have taken note that she's not properly caring for her child.

but if her posts bug you, hide her feed. To think of it as some form of entertainment and then get annoyed by said "entertainment" is absolutely disgusting. You should really be ashamed of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have to pretend it's fantastic and normal? So what if they would be enraged? Not only are you mean, you are a coward.

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[Anonymous]

OP, what can you do to look out for the toddler?

[Anonymous]

OP: Are you surprised at theses responses?
I come from a large family and have been talking out loud about my bipolar illness and have been avoided and treated with cruelty bt them. It is my belief that my disclosure may made them uncomfortable with their own potential struggles (that may be true in your case). The sad thing is that 2 of them are Drs. Mental Illness is considered shameful to all 10 in my immediate family.
My anger with your post makes me also want to call you names (ignorant, mean, prejudice).
However, in an effort to be part of the solution, why don't you educate yourself as to how to help her. NAMI is a great place to start. Research by finding people who could help YOU become an effective resource for your family. Maybe you could find books that could back up your concerns. I am unaware if an intervention is available for this type of problem.
In my situation, the wheels are falling off in many of my siblings lives and I don't look like such a crazy person anymore.
It sound like your SIL needs a mood stabilizer (Lamictal).
I hope you become part of the solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SIL is totally in a full blown state of mania. She has been for at least 6-7 months. It has no end. In 4 months she has bought all new furniture, then totally renovated, then did glam shots of herself and says she is doing a wesbite selling her know how, then she is doing the MMM for 42 thou/yr because she will make the first month's installment and then some the first week (site not up yet), then she found a dream house (online) per FB post, 1 hour later she is looking for contractors for her new home office to-be (in said dream house), she is going to all of these millionaire sales people seminars and posting pics there saying they are her friends that she spent the day with, now she is on day 4 of diet number bazillion, she posts also that her thoughts are racing OMG everything is moving so fast, she posts so much is happening at once OMG she needs an assistant, she is flying to vegas, LA, etc. etc. (meanwhile very sick child she doesn't notice till he has to be hospitalized, again, this time pneumonia, last time unresponsive due to severe fever maybe dehydrated, or was that 2 times ago. . .lost count of her toddlers hospitalizations).

She is a telemarketer. She is not well off. She declared bankruptcy 2 years ago. I need to detach because it is like a never ending psycho drama that I am intrigued by in a dysfunctional way - like free entertainment. Although what makes it mildly annoying is that she is so insecure and competitive, and she believes she is competing with everybody and that I guess, in her mind, she is "Winning!" "Winner!"

That is all. Just sharing.

Whoa, babe! take your meds!

[Anonymous]

OP, I have a relative like this. She tries to divulge information that is completely inaccurate in an effort to make her look "good" - in addition to some examples you used (re: your SIL). You are not her therapist. People will tire of her. Just block her.

[Anonymous]

Your poor nephew

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Compassion can be exhausting. Sometimes we need to vent / let our evil side express itself. Better on an anonymous forum than in real life, no? If not here then where?

Where did you see any signs that there had ever been even a shred of compassion. This isn't a vent about being exhausted from caring for an ill family member. This is just all about how annoyed and irritated she is by her SIL having a mental illness. It is all about OP and written in a way that would indicate she has never cared in any way about her SIL except for how her SIL's illness impacts her.

Fair enough. Maybe I'm extrapolating re: how I feel about my own bipolar unmedicated SIL. I show plenty of compassion in real life but inside sometimes I wish she'd just grow the hell up and go see a shrink and quit making the rest of us miserable.

[Anonymous]

My SIL is somewhat like yours, OP. My brother is too, they both enable each other with their mania of renovations and constantly needing/wanting to do this, that, and everything in between, and then periods of total drain and anger/resentment. It's kind of screwed up.

Ultimately, your SIL's mental illness is hers to deal with. I've tried to support my own relatives, but ultimately I don't have the energy to deal with them anymore. I won't make fun of them, but I sure as hell will be hands off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Are you surprised at theses responses?
I come from a large family and have been talking out loud about my bipolar illness and have been avoided and treated with cruelty bt them. It is my belief that my disclosure may made them uncomfortable with their own potential struggles (that may be true in your case). The sad thing is that 2 of them are Drs. Mental Illness is considered shameful to all 10 in my immediate family.
My anger with your post makes me also want to call you names (ignorant, mean, prejudice).
However, in an effort to be part of the solution, why don't you educate yourself as to how to help her. NAMI is a great place to start. Research by finding people who could help YOU become an effective resource for your family. Maybe you could find books that could back up your concerns. I am unaware if an intervention is available for this type of problem.
In my situation, the wheels are falling off in many of my siblings lives and I don't look like such a crazy person anymore.
It sound like your SIL needs a mood stabilizer (Lamictal).
I hope you become part of the solution.

OP: Do you plan on helping your SIL?

[Anonymous]

Dude, you are crazier than she is. Stop agreeing with the family and call out the illness. Her kid is in danger... Geez

[Anonymous]

OP again.

Honestly, there is nothing I can do unless I want to start WWIII. And SIL lives across the country. I do feel very sorry for her son. It is hard to have compassion for somebody who tries to ruin your wedding, your vacations, and just sabatoge or compete with everything you do, so not only is she manic, she is a b-.

For instance, when we set the date to get married (months after their wedding), she decided she wanted to fly her family here, to NoVA, to have a second wedding the weekend of my wedding, and suggested I just cancel my wedding and have it next year and that everyone was sooooo excited to go to her humungous (sp?) second wedding reception that was going to be soooo much bigger than whatever I was planning for my wedding, and that mine would be pathetic, etc.

Need I say more?

Oh, this summer, we planned a week off in August, and invited FIL to also take off and planned to have him stay here for a few days (from NYC).

So SIL goes and buys him a ticket to see her that week - even though she was working. Just to ruin some of our plans. She gets off on it. I dont get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again.

Honestly, there is nothing I can do unless I want to start WWIII. And SIL lives across the country. I do feel very sorry for her son. It is hard to have compassion for somebody who tries to ruin your wedding, your vacations, and just sabatoge or compete with everything you do, so not only is she manic, she is a b-.

For instance, when we set the date to get married (months after their wedding), she decided she wanted to fly her family here, to NoVA, to have a second wedding the weekend of my wedding, and suggested I just cancel my wedding and have it next year and that everyone was sooooo excited to go to her humungous (sp?) second wedding reception that was going to be soooo much bigger than whatever I was planning for my wedding, and that mine would be pathetic, etc.

Need I say more?

Oh, this summer, we planned a week off in August, and invited FIL to also take off and planned to have him stay here for a few days (from NYC).

So SIL goes and buys him a ticket to see her that week - even though she was working. Just to ruin some of our plans. She gets off on it. I dont get it.

If this is supposed to be Exhibit A about your ignorance of mental illness - it is a pretty good example.

No, you don't get it, and unless you educate yourself, you likely never will.