Would you ever let the fact that your kids don't want to move keep you from moving?

[Anonymous]

Moving within the same area and school district, that is. Not talking about leaving the area.

[Anonymous]

No. They are children. Children do not have a say in these matters. Children go where they are told.

[Anonymous]

How old?

[Anonymous]

It depends.

[Anonymous]

Not OP, but same question. In our case the kids are 5 and 7. The move would be out of the area, to a cheaper area where we would be in better schools and closer to family. Only downside is kids don't want to go

[Anonymous]

Nope, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not OP, but same question. In our case the kids are 5 and 7. The move would be out of the area, to a cheaper area where we would be in better schools and closer to family. Only downside is kids don't want to go

They'll get over it. consider it a teaching moment.

5 yos and 7os don't call the shots in our house.

[Anonymous]

My parents included us in these conversations growing up. We were in 4th/5th grade when the opportunity came to move halfway across the country for better job opportunities and lower cost of living. We sat down as a family and made lists of the pros and cons of each choice, and we all talked openly about what we wanted and why.

It was a great chance to talk as a family and figure out what was really important to us. The fact that my sister and I really didn't want to move was a big deciding factor in us staying, and I'm grateful my parents took that into consideration.

OP, what are their reasons for not wanting to move if the school would stay the same? The typical reason is not leaving friends, but sounds like that's not an issue here.

[Anonymous]

In elem. and middle school, no. In high school, maybe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents included us in these conversations growing up. We were in 4th/5th grade when the opportunity came to move halfway across the country for better job opportunities and lower cost of living. We sat down as a family and made lists of the pros and cons of each choice, and we all talked openly about what we wanted and why.

It was a great chance to talk as a family and figure out what was really important to us. The fact that my sister and I really didn't want to move was a big deciding factor in us staying, and I'm grateful my parents took that into consideration.

OP, what are their reasons for not wanting to move if the school would stay the same? The typical reason is not leaving friends, but sounds like that's not an issue here.

Wow. I feel so sorry for you. Children never want to leave. It's up to parents to decide what's best. Sounds like you missed out on a tremendous opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents included us in these conversations growing up. We were in 4th/5th grade when the opportunity came to move halfway across the country for better job opportunities and lower cost of living. We sat down as a family and made lists of the pros and cons of each choice, and we all talked openly about what we wanted and why.

It was a great chance to talk as a family and figure out what was really important to us. The fact that my sister and I really didn't want to move was a big deciding factor in us staying, and I'm grateful my parents took that into consideration.

OP, what are their reasons for not wanting to move if the school would stay the same? The typical reason is not leaving friends, but sounds like that's not an issue here.

Wow. I feel so sorry for you. Children never want to leave. It's up to parents to decide what's best. Sounds like you missed out on a tremendous opportunity.

I don't think so. The choice was to stay in Santa Barbara, California, or move to Kokomo, Indiana. The only benefit to moving would have been a bigger/cheaper house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think so. The choice was to stay in Santa Barbara, California, or move to Kokomo, Indiana. The only benefit to moving would have been a bigger/cheaper house.

Oh, and all grandparents/aunts/uncles lived in Santa Barbara, most within walking distance of our house. Honestly, the reason my sister and I didn't want to move is that we wanted to maintain close relationships with our family. If we had moved, my parents were honest that we'd only get to see them once or twice a year. My parents didn't realize how important that was to us until we verbalized it.

[Anonymous]

Kids don't get to make these decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents included us in these conversations growing up. We were in 4th/5th grade when the opportunity came to move halfway across the country for better job opportunities and lower cost of living. We sat down as a family and made lists of the pros and cons of each choice, and we all talked openly about what we wanted and why.

It was a great chance to talk as a family and figure out what was really important to us. The fact that my sister and I really didn't want to move was a big deciding factor in us staying, and I'm grateful my parents took that into consideration.

OP, what are their reasons for not wanting to move if the school would stay the same? The typical reason is not leaving friends, but sounds like that's not an issue here.

Wow. I feel so sorry for you. Children never want to leave. It's up to parents to decide what's best. Sounds like you missed out on a tremendous opportunity.

I don't think so. The choice was to stay in Santa Barbara, California, or move to Kokomo, Indiana. The only benefit to moving would have been a bigger/cheaper house.

A child doesn't analyze things that way. You also seem to infer that Santa Barbara, California is preferable to Kokomo, Indiana for some reason. How would you know this, since you never had a chance to compare?

[Anonymous]

Nope. We moved about every three years for their entire lives. They are all grown and away at college except for the youngest. DH was military then a fed. They are all very well adjusted kids. You can drop them anywhere and they'll make friends. It's always hard to leave, but we look at it as an adventure!

They don't get a vote. This is the way life is for our family.