I am in love with my friend's wife.......
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Anonymous
| How do I get over this? We have been friends for a while now and I love hanging out with her. We can seriously talk about things for hours and the fact that she is hot does not help. I know nothing will ever come out of this, she has what seems to be an amazing relationship with her DH. I just need to get over this, she is all I ever think about when I'm with other women and I am constantly comparing them to her. Not to mention I feel like crap when I think about betraying my friend. She just seems so real while the women I date appear artificial to me. Advice? Please don't tell me to stop seeing her cold turkey. I really value the friendship I have with her DH and her. |
Anonymous
| Watch Love, Actually. |
Anonymous
| You should stop wasting time with taken women and focus on finding available ones. I don't talk to women unless it is for work because I have more important things to do. |
Anonymous
| You need a girlfriend, OP. If the women you date are artificial, then you need to do a better job in selection. Stop looking for the lazy, easy way out, which is exactly what you're doing here. You can waste a lot of time with this childish fantasy. |
Anonymous
| She probably seems more real because her guard is down due to your friendship with her husband. Other women you date will mostly let their guard down too once you get to know them more. |
Anonymous
| Fantasy always beats reality. But fantasy is fantasy -- and often a big waste of time and energy, like in your case. |
Anonymous
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Nothing good ever happens when you get hung up on someone. Crushes hurt, obsessions scare the crap out of people, fixations keep you from focusing and functioning properly, infatuations inhibit opportunities for other relationships - it's not worth it.
Look, instead of preoccupying your thoughts with all the wonderful things about your friend's wife try and tone down your preoccupations to one thing - tits for example. Not just hers, but all tits in general. Obsessing about tits will help you to notice other women and it will enable you to get your friend's wife out of your head 24/7 because instead of fantasizing about all of the amazing qualities you like about her that other women lack...hell every woman's got tits!! You'll be relaxed and relieved from the burden of longing your friend's wife and be free to drool over any set of jugs you like. Try it. |
Anonymous
+1 - focus on why you are dating less quality women and fix that. |
Anonymous
| How old are you? |
Anonymous
| Men shouldn't have women friends. It never ends up good. |
Anonymous
*Unless you are gay |
Anonymous
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You are not in love. You have a crush. It's a fantasy. Figure out why you want someone who is unavailable, make changes, and enjoy dating other women instead of fixating on something you don't have. You sound like a grass is always greener type. It is a crappy way to live, always wanting what you can't have!
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Anonymous
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Ok:
"Help me get over my friend's wife" and "Please don't ask me to stop seeing her cold turkey" are mutually exclusive statements. If you want to get over her, you've got to break the circuit in your brain that's going in loops. So decide to stop seeing her for 4 months or so. Just stop seeing her, talking to her, etc. Let them know you're really busy at work. Better--let them know you've met someone and you're really busy at work so will be out of the picture for some time. Have the contact person always be him, not her…if she emails you, email them both back on same reply. Decide you're going to do this for 4 months, then re-evaluate. Your brain is malleable; you just need to give it the right conditions to change. |
Anonymous
LOL +1 |
Anonymous
| It's not love. It's just a mental fart. Your brain created it. Your brain can undo it. |