I am in love with my friend's wife.......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do I get over this? We have been friends for a while now and I love hanging out with her. We can seriously talk about things for hours and the fact that she is hot does not help. I know nothing will ever come out of this, she has what seems to be an amazing relationship with her DH. I just need to get over this, she is all I ever think about when I'm with other women and I am constantly comparing them to her. Not to mention I feel like crap when I think about betraying my friend. She just seems so real while the women I date appear artificial to me. Advice? Please don't tell me to stop seeing her cold turkey. I really value the friendship I have with her DH and her.

Mate,you have to walk away.If you really love her let her be,she has made her choice.Yes it hurt's ,but would you want her to be with you forced or willing.Give it time,if she want's to be with you you will know. Don't wreck them and yourself

[Anonymous]

I don't think OP's a guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should stop wasting time with taken women and focus on finding available ones. I don't talk to women unless it is for work because I have more important things to do.

Haha uhh...

[Anonymous]

Why revive a thread from 2014 to say "Mate, you have to walk away"???????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should stop wasting time with taken women and focus on finding available ones. I don't talk to women unless it is for work because I have more important things to do.

Haha uhh...

Hi Mike Pence!

[Anonymous]

You know I feel so dirty when they start talking cute. I wanna tell her that I love her but the point is probably moot. 'Cause she's watching him with those eyes. And she's lovin' him with that body, I just know it! And he's holding her in his arms late, late at night.

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Anonymous wrote:Why revive a thread from 2014 to say "Mate, you have to walk away"???????

Sometimes a thread is revived by a spambot. People start responding to the op, not realizing it's an old thread. Then other people report the spam and it gets deleted. Then it looks like some idiot revived a four year old thread, when in fact, it was revived by the now-deleted spam.

You're welcome.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why revive a thread from 2014 to say "Mate, you have to walk away"???????

Sometimes a thread is revived by a spambot. People start responding to the op, not realizing it's an old thread. Then other people report the spam and it gets deleted. Then it looks like some idiot revived a four year old thread, when in fact, it was revived by the now-deleted spam.

You're welcome.

Did one of the spambots say "thank you?"

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Anonymous wrote:She probably seems more real because her guard is down due to your friendship with her husband. Other women you date will mostly let their guard down too once you get to know them more.

This is a good point. And, it sounds like op is going for "hot" women who may no have much in common with him. You may need to give them time, you may need to Branch out from "hot."

It sounds like maybe it would work for you to try to be friends with women first and date later. This whole "friendzoned" thing puzzles me...my DH was attracted to be, we became friends first, and then started to date after a few months. Married twenty plus years. First thing, step away from your friends wife. If you want to ask her to set you up or recommend places to meet other women, that would be ok.

[Anonymous]

You have her on a pedestal. She is off limits, which makes her more desireable. You get to see her at her best. No woman is going to live up to the image you built around this woman.

You simply need to wake up to what the relationship is.....

Or, maybe she's your soulmate. Go for it.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP,
I'm a married woman who makes friends easily with men and women, and I've had really great men become interested in more despite knowing I was married. It's not like these men are making things up - I also sometimes feel a connection with them, but I'm married. And while a little flirting may be nice for me, it can be really devastating to people who are actively looking for a mate if they take the flirting as hope for a real relationship. If you respect her and your friend, but most of all yourself, give them space, and don't put yourself in the situation where your bond is deepened. Perhaps, in another lifetime, it could have been different. But she is married. To your friend. There are many, many other wonderful women, looking for you. Spend your energy on finding them and building a real relationship with one who is single and wants to devote her life to you.

TL;DR: This one may be "perfect" but she has one huge downside: she's married to your friend. Move on. There is more than one soulmate out there for each of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch Love, Actually.

+ then go find someone who is NOT your friend's wife. Will not end well for any of you if you continue down this fantasy path. Find someone who is available.

[Anonymous]

I saw this episode of Family Guy. It almost broke up Peter and Quagmire. They worked through it though, after Quagmire butt dialed Peter and he overheard Q confessing to his trans-dad that he was in love with Lois. I think everything worked out after Lois assured them she only had eyes for Peter.

Maybe you guys could watch that episode together. See if either of them acts awkward, has any nervous giggles or gets a little too fidgety during dramatic scenes.

[Anonymous]

Is your friend named Jesse?

[Anonymous]

Threesome! Might work out great.