Husband won't talk to me and our 4 yr old!

[Anonymous]

We had an argument and we were just getting over it before getting into another one about parenting. DC had a fever the night before and when he got up the next morning I told him he could watch a show while I got ready for work since DH was still asleep. DH woke up right as I said that and told DC if he is sick then he needs to go back to bed. He cannot be up. I explained DC just woke up and I told him he could watch a show. He said if he is going to keep DC then he will lay in his bed all day. So I took DC to work with me and dropped something off and came right back. DC adores DH, they spend a lot of time together and now DH won't talk to him at all. It's been 4 days and he DC will say, "dad please talk to me, I love you please talk". DH said we are traitors and he doesn't want to see both our disgusting faces. It's so hurtful. I did apologize for not letting him deal with DC how he wanted etc, he won't even listen.

Last night DC cried in his sleep and was thrashing around and finally got up at 4:30am and hasn't been back to sleep. Not sure if its just a coincidence or if related to DH. What would you do.

Also a couple days before this incident when we had the first argument which was so small, we were getting ready for guests who were coming to dinner. They were from out of the country and just got off a long flight. DH was mad at me so when the guests arrived he refused to come out of his room. He came out to get a plate of food from the table we were all seated at, didn't say hello and walked back to his room to eat.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are an idiot. Why do chicks stay coming on here complaining about what to do with a piece of shit?

[Anonymous]

"He refused to come out of his room" -- really? This is a troll.

If not, you need a divorce,stat -- and you know it.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. Take your trifles elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Lol!! OP here! I know what to do. I am
Looking for a place to move. I can't afford much since I just paid all my bills. We have one car that he will take and he won't split the money in the bank. He is so mean that I don't want to get in a battle about it. I need to know how to make it easy for DC and what to say to him in the meantime.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing there are even greater problems than what you describe here.....

[Anonymous]

Wow - your kid is already headed for emotional issues.

I am guessing your DH won't go to counseling.

Next peds appt, you both go, you describe your DH's behavior to the doctor in front of him, there'd will tell him how wrong he is, at least he hears it from a 3 rd party....

[Anonymous]

This is absolutely not a troll. This post is very real. Please stop saying that. I really am desperate, if for nothing else then just to vent since I can't tell my family about this just yet. They live out of the country and I don't want to say anything until I find a place.

[Anonymous]

9:34 I'm hoping by The next ped appt, we will be out of here.

[Anonymous]

So why are you here posting if you have a plan to leave? Why did you leave that important nugget out of your first post?

[Anonymous]

Oh My God! I can't believe this is real.

[Anonymous]

9:46 I left it out because I didn't want the focus to be on my leaving, I really am looking for the right words to use with DC. I want to help dc understand by not giving him too much info but also not leaving him confused as I am sure he is right now.

[Anonymous]

9:51 just reading a comment like yours makes me realize how awful this is and how uncommon this actually is. I just got of the phone with MIL who offered me the use of her car for however long I need it which is helpful. I have replied to over 20 adds for apartments which I'm hoping to see over the next week. Right now the emotions of my child are my priority.

[Anonymous]

Tell dc that dh is acting like a big baby, you know that's hurtful because dc needs him to act like the daddy he is, and dc should just wait for him to get over it and do other things to distract himself during this time.

And as for you op, you get the hell out of there.

[Anonymous]

Just tell him that he has done nothing wrong. Repeat it over and over. Tell him that you love him and that daddy is going through a hard time. Again it has nothing to do with him. Let him know that you are not sure why daddy is not talking to him and that you understand why it would make him sad.

Get the hell out of there now. Do not look back.