Husband won't talk to me and our 4 yr old!

[Anonymous]

I'm convinced that it's it's us - mothers - that create this in our sons. We need to raise them to be self sufficient, not to depend on us. It's hard, we want to take care of them.....but for their benefit later in life, we need to teach them to be self reliant, and not to expect their partner to take care of them.

[Anonymous]

I believe this is real because my father did the exact same thing ALL THE TIME...probably didn't speak to me and my mom for about a third of my childhood. From a young age, I prayed all the time that she would leave him because it was so awful living with him. She never did...she died pretty young (I blame it on misery) and I haven't spoken to him in years.

[Anonymous]

OP please take half the money. I hope you have access to the account. Just transfer your half to your account right after you move out.

[Anonymous]

If your essential safety is not in danger, you might stay for a few months, either (1) to let your kid finish out the school year without having to deal with the divorce, (2) gather evidence to really nail him to the wall, and (3) figure a proper escape plan. A lawyer, the Women's Center (or similar group), etc., can help you figure the proper timing -- but you do have the luxury (as far as I've noticed) that he is not (yet) becoming violent -- just a big baby and a husband that is not really a helpmeet.

The important thing though is that you don't waver in your end goal or give him endless numbers of chances. The danger of course is that your husband will find out what you're doing so secrecy is essential -- three people can keep a secret only if two of them are dead. If you're someone who can't decide which tit to put in your bra first without consulting a friend, this isn't for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP please take half the money. I hope you have access to the account. Just transfer your half to your account right after you move out.

No, before she moves out so he can't take it

[Anonymous]

This makes me so sad for your son. I can't imagine my child having to beg her dad for love and attention. You husband is a dick and he is abusive. But honestly, YOU just make me mad. You are the mom, clearly this have been going on for awhile so that you means you are on the sidelines watching your husband metnally abuse your child. That makes you just as bad as he is. Get some backbone, and do the right thing by your child. I would rather live in a shelter with my kid then have her living with an abuser.

[Anonymous]

11:56 He has never been mean to DC. This is the first time (and the last).
He spends so much time with DC and is really good with him, but of course this clearly shows how selfish he can be and how much of a kid he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm convinced that it's it's us - mothers - that create this in our sons. We need to raise them to be self sufficient, not to depend on us. It's hard, we want to take care of them.....but for their benefit later in life, we need to teach them to be self reliant, and not to expect their partner to take care of them.

BULLSHIT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your essential safety is not in danger, you might stay for a few months, either (1) to let your kid finish out the school year without having to deal with the divorce, (2) gather evidence to really nail him to the wall, and (3) figure a proper escape plan. A lawyer, the Women's Center (or similar group), etc., can help you figure the proper timing -- but you do have the luxury (as far as I've noticed) that he is not (yet) becoming violent -- just a big baby and a husband that is not really a helpmeet.

The important thing though is that you don't waver in your end goal or give him endless numbers of chances. The danger of course is that your husband will find out what you're doing so secrecy is essential -- three people can keep a secret only if two of them are dead. If you're someone who can't decide which tit to put in your bra first without consulting a friend, this isn't for you.

this is abuse of this child.