DW's Affair

[Anonymous]

DW is having an affair. She denies it, I have BTDT and where there is smoke there is fire. She has plans to meet with her lover tomorrow. Do I tail her to see where they go and confront her there?

[Anonymous]

What's the point of confronting her, OP? What's your end goal? So you bust her, and she can't deny it. Then what? Where do you plan to go from there?

You cheated on her, now she's cheating on you. You should both get tested for STD's. And either re-commit to each other or admit defeat and begin the process of divorce.

[Anonymous]

wow, this is weird, my OW is coming to meet me tomorrow-coincidence?

[Anonymous]

Bitch slap her.

[Anonymous]

@12:15. This is the OP. Where did you get the idea I cheated on her? Sorry. No. As far as my goal, catch her in a flat out lie she can no longer tell. Then divorce her ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:@12:15. This is the OP. Where did you get the idea I cheated on her? Sorry. No. As far as my goal, catch her in a flat out lie she can no longer tell. Then divorce her ass.

we are not clear on the meaning of BTDT in your original post. it can be interpreted as if you have done so yourself, or that she has done it before, or that you have some other experience that is somehow relevant. please clarify your second sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:@12:15. This is the OP. Where did you get the idea I cheated on her? Sorry. No. As far as my goal, catch her in a flat out lie she can no longer tell. Then divorce her ass.

you said BTDT (been there DONE that).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:@12:15. This is the OP. Where did you get the idea I cheated on her? Sorry. No. As far as my goal, catch her in a flat out lie she can no longer tell. Then divorce her ass.

I got it from you saying BTDT.
If you want to divorce her, divorce her. Don't waste your energy on anger. You obviously don't love her, so divorce her, regardless of whether or not she's cheating on you. Just move on.

[Anonymous]

no. they are two people and you are alone, they can even make up something that you beat them up or something similar. just send an investigator to get evidence (photos or whatever) and then use the evidence when you divorce her ass (and the rest of her). and line up an attorney

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no. they are two people and you are alone, they can even make up something that you beat them up or something similar. just send an investigator to get evidence (photos or whatever) and then use the evidence when you divorce her ass (and the rest of her). and line up an attorney

+1 maybe video yourself. take pictures.

[Anonymous]

can you skype it? would be fun to watch her squirm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:wow, this is weird, my OW is coming to meet me tomorrow-coincidence?

Maybe you should cancel. It could get awkward.

[Anonymous]

You have two options
1. Tell her that you know she is having an affair and that you want to put your marriage back together. Offer to do it with her -- ie see a counselor
2. Decide it is over and start collecting evidence of her infidelity. Don't blindly tail her like an idiot. See an attorney and figure out how to do it right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the point of confronting her, OP? What's your end goal? So you bust her, and she can't deny it. Then what? Where do you plan to go from there?

This. Initiating a confrontation could get really ugly, especially if you don't know what you're hoping to get out of it. Before you do anything, sit down and think some things through. Assume she's cheating--do you for sure want a divorce? Would you be willing to reconcile if she broke it off and went to counseling? Etc.

[Anonymous]

I think OP meant beyond the doubt (BTDT) proof that his wife is cheating - not been there done that