Perfume is Unfashionable and Inconsiderate

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I love perfume but hate it when its overdone. I do plug ins and candles.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you resurrect this topic from 2021?

You’re insane if you think perfume is as bad as cigarette smoke. And I’m no fan of overly strong perfumes.

DP but to some of us it's just as bad. But I love how anyone with a different opinion from yours is "insane".

Really? You think saying perfume is as bad as cigarette smoke is a sane statement?

I think cigarette smoke is preferable to air freshener. Air freshener penetrates everything -- hair, clothing, coats, backpacks. It's cheap and nasty. Cigarette smoke is pleasant by comparison.

I don’t use air freshener and l can’t think of anyone else l know who does. Who uses it?

Literally everyone but you and me. And literally every office and classroom and bus doctor's office etc. It's everywhere. Literally.

I keep air freshener in the bathrooms. I don’t like the smell of feces or flatulence.

Don't you have a bathroom fan?

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not unfashionable. It can be inconsiderate in some circumstances (a group forced into a small room to work on a project) but not always. Plenty of people enjoy wearing it and smelling it on others.

Scent is as old as time.

Perfume has become unfashionable because no one can smell it anymore. The only smell is air freshener. How lovely.

I think you are among the few who find this an issue. I very rarely smell air freshener.

Ditto. There’s none in my office, house or friends houses

Yes there is. I guarantee it. Usually when people say they don't use it, they're lying. "Oh, THIS plug in? THAT'S AIR FRESHENER? Who knew???" etc. One of my kids had asthma when he was little so I became very familiar with this particular song and dance. Teachers putting carts in front of the plug-ins, even doctors use it. It's everywhere. Don't pretend you don't know that.

I’m not pretending. It really isn’t a thing in most of my life. Where do you live? I’m in DC and work in Alexandria.

Your sense of smell is wrecked so you can't smell it. it's everywhere. "We only use it in the bathroom/in the baby's room/by the dog bed/next to the kitchen trashcan." Everyone uses it.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not unfashionable. It can be inconsiderate in some circumstances (a group forced into a small room to work on a project) but not always. Plenty of people enjoy wearing it and smelling it on others.

Scent is as old as time.

Perfume has become unfashionable because no one can smell it anymore. The only smell is air freshener. How lovely.

I think you are among the few who find this an issue. I very rarely smell air freshener.

Ditto. There’s none in my office, house or friends houses

Or in any of my doctor’s offices or anywhere I go.

We just started with a new pediatrician. He's really great -- but his entire office smells like Febreeze. Not surprisingly, there was a can of Febreeze in the exam room. So stupid for a doctor to use that. You're kidding yourself if you think people aren't using it. They are.

So a doctor sees nothing wrong with using it but you do. Of course you do. Because everything is always about you.

What a stupid answer. Yes, my personal preferences are about me. Is that unusual? I'm supposed to enjoy air freshener because a doctor uses it? How absurd.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not unfashionable. It can be inconsiderate in some circumstances (a group forced into a small room to work on a project) but not always. Plenty of people enjoy wearing it and smelling it on others.

Scent is as old as time.

Perfume has become unfashionable because no one can smell it anymore. The only smell is air freshener. How lovely.

I think you are among the few who find this an issue. I very rarely smell air freshener.

Ditto. There’s none in my office, house or friends houses

Yes there is. I guarantee it. Usually when people say they don't use it, they're lying. "Oh, THIS plug in? THAT'S AIR FRESHENER? Who knew???" etc. One of my kids had asthma when he was little so I became very familiar with this particular song and dance. Teachers putting carts in front of the plug-ins, even doctors use it. It's everywhere. Don't pretend you don't know that.

I’m not pretending. It really isn’t a thing in most of my life. Where do you live? I’m in DC and work in Alexandria.

Your sense of smell is wrecked so you can't smell it. it's everywhere. "We only use it in the bathroom/in the baby's room/by the dog bed/next to the kitchen trashcan." Everyone uses it.

I think people who use plug ins use them everywhere, but otherwise they’re not that common, and I don’t like them at all, so I’m not defending them. I wonder if it’s a socioeconomic or cultural thing to find them more often in some places. My sense of smell isn’t wrecked at all; I can smell them on the people who swim in them in their houses.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not unfashionable. It can be inconsiderate in some circumstances (a group forced into a small room to work on a project) but not always. Plenty of people enjoy wearing it and smelling it on others.

Scent is as old as time.

Perfume has become unfashionable because no one can smell it anymore. The only smell is air freshener. How lovely.

I think you are among the few who find this an issue. I very rarely smell air freshener.

Ditto. There’s none in my office, house or friends houses

Yes there is. I guarantee it. Usually when people say they don't use it, they're lying. "Oh, THIS plug in? THAT'S AIR FRESHENER? Who knew???" etc. One of my kids had asthma when he was little so I became very familiar with this particular song and dance. Teachers putting carts in front of the plug-ins, even doctors use it. It's everywhere. Don't pretend you don't know that.

I’m not pretending. It really isn’t a thing in most of my life. Where do you live? I’m in DC and work in Alexandria.

Your sense of smell is wrecked so you can't smell it. it's everywhere. "We only use it in the bathroom/in the baby's room/by the dog bed/next to the kitchen trashcan." Everyone uses it.

I think people who use plug ins use them everywhere, but otherwise they’re not that common, and I don’t like them at all, so I’m not defending them. I wonder if it’s a socioeconomic or cultural thing to find them more often in some places. My sense of smell isn’t wrecked at all; I can smell them on the people who swim in them in their houses.

Another person who doesn't use them - not aware of anyone else who does either (parents, inlaws, siblings, friends, etc.) I only smell them in stores.

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Sorry, I will keep wearing a minuscule dab of J'Adore, or Poison, my two favorite perfumes. I have a very sensitive sense of smell and a tiny dab goes a very long way. Feel free to tell me that you can't stand the way I smell. I won't be offended, but I will keep doing something non-lethal that makes me happy.

Also, my son has anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and tree nuts, and I do not appreciate that people like you demand that others cater to their sensitivities when others need to carry Epipens for their lethal allergies and navigate potentially deadly situations, often daily, without making a big deal out of it. As a general rule, I've noticed that the people with the biggest burdens in life don't make the most noise.

People who object to strong scents are not necessarily objecting because they hate the smell. It can cause an asthmatic reaction in some people — so essentially, a deadly reaction. Strong scents (even ones I like) cause me to cough uncontrollably, to the point of throwing up, and rescue inhalers don’t always help. Certain scents are worse than others (I’m sure it has to do with the chemical make-up of it). The difference between a food allergy and a scent allergy is that scents are everywhere and you can’t really control them, whereas food is more easily controlled because they are most often effected (but not always) by ingestion.

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I had a woman at work ask me to stop wearing perfume because it was making her sick. I don’t wear perfume. So then she said, well it must be your shampoo, laundry detergent or your lotion and asked if I would mind changing those of things. I told her I would mind. She stopped speaking to me for like a year.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a woman at work ask me to stop wearing perfume because it was making her sick. I don’t wear perfume. So then she said, well it must be your shampoo, laundry detergent or your lotion and asked if I would mind changing those of things. I told her I would mind. She stopped speaking to me for like a year.

You smell bad to others, and you don't care.

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It is 2022. We know "fragrance" ingredient = chemicals. I only spritz perfume as a desperate measure maybe once a year if I don't smell good. Chemical perfumes are gross.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a woman at work ask me to stop wearing perfume because it was making her sick. I don’t wear perfume. So then she said, well it must be your shampoo, laundry detergent or your lotion and asked if I would mind changing those of things. I told her I would mind. She stopped speaking to me for like a year.

You smell bad to others, and you don't care.

Yes, that's weird. You smell horrible to officemates. If someone told me that, I'd change.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a woman at work ask me to stop wearing perfume because it was making her sick. I don’t wear perfume. So then she said, well it must be your shampoo, laundry detergent or your lotion and asked if I would mind changing those of things. I told her I would mind. She stopped speaking to me for like a year.

You smell bad to others, and you don't care.

Yes, that's weird. You smell horrible to officemates. If someone told me that, I'd change.

I just have to chime in here because I used to work at this office where one woman drenched herself in this vile musk scent. A formidable woman, I was easily over 100 yards from the office door and could smell the second she walked in. Everyone knew she reeked. She would also have a habit of bringing food to meetings where no one else was eating. She'd be shoveling some stinky slop into her gullet just marinating in her musky scent around a conference table in a small office with the door shut with 10 of us suffering her presence. Completely nose blind.

During my first trimester I had really bad morning sickness. Sure enough, she pulled out some sage/sausage hash thing and starts shoveling this greasy potato mess into her face during a meeting and I just lost it. Had to run out and vomit. I was really annoyed and went to HR about it. They didn't do anything for over a week so I told her myself. She would come over to my desk and chat with my coworker for sometimes an hour or longer. So I said something like, "hey, your fragrance is really irritating my morning sickness. Could you maybe have coworker go to your desk for chats?" She went to HR about my request. Something something discrimination. It was so bizarre and so poorly handled by that inept HR person that I quit.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a woman at work ask me to stop wearing perfume because it was making her sick. I don’t wear perfume. So then she said, well it must be your shampoo, laundry detergent or your lotion and asked if I would mind changing those of things. I told her I would mind. She stopped speaking to me for like a year.

You smell bad to others, and you don't care.

Yes, that's weird. You smell horrible to officemates. If someone told me that, I'd change.

I just have to chime in here because I used to work at this office where one woman drenched herself in this vile musk scent. A formidable woman, I was easily over 100 yards from the office door and could smell the second she walked in. Everyone knew she reeked. She would also have a habit of bringing food to meetings where no one else was eating. She'd be shoveling some stinky slop into her gullet just marinating in her musky scent around a conference table in a small office with the door shut with 10 of us suffering her presence. Completely nose blind.

During my first trimester I had really bad morning sickness. Sure enough, she pulled out some sage/sausage hash thing and starts shoveling this greasy potato mess into her face during a meeting and I just lost it. Had to run out and vomit. I was really annoyed and went to HR about it. They didn't do anything for over a week so I told her myself. She would come over to my desk and chat with my coworker for sometimes an hour or longer. So I said something like, "hey, your fragrance is really irritating my morning sickness. Could you maybe have coworker go to your desk for chats?" She went to HR about my request. Something something discrimination. It was so bizarre and so poorly handled by that inept HR person that I quit.

Because it’s your problem, not the problem of the person who smells you don’t agree with. You should have asked HR to move away from the person away the smells that were offending you. In my case, HR told her she had to move to a different area of the building since my smell was so offensive. She was pissed because she both wanted to stay where she was seated and dictate to me what laundry detergent and shampoo I should use. That’s not the way it works.

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Anonymous wrote:It is 2022. We know "fragrance" ingredient = chemicals. I only spritz perfume as a desperate measure maybe once a year if I don't smell good. Chemical perfumes are gross.

What do you mean by chemicals? You know water is a chemical, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I had a woman at work ask me to stop wearing perfume because it was making her sick. I don’t wear perfume. So then she said, well it must be your shampoo, laundry detergent or your lotion and asked if I would mind changing those of things. I told her I would mind. She stopped speaking to me for like a year.

You smell bad to others, and you don't care.

Yes, that's weird. You smell horrible to officemates. If someone told me that, I'd change.

I just have to chime in here because I used to work at this office where one woman drenched herself in this vile musk scent. A formidable woman, I was easily over 100 yards from the office door and could smell the second she walked in. Everyone knew she reeked. She would also have a habit of bringing food to meetings where no one else was eating. She'd be shoveling some stinky slop into her gullet just marinating in her musky scent around a conference table in a small office with the door shut with 10 of us suffering her presence. Completely nose blind.

During my first trimester I had really bad morning sickness. Sure enough, she pulled out some sage/sausage hash thing and starts shoveling this greasy potato mess into her face during a meeting and I just lost it. Had to run out and vomit. I was really annoyed and went to HR about it. They didn't do anything for over a week so I told her myself. She would come over to my desk and chat with my coworker for sometimes an hour or longer. So I said something like, "hey, your fragrance is really irritating my morning sickness. Could you maybe have coworker go to your desk for chats?" She went to HR about my request. Something something discrimination. It was so bizarre and so poorly handled by that inept HR person that I quit.

Wow you sound like a horrible nasty person. No wonder HR wasn’t more sympathetic.