Most players are genuinely supportive of one another. Unfortunately, it’s often the parents who unintentionally harm team morale. It's important to understand that when selections are made, it's not about saying one child isn’t talented—it’s often that another child was simply the better fit at that moment. These decisions are rarely easy for coaches, and most take them very seriously. When parents speak negatively, it can influence their children, who then bring that energy into the team environment. If a player continues to be selected despite this, the situation becomes difficult to manage and often beyond the coach’s control. It’s essential to trust the process and remember that we’re all here to support every child’s development—not just our own. |
From what I understand, there are a few complicating factors as it relates to the ARL 11s. Its an incredibly talented team, so there are a number of deserving players, with a variety of strengths. Yet the club has continued to send the same player to ALL of the opportunities (as an attacking player AND as a defender). Is she the better fit at all of these moments and at all positions as you suggest above? Perhaps. But with a team chock full of talent, its a little hard to believe. |
The parents on the ARLs 2011 may be part of the problem, but the club continuing to send the same player over and over again is bound to cause issues on a powerhouse team with a number of deserving players. Particularly one who now sees herself as better than the rest. |
The club doesn’t just automatically send her. She has to have the skill and talent necessary to be selected from scouts as well. She is honestly deserving of going. MD Parent |
I’m pretty close to this situation. PP is right. The resentment and frustration continue to grow within the team. Parents are worried about favoritism in college recruiting right around the corner. It could be nice either way the coaches and club could provide some feedback. |
This—-! Exactly! I see the same 3-4 players attacking & the Defender is almost every selection, what about the rest of the team? They don't deserve to be selected? |
| She seems to be the only 2011 from this area that got invited. None from VDA, Bethesda or Richmond even the one that made the national team listed did not make the list. |
Yeah, the club just sent a bench player to the last camp, over a number of consistent starters who haven't been given the opportunity. Don't be so sure. That said, no one has said she isn't a talented player. They HAVE said that there are a number of talented players on that team that are also deserving of going. |
| US scouts have had the chance to see all players that Arlington sent and they think this player is the best fit for what they're looking for. Doesn't mean the other player are not good or that the coaches are favoring her. No need for negativity, just be happy our area is getting more players noticed since the Northeast was quite underrepresented in this fall's 2011 USYNT Camp roster. |
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It’s a numbers game also; positionally she fits a need higher in the order of the rest. US soccer isn’t going to be force fed the same player this deep into the pool and scouting.
Also why would these parents be worried about college recruiting? They have USYNT experience. The club isn’t going to put all their resources into one player. That doesn’t remotely benefit the program. |
Probably because the right talented players have not gotten the opportunities and they keep sending the same players over and over again. |
No chance they sent a bench player. |
Arlington has sent at least 6 players to various camps/IDs. I know the team is good but do they really have 7-10 players who should be invited at some point? |
This is how Arlington works though. Board members, friends of board members, influential parents. This is how you get noticed. |
They absolutely sent a player who does not start to the last camp. Over a number of consistent starters who have not gotten a look. My neighbors kid is on that team. |