Disappointment
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Anonymous
She was in a few clubs and president of 2, but wasn't involved in any sports. This probably wasn't enough then? She did do a lot of volunteering out-of-school. |
Anonymous
I didn't grow up in the US so yes, I don't have the best grasp of these terms. I know that her school counselor is her college counselor, but they are also referred to as guidance counselors. I think you're the obtuse one here, sorry to say. |
Anonymous
Agree. OP’s DD reads to AO as smart kid but not one involved in her school other than to take classes and the 200 hours is nice, but there are kids doing 200+ each year so near 1000 hours by time applying. And with many schools still being TO this year, the SAT would not have been the advantage may have hoped for. Crazy for sure, but agree with others on here and especially the poster who said they were Ivy but their kid looked elsewhere even with similar stats to OP DD. Parents need to reset dream schools. |
Anonymous
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Harsh comments on this thread. Didn’t read them all
To the OP, I think college acceptances are a big farce. We pretend like if this child just had diff ECs or something else her outcomes would have been different. I know two kids admitted to Ivies this cycle that are very average (no leadership, hard working but not brilliant). Why were they admitted? Because they come from rural communities and are economically disadvantaged according to the college’s formula. That gave them the boost to get admitted. Kids from the DC region are on a whole other playing field. It really opened my eyes that admissions is a joke and we are pretending that our kids have some control over the process. |
Anonymous
People see VT's overall acceptance rate without realizing that it is a slaughterhouse for engineering for NOVA students. I would also consider Lehigh a reach RD. I know it's been said, but where is Case Western? This kid sounds perfect for Case and would have likely received a lot of merit. |
Anonymous
Oh, NO. Not the guidance counselor. Every FCPS high school has someone in charge of college stuff - they coordinate college rep visits, evening program for parents re: college admissions and financial aid, etc. A student can request an individual appointment. Amy info should have come from a daytime or evening program from this person or an individual meeting. Guidance counselors are often dumb f—ks. They are just focused on getting everyone graduated and are not at all college admissions experts. And no, I didn’t hire anyone. I just talked with other parents and read this board. |
Anonymous
| The real lesson here is to step back from the relentless competition that has taken over the college admissions process. The race to stack AP courses, launch nonprofits, start companies, conduct research, and publish books—often all before turning 18—has reached absurd levels. Let kids be kids. Let them enjoy their childhood and high school years without the crushing pressure to gain admission to ultra-selective colleges. In the end, their happiness and well-being matter far more than an acceptance letter. |
Anonymous
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OP I’m sure your kid is wonderful and hardworking and smart. If it makes you feel better, look up the bios of the kids who win the Coca Cola scholarships. You will not believe the list of things they’ve done over four years. Many of these are the MC/UMC kids getting admission to the schools everyone wants. That’s what your daughter competed against.
The uber wealthy of course are in a league of their own. Or look up the “stats/ECs” videos of the kids who post their Ivy acceptances on YouTube. Yeah, top schools throw a bone to first generation/low income occasionally so that their entire campus isn’t the same UMC/wealthy monolith it could be. There are just a lot of smart and hardworking kids competing for the same few spots. No need to dwell on what happened, just look forward on the bright future she has to come. |
Anonymous
There’s also a big difference between 200 hours at a women’s shelter and 200 hours at a hospital, which is self-serving for a pre-med student. |
Anonymous
Do you even know what obtuse means? |
Anonymous
You're just posting this so your kids have less competition |
Anonymous
100% agree with you Some of these parent-engineered and manufactured non-profits get great results to this day, unfortunately. There simply isn’t the time, money, nor inclination to verify claims. I am thinking of one (graduated already) person right now whose HS nonprofit has been scrubbed from their LinkedIn recently. |
Anonymous
Yes I do, and I was using it to referring to how quick you are to make assumptions and be nasty. That, to me, doesn't make someone the brightest of the bunch. |
Anonymous
Strongly agree. There is nothing wrong with OP’s profile. What’s wrong is a corrupt admissions process that favors rich people through ED, athletes and often legacies and more. No one should be so invested in affirming the current admissions process that they blame this child, especially with racist Asian stereotypes. OP’s kid will do great at any of the colleges she was accepted to. W&M and Pitt seem to have many happy students! OP, I suggest you have this thread locked and stop subjecting yoursef and your kid to these insults. |
Anonymous
+1 |