+1000 |
None of these women have jobs? That's the most shocking part of this. There are 15 SAHMs who can sit at a winery on a Friday socializing?
I don't know if there are mom cliques at our elementary. I'm friends with the moms in my neighborhood, some of whom also have kids at the same school, and some whom do not. But my main social outlet is not the other moms at my kid's school, so I guess I don't care if there is a clique. |
Unless OPs kids are twins in the same class, they are in different classes. "Most" of the moms are in her kids classes according to OP. So maybe 6 parents from one class, 6 parents from another class then a few other randoms. So out of potentially 50 families 12 people were invited. What's the problem? |
I just reread the first few pages, and I’m not seeing anything vicious. Maybe a little snarky and rude, but that’s the norm here. On the other side, we have posters calling the 15 anonymous women “b-witches,” “alcoholics” and “drinkers” simply for having the gall to get together, but I guess you’re ok with that. |
^^ “drunkies,” not drinkers. Of course they were all drinkers. |
A few posts, yes, but I've read the entire thread and even though I don't totally agree with OP's take on this situation, and really think she shouldn't have sent that text, I've wound up on her side because I do think people have been vicious to her. People have repeatedly called her delusional, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, etc. I did see the comments you are talking about but they are one off comments -- the people attacking (yes, attacking) OP have been relentless for over 20 pages. It is very weird and actually pretty ironic given the subject of the thread. I don't know that the women at the winery were a "clique," but I do feel comfortable saying some of the posters on this thread are mean-a$$ b***es. |
That’s because you’re a “b-witch.” |
Most SAHMs I know care for young children or older relatives, which is also work, and definitely rules out day drinking. Very odd that so many could gather for a grownups only activity. |
This is why people are going back and forth. ^ People like this PP can't handle a disagreement or see things differently and out come the personal attacks. People don't see this as a big deal and that OP didn't read the situation correctly. Even the mod said that. Apparently that's a huge problem for some posters. |
I also found this surprising. Especially if OP is right and it's a regular thing. I don't even work full time and I absolutely do not have the time to meet up with a bunch of other moms on a weekday for wine and apps. One, after one glass I would be asleep, or I'd have a headache for the rest of my day which would include doing daycare pickup, prepping dinner, debriefing on our days with my husband, dinner and bedtime with kids. I'd wind up punting a bunch of that to DH because I felt like crap, and he'd be annoyed because he works full time and would have just finished a 40+ hour week and resent also having to do dinner and bedtime on his own while I nursed a same-day hangover. Also, having worked in a place like a winery, I cannot tell you how annoying a group of 15 middle aged moms walking through the door at 1pm on a Friday would have been (I say that as a middle aged mom). They are probably going to be frustratingly demanding about everything from the content of the food to where they sit, they will linger for hours talking and take up a bunch of tables, but they will ultimately not eat or drink that much, and then because it's a large group it is highly likely they will undersestimate the tip (or they'll ask for like 10 different tabs and even then they might stiff you). I'd much rather have a bunch of 2 and 3 tops having one or two rounds and one app each during that same same period. I'd have to work hard but it would be more efficient and I'd make more money. |
+1 |
I knew this was Loudoun. I mean, not hard to decode by stopping by a winery on a Friday and bumping into a bunch of people you know, but also the mom clique vibes. Do these moms not work and you do? That's a big factor in the mom clique at our ES. |
So it's ok that OP is out at a winery on a Friday, but not these other women? Okey dokey. |
He also said: “The immediate reaction from those responding was not to share stories, but rather to attack the original poster.” “It is almost as if the entire DCUM had turned into a mom's clique and was determined to ostracize the original poster. The attacks on the original poster reached the point that they generated their own backlash.” “But the reaction of most of the posters, who appeared almost rabid in their eagerness to attack the original poster, was far more overdone.” “It appears that like fight clubs, the first rule of mom cliques is to not talk about mom cliques.” |
He should have come back after the toxic crowd called the people who didn't take OPs side every name in the book and even the requisite "I feel sorry for your husbands". Really, the pot calling the kettle black. |