For sure. Most men would gladly marry an unemployed women with MA in history than a masseuse with GED making $$$. |
I’m a woman and would rather marry a masseuse making $$$… well, if he was good at massages. |
If a man earns well, wife's earning isn't a deal breaker but education is. |
I probably wouldnt marry one but if I ever had an affair, its going to be with a good masseuse ... no conditions about age, gender, income, education or looks. |
If all of wife's income is being spent on clothing, shoes, bags, lunches, daycare, commute etc then no material gain but loss of lost of family harmony. It makes sense if two incomes are needed or its a high income or great career but otherwise its just a full time hobby. |
Your two choices are a bit over-the-top, as if a non masters-degree-holder is automatically a masseuse. In the middle are a lot of employed women I’d be interested in. |
Ok, that’s a good point. But there is one that I would marry. Technically he owns a luxury massage business that is pretty lucrative, but he also gives the most incredible massages. I wouldn’t care if he wanted me in his harem. Done! |
Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter. |
Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live. |
Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel. |
Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers. |
Sorry you didn't marry rich enough. |
There isn’t rich enough for me to give up my career, I love what I do. I would quickly give up a husband who didn’t support it, though. |
I'll bite. When I was single, broke up with a woman who had a college degree and was working behind the counter of an eyeglass place at a mall. Good looking, very nice person, insane in bed. But I could never get serious with someone who did not have ambition. We would eventually have nothing to talk about. Was not interested in a handmaid wife. |
What you don’t understand is at that high income level your husband supports whatever you want. You want to work, great. You want to do a hobby, great. You want to spend time with your children, great. But does he care what you do as long as you guys get along, no. |