DW loves machine more than I.
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Anonymous
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Not sure what has happened. DW has been getting off sexually without me for a while, like in the last year or so without me. I feel short changed when it comes to sex frequency and I find out that she'd rather get off on a vibrator instead of fulfilling my needs first. Im fine if she wants to do that, but if it comes at the cost of my own needs, seriously, I am starting to feel betrayed.
I have always been a nice husband, a great one in fact. Like when I do things that I think are normal, the other wives makes comments that they wish their husbands did the same. Not cruel, not whatever, so that can't be the reason I am turned away for the vibrator. I wish those things were never made. How do I bring things back to where she'd truly want me? Me: very fit, athletic, 6-pack abs, well kept and groomed. She does have sex with me just to keep things enough to get going, but its like she just wants it to be over. No intimacy pre or post sex. Its like do me now and quickly, no eye contact and get away and leave me alone. It makes me wonder if this can go on. Any advice for a solution? |
Anonymous
| Hi MSer! Long weekend with no homework, eh? |
Anonymous
OP here. What are you the poster child of mental illness? What does MSer mean? Care to translate "long weekend with no homework" statement in this context? |
Anonymous
She was saying you're a middle schooler posting a BS story. It's not an uncommon complaint. I don't understand why it's trollish. |
Anonymous
| I'm with PP; get back to your homework. |
Anonymous
| The "six-pack abs" is the troll tip-off. |
Anonymous
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Legitimate. Ask me anything. Why would a "MSer" as you put it ask this? They'd be asking questions in the sexual explicit thread. ...idiots....
So yes, I am asking a legitimate question...if you dont have an answer just dont post....pretty simple. |
Anonymous
| The few on here suck....Yes, I have a ripped physique, not bad for an early 40's man. Much worse is seen on much younger who happen to get more than I. The point is that the DW cant complain that I am letting myself go. |
Anonymous
| Well, "legit" OP, why do you think she is doing what you say she is doing? What advice would you tell someone who had the same complaint as you? |
Anonymous
| Have you just asked her why she likes the vibrator better and explained that you would like to make some changes in your current sexual patterns? I know that I can't orgasm from intercourse. Maybe she can't either and is using the vibrator to satisfy her own needs. She may think you are doing the same so there isn't a problem with your current frequency. If you have a problem with it, you have to speak up and tell her. |
Anonymous
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I wouldnt have any advice. Hence I am asking....
God....I clearly gave too much credit some people on this forum. |
Anonymous
| You clearly aren't satisfying her. Maybe you need to learn how to please her instead of it being all about you and your needs. Maybe she's tired of you thinking only about yourself. |
Anonymous
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Dude, have you talked to her????
"Honey, I've noticed that you seem disengaged with sex. My sense is that you just want it to be over so you an use the vibrator. What's going on? I want to hear what's going on for you." Then shut up and listen. |
Anonymous
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OP - Post on the Sex and Relationship Issues Forum:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/forums/show/43.page Good luck. |
Anonymous
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I...wonder....if.....it's......this...OP...
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/336230.page |