Are you more attracted to a man:
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Anonymous
| Who may not be considered "classically handsome" but he dresses very well or a schlub who is really handsome. |
Anonymous
| Attention to detail is a better attribute than looks, in my opinion. |
Anonymous
| I like a person who takes extra pride in their dress and hygiene more so than looks. |
Anonymous
Same here. |
Anonymous
| Someone with a good sense of humor. Suit or swim trunks and tank top, as long as it's clean. |
Anonymous
| Somewhere in between. I don't want a dude that takes a long time to get ready or,spend too much time/money on his looks. I think he would be high maintenance. I don't want somebody who is a slob. |
Anonymous
| Neither: confidence. |
Anonymous
| Good basic hygiene is pretty non-negotiable for me, but then the more important thing is the brain. Physical attraction (or lack thereof) is more a function of the intellectual attraction for me. |
Anonymous
so then how do women define confidence in a man? I'm curious as some women have said I'm confident because of X; other women say I'm arrogant because of the same X. |
Anonymous
| #2 can change, #1 is ugly |
Anonymous
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The classically handsome guy.
Certain things can be taught. Ugly is ugly. |
Anonymous
| Hahahha you pps crack me up! You are so right. Ugly will always be ugly. Slob can be taught how to dress and groom himself. |
Anonymous
| There's a balance. In my experience, guys who put too much effort into their appearance are self-centered |
Anonymous
| Teach a guy how to clean and dress himself?!? Aha! Now I know where all those women complaining about their husbands thinking that they are mommy came from! They thought they were getting a hottie with "potential" and they end up with a 5 year old in a 40 year old body. |
Anonymous
A confident person never needs to put anyone else down or belabor a point in a discussion. An arrogant person criticizes or argues because s/he knows (or thinks) they're correct. A confident person gives compliments to others. An arrogant person gives compliments to themselves and/or critiques the flaws of others. A confident person jokes good-naturedly and builds rapport by reading social cues, apologizing when they cross the line, and avoiding sensitive issues. An arrogant person "negs" or otherwise undermines people by exploiting their weaknesses for humor. A confident man adheres to traditional guidelines of chivalry. An arrogant man adheres to traditional expectations of male/female power dynamics. |