Are you more attracted to a man:

[Anonymous]

I will add that a confident man doesn't draw attention to X (job, money, facial features, body, etc). An arrogant man makes it a point to point out X

[Anonymous]

Hate arrogant people in general. "I'm so rich... I drive an expensive car..... I have a high prestige job.. look at my office, will all the photos of me and DC VIPs." Ugh. I'd take a nice guy who swings a hammer for a living over that any day.

[Anonymous]

Dresses well who is handsome but a great sense of humor or winning personality will trump all that any day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Neither: confidence.

so then how do women define confidence in a man? I'm curious as some women have said I'm confident because of X; other women say I'm arrogant because of the same X.

A confident person never needs to put anyone else down or belabor a point in a discussion.
. . . gives compliments to others . . . jokes good-naturedly and builds rapport by reading social cues, apologizing when they cross the line, and avoiding sensitive issues. . . adheres to traditional guidelines of chivalry.

. . . [and] embraces intimacy, reveals their true selves and exposes vulnerabilities.

So, to summarize: complimentary, jokey, holds doors open, and talks about his feelings but doesn't talk about things that might be regarded as offensive.

I'm willing to bet the loud asshole gets more blowjobs than the polite, nerdy guy who engages in all of those purportedly "confident" behaviors. The attraction women talk about often does not track well with the attraction they act upon.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, he probably gets more blow jobs, but the confident man ends up with a great partner.

I suppose we all have our own priorities. You want a lot of meaningless sex? Act like an arrogant asshole. Want a good woman who'll stand by your side (plus have hot sex with you)? Don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good basic hygiene is pretty non-negotiable for me, but then the more important thing is the brain. Physical attraction (or lack thereof) is more a function of the intellectual attraction for me.

+1

[Anonymous]

Lots of shallow women in this thread. I thought most were in the explicit forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of shallow women in this thread. I thought most were in the explicit forum.

and they wonder why they can't find happiness - the good men all run in the opposite direction when the crazies are out on the prowl.

[Anonymous]

Hygiene and decent dress is basic, but self-respect, good humor, good person, good ethics, intelligent as in thinks his own thoughts and doesn't just repeat conventional wisdom or PC, reads so you can talk about ideas. Bonus points for adventurous spirit.

Oh wait, that's my dh. aw yeah!

[Anonymous]

PP, you sound like you know what the right priorities are. Please tell me youre attractive.

[Anonymous]

@10:58. You needn't be an asshole to be confident and charismatic. Think Bill Clinton.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:@10:58. You needn't be an asshole to be confident and charismatic. Think Bill Clinton.

true...but then are you saying that women are just vapid whores who'll fall for smooth-talking married men?

[Anonymous]

Um. No. Women can spot an asshole Don Juan type a mile away. There's a very big difference between Don and Bill.

Women, or as you prefer to call us "vapid whores," may choose to engage with a Don for short term sexual pursuits.

In the long game, we're looking for a Bill. Not a married Bill, but definitely his type. Hillary chose well despite his indiscretions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um. No. Women can spot an asshole Don Juan type a mile away. There's a very big difference between Don and Bill.

Women, or as you prefer to call us "vapid whores," may choose to engage with a Don for short term sexual pursuits.

In the long game, we're looking for a Bill. Not a married Bill, but definitely his type. Hillary chose well despite his indiscretions.

don't doubt that women can spot the asshole a mile away, but they still end up with them and then cry woe is me later. so vapid whore may have been too strong, and naive, well that just doesn't capture the stupid behavior sufficiently. what do you suggest instead?

[Anonymous]

What stupid behavior do you speak of? Tired of seeing the hotties you want to bring home bed the douchebags?

How old are you?

This could be fun, seriously. Love playing matchmaker.