Are you more attracted to a man:

A confident person says hello. Smiles. Makes conversation. Engages with you. Cracks a joke. Seems genuinely interested in what you have to say. Finds common ground, common interests, to talk to you about.

Just being nice to me is enough to get my interest. I will give almost anyone a chance (can't be outright repulsive, sorry). I don't go for the guys who are leering. That's a big turn off.

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10/10/2013 20:32

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Anonymous wrote:A confident person says hello. Smiles. Makes conversation. Engages with you. Cracks a joke. Seems genuinely interested in what you have to say. Finds common ground, common interests, to talk to you about.

That is just good manners - the bare minimum - when you meet someone... Whether there is an interest or not.

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10/10/2013 20:34

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neither: confidence.

so then how do women define confidence in a man? I'm curious as some women have said I'm confident because of X; other women say I'm arrogant because of the same X.

A confident person never needs to put anyone else down or belabor a point in a discussion.
An arrogant person criticizes or argues because s/he knows (or thinks) they're correct.

A confident person gives compliments to others.
An arrogant person gives compliments to themselves and/or critiques the flaws of others.

A confident person jokes good-naturedly and builds rapport by reading social cues, apologizing when they cross the line, and avoiding sensitive issues.
An arrogant person "negs" or otherwise undermines people by exploiting their weaknesses for humor.

A confident man adheres to traditional guidelines of chivalry.
An arrogant man adheres to traditional expectations of male/female power dynamics.

Well stated. Super attracted to confident men. I will add...

A confident person embraces intimacy, reveals their true selves and exposes vulnerabilities.
An arrogant person is terrified of all the above, puts on airs, and excretes weaksauce.

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10/10/2013 20:58

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Anonymous wrote:Who may not be considered "classically handsome" but he dresses very well or a schlub who is really handsome.

#2 for sure.

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10/10/2013 20:59

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Anonymous wrote:The classically handsome guy.
Certain things can be taught.
Ugly is ugly.

You can't polish a turd.

Yes, you can.

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10/10/2013 22:26

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@Turd: Tri Lamda

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10/10/2013 22:38

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Depends on how you define schlub!

I don't really care about dress and I find the very well put together look pretty unattractive.

However I also find someone who wears dirty t-shirts and torn sweatpants everyday pretty unattractive.

I would take the hot guy over the well dressed guy as long as hot guy is clean, has good hygiene and can dress in basically socially acceptable ways!

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10/10/2013 23:10

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I'd take the handsome schlub. He needs to shower daily and wear clean clothes though. I don't mind beards either... they can look hot. I can help him dress up when the situation warrants it.

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10/11/2013 04:57

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When I was younger, it would have been the latter, but now that I have lived and learned and am older + wiser, it would have to be the former now.

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10/11/2013 08:21

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Anonymous wrote:When I was younger, it would have been the latter, but now that I have lived and learned and am older + wiser, it would have to be the former now.

Like you, I'm older, but only slightly wiser on some, but not all things. I too favor the latter, but now and then the former can be pleasant as well.