How many cycles of IVF before getting your BFP or giving up?

[Anonymous]

I am 5dp5dt and got yet another BFN on IVF #2.

I don't know what we do next.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is a classic and impossible question, given all the variables of age, eggs, biology, mother nature, etc...

Sadly, two failed cycles isn't all that much in the nightmare world of IF.

I'm sorry you haven't had success yet but it's still early. You probably have many other protocols to try (or donor options etc...)

Good luck!!!

[Anonymous]

Don't give up on this cycle yet. 5dp5dt is still very early. I was still only getting a squinter from the trigger at that point. Wasn't until 6dp5dt that it actually started getting darker and I started to produce HCG myself.

[Anonymous]

How old are you? What's your diagnosis? What's your embroy quality? Lots of things to think about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't give up on this cycle yet. 5dp5dt is still very early. I was still only getting a squinter from the trigger at that point. Wasn't until 6dp5dt that it actually started getting darker and I started to produce HCG myself.

Agree. It's way too early to give up on this one yet.

[Anonymous]

Two cycles isn't that many.

Three fresh, three frozen to get to my baby.

Only you can figure out what you're willing and able to do.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two cycles isn't that many.

Three fresh, three frozen to get to my baby.

Only you can figure out what you're willing and able to do.

Good luck.

Agree. We said we would do 4 going into it. That seemed my emotional max, but I know people who have done WAY more with many many miscarriages. I can't even imagine the pain. Yet... They have twin 5 year old girls now. I imagine much of that pain is a distant sight in the rear view mirror at this point.

I know it's all very personal, but in my opinion, if you want a baby, then you need to keep trying for a baby (one way or another.) doing nothing will never get you a baby, but each round of IVF "might" bring you a baby, DE "might" get you a baby, adoption "might" get you a baby, surrogacy "might" get you a baby. giving up for good is not going to get you a baby. Clearly, the emotional toll starts to wear on you and maybe a break for a specified time or trying another route might be in the cards.

Someone on the expectant moms thread posted interesting advice about a life event she was grappling with: she was told (and did) to look at your life and then fast forward it... 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years.... If you can really see a child free happy life in 10 years, then perhaps stopping though is the right approach for you?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who went through 12 cycles. 12. By the end they were using donor egg and sperm. Finally got pregnant with twins. 6 weeks after the twins were born, she got pregnant on her own...

We did one cycle and got lucky. But amongst my friends I have seen all kinds of things happen. You do what you can handle financially and they add in emotionally (usually it is one more cycle than what you thought emotionally you could do)

[Anonymous]

9 fresh IVFs and 1 frozen = 1 singleton baby and twins three years apart. Don't give up!

[Anonymous]

10 cycles here, iui/ivf/fet and yet no luck in getting a sibling for my DC (conceived after three iui). About to go in for de cycle ... Don't give up if you find yourself dreaming of a family!

[Anonymous]

5dpt is just too early to test--- you will not get accurate results.

[Anonymous]

3 ivf and 1 fet. 2 BFN, twins miscarried at 8 weeks, 13-month baby girl (with fet). Only you can decide when you have had enough. Good luck OP! I know how tough and draining it can be.

[Anonymous]

It's too early to test. Good luck and hope u get BFP this cycle itself. No good answer on when to move on. It depends on your emotional as well as financial strength. I have a lot of emotional strength and if possible could do a dozen cycles but my insurance doesn't cover me and I will have to either stop trying IVf maybe after 1 more cycle or will have to take a break to save money and try again.

[Anonymous]

#1 took two fresh IVFs. #2 took three FETs and a fresh IVF. Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

1 fresh IVF and 2 FETs. Fresh cycle was a BFN, 1st FET was a chemical, and we lost a twin (first trimester) with the second FET. We have three frozen embryos left for another try, and I've thought that would be my limit... but DH seems to think we should consider another fresh cycle again if we don't get pregnant with any of the FETs. Not sure how we'll afford that (zero insurance coverage for IVF), but we'll see what happens.