Sex on second date? -guys insight needed
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Anonymous
| I went on a first date w/ this guy last week, we hit it off, kissed ( a lot) at the end. I saw him again over the weekend, we had a pretty hot and heavy make out session and he wanted to have sex. I'm very attracted to him and want to have sex w/him but I think it's best we wait for a few more dates. I'm not looking for a sex only relationship. Should I be concerned that he's looking for a sex only relationship since he wanted to have sex? Am I over thinking this? |
Anonymous
| Just wait. It's more exciting that way. |
Anonymous
| guy here. its good that he is attracted, too early to tell where its going. |
Anonymous
| Earlier this summer I celebrated my 16th wedding anniversary with a guy I slept with on the second date. Just saying. |
Anonymous
| Wait at least six weeks/eight dates |
Anonymous
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No wait til like date 4 or 5... Def not the 3rd so you can see whether he is patient enough - it'll be a signal that he is invested if he keeps seeing you after not closing the deal at #3.
And anyway, you might break up on date 7 it two years down the road. You never know. So if you get caught up in the moment on the next date and do it anyway, don't worry about it 
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Anonymous
| Or two years^ |
Anonymous
| Bot get a clean bill of health. You never know where those sex organs have been. |
Anonymous
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Sleep with him if you want but don't use sex as a barometer of this interest. Sleep with him knowing it could be a one night stand for both of you. You don't have a relationship by the second date so neither of you owes the other anything, at this point it is just sex with two people who are mutually attraction. Sleeping with him isn't likely to be the factor that makes him decide if he wants a relationship with you or not.
If you are only thinking of this as a potential long term relationship then don't sleep with him on the second date. |
Anonymous
Op here- I'd be interested in more than just sexwith him, that's why I didn't sleep with him on date two. I'm wondering if he's only interested in sex? If a guy is thinking that he'd like to see a woman for more than sex, would he even suggest sex on date 2? |
Anonymous
Speaking as a man..if he's attracted to you and engaged in a "hot and heavy make out session" of course he's going to suggest sex! It's ok to make sure he's invested in you, but don't string him along. I'll second the pp's advice about date 4 or 5. |
Anonymous
| I slept with my fiancee on the third date. I think the rules that we've created regarding when it's appropriate to have sex are silly. If you want to do it, do it. If he wants to date you, he'll keep dating you, and as a bonus you get to have great sex. If he just wants sex, he'll stop wining and dining you, and you'll be able to spot it from a mile away. |
Anonymous
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M here. I have found that waiting for sex fuels the passion. But, the focus of the relationship and interest can be a desire to find out if "tonight is the night". On the other hand, once the relationship is consummated, we continue to grow as a couple, or fade away. It is possible for the hormones to delay the realization that you do not like the other person as a person, or have no mutual interests. (Because you two did have a mutual interest: sex).
So, if you sleep with him, the relationship will change, of course. But Horniness might not be the driving factor. |
Anonymous
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Why don't you try hanging out in ways that don't end up with you making out? Go to a ball game, hiking with friends, etc.
give him a chance to get to know you as a person. |
Anonymous
+1 |