You made the right decision.
Did he pressure you? If so, or if he acted really disappointed then he probably wants a booty call-type relationship only. If a man truly likes you, he will be willing to wait. Trust me on this. |
He didn't pressure me and is willing to wait. I think it's been a good amount of time since he has hadvsex & our " make out session" got him very aroused. I think he was bummed about not having sex but was ok w/it. If nothing else, we seem to have a lot of chemistry. We actually have a lot in common as well. |
Pp here that rec'd date 4 or 5 -- do a group date as your next one! |
Because you were making out heavily and he got all riled up. Yes it IS that simple. |
Op here- recd a text from him today and he's miffed that we didnt have sex. I made it clear that we weren't going to have sex that night, I thought it was too soon. We barely know each other and I'm not looking for a one night stand. I think he may be looking for sex. Better I find this out now rather than later.
I'll get torched for this but I'll say it anyways: MEN!!! Argh |
Oh wow, sorry OP. Getting a text that brings up the fact that you didn't have sex isn't a good sign. I was about to post telling you that my DH and I had sex on our first date, so IMO/E the "rules" are arbitrary and if a guy is interested in you, he will be interested regardless of whether and when you have sex ... but I know that if I had turned DH down he never would have brought it up again, certainly not in such a way as to convey that he was "miffed." It seems like you have a gut feeling about what is going on and you should go with that. |
He didn't come out and say he's miffed but between Friday and today he has made several references about how much pain and discomfort he was in due ti his arousal and not taking care of it. He said he had discomfort all weekend ? I realize that if a guy gets aroused and doesn't take care of it, it can be painful but all weekend but i thought if he went home and took care of it, hed be fine. i replied to his text today saying I'm sorry ( referring to his discomfort) and joked saying, no more heavy make out sessions in the car-haha. He replied , I really don't find it all that funny. And yes, he wanted to have sex in the car in a restaraunt parking lot. I'm no prude but I wasn't about to have sex w/a guy I just met, in the backseat of the car in the parking lot of a restaraunt. |
Move on Op, move on. |
For me this would be a red flag and a confirmation of my sound judgment in not having sex with him, because anyone who texted this to me would be filed under "Jerks." I would move on. |
Is he 14yo? Because he sounds like a teenager. |
See, this is why it's a good idea to wait to have sex. Sometimes it takes a while for a mans freaky or jerky sides to come out, and it is so much easier to move on if you haven't slept with him. |
Exactly! He sounds like he's a spoiled brat. Also, the first time I have sex with a guy, it's not going to be in the backseat of a car (unless, of course, it's Leo DiCaprio and we're on the Titanic). That he's so miffed shows what an immature dick he is. Full disclosure: I have had sex in the back of a car, in the cab of a truck, in the bed of a truck, in the barn, on a roof top and a whole bunch of other places - just not until a relationship has been established. |
PP....you sound like fun! |
I'm the OP and agree w/ all of you-he's an immature jerk. And, yes, major red flags for sure. I've slept w/guys on the first and second dates but I am so glad I didn't sleep w/ him!! And for the record, I have had sex in a car (front seat), and in the back of several SUV's but like a PP said, it was w/ people I ad an established sexual relationship with.
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+1,000,000 |