Are we ready for the Thanksgiving Vent thread?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This year I have my kids for thanksgiving. I’m not a holiday person, and overall hate cooking and cleaning, so usually for holidays we’ll just go out or get a pizza.

My new BF (who doesn’t have kids) grew up in a very broken family and later on foster care, so my holiday plan troubled him greatly. He likes the idea of the wholesome family during the holidays. So he said I can’t do pizza, don’t worry, he’ll handle thanksgiving dinner.

Then every night this week has talked about how stressed he is trying to plan dinner and asking me a million questions. Should we do ham or turkey? Should we cook or get it catered? Who should we buy it from? What do we do if it isn’t shipped in time?

Finally I was like omg, shut up, I’ll just handle it. So now here I am making a damn thanksgiving dinner I didn’t want to make so my BF can try to heal his childhood trauma.

And yes, I know I did this to myself.

At least on the plus side, I found a recipe for a one sheet pan thanksgiving dinner. So just a matter of sticking things on the pan over 3 hours. Hoping it’s not too difficult.

PP back with an update!

Thanksgiving went well. BF helped out - both with cooking and entertaining the kids. He took them out to the playground, and also made a run back to my house for some things I had forgotten. And he cleaned everything up so overall a very fair exchange, we were both pretty happy.

I *did* have to stop him from making Mac and cheese about 15 minutes before dinner was served. He said he was hungry, so he was going to cook up some Kraft, have a bite, and put it in the fridge before the kids noticed and wanted it instead of dinner. I was like nooooooo sir you will not make that Mac and cheese.

So what was your Thanksgiving meal and you say running back to your house? Where did you end up having Thanksgiving?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The most self-absorbed member of my family (there's competition, but I think everyone except this person's parents would agree) announced a pregnancy. The good news is that the parents-to-be are thrilled. The bad news is ::gestures at the egotist::

I can’t follow this…
The egotist announced someone else’s pregnancy and wanted to make it about herself?

The egotist is pregnant. The good news is that they’re happy to be expecting. The bad news is that it’s hard to imagine such a self-absorbed person will make a good parent. -NP

NP and … PP is awful. Congratulations to the expecting couple!

No. Some people shouldn’t be parents.

But the person who gets to judge and decide that is not the biased, jealous SIL. And yes, I can tell that’s a SIL who hates her brother’s wife and is dripping with jealousy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is such a petty vent. We were invited to a family friend's house for Thanksgiving. One of my favorite Thanksgiving foods is stuffing. These people put candied walnuts in their stuffing and I have a nut allergy. I may go buy some Stove Top tomorrow to have with my leftovers.

That's on you for not telling them about your nut allergy.

I don't expect people to change their menu because of my allergy. It's easy enough for me to avoid things with nuts. I was simply bummed I couldn't have the stuffing.

Nut allergy mom and aunt here, and also a hostess to someone who failed to tell me he was vegetarian because “he didn’t want to be a bother.”

Tell people. Offer to bring something. Tell them please make what you usually do, just let me know. And then they would be happy to accommodate you. What a dangerous game you are playing, one that is quite rude to your HOSTS.

Nah, it’s fine as long as the person in question doesn’t make a thing of it. Not everyone has to eat everything. I don’t like cranberries; I wouldn’t expect them to be excluded from the meal (or a different fruit included) just because I’m not going to eat them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The most self-absorbed member of my family (there's competition, but I think everyone except this person's parents would agree) announced a pregnancy. The good news is that the parents-to-be are thrilled. The bad news is ::gestures at the egotist::

I can’t follow this…
The egotist announced someone else’s pregnancy and wanted to make it about herself?

The egotist is pregnant. The good news is that they’re happy to be expecting. The bad news is that it’s hard to imagine such a self-absorbed person will make a good parent. -NP

NP and … PP is awful. Congratulations to the expecting couple!

No. Some people shouldn’t be parents.

But the person who gets to judge and decide that is not the biased, jealous SIL. And yes, I can tell that’s a SIL who hates her brother’s wife and is dripping with jealousy.

Me thinks you are bringing some of your own baggage to this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This year I have my kids for thanksgiving. I’m not a holiday person, and overall hate cooking and cleaning, so usually for holidays we’ll just go out or get a pizza.

My new BF (who doesn’t have kids) grew up in a very broken family and later on foster care, so my holiday plan troubled him greatly. He likes the idea of the wholesome family during the holidays. So he said I can’t do pizza, don’t worry, he’ll handle thanksgiving dinner.

Then every night this week has talked about how stressed he is trying to plan dinner and asking me a million questions. Should we do ham or turkey? Should we cook or get it catered? Who should we buy it from? What do we do if it isn’t shipped in time?

Finally I was like omg, shut up, I’ll just handle it. So now here I am making a damn thanksgiving dinner I didn’t want to make so my BF can try to heal his childhood trauma.

And yes, I know I did this to myself.

At least on the plus side, I found a recipe for a one sheet pan thanksgiving dinner. So just a matter of sticking things on the pan over 3 hours. Hoping it’s not too difficult.

PP back with an update!

Thanksgiving went well. BF helped out - both with cooking and entertaining the kids. He took them out to the playground, and also made a run back to my house for some things I had forgotten. And he cleaned everything up so overall a very fair exchange, we were both pretty happy.

I *did* have to stop him from making Mac and cheese about 15 minutes before dinner was served. He said he was hungry, so he was going to cook up some Kraft, have a bite, and put it in the fridge before the kids noticed and wanted it instead of dinner. I was like nooooooo sir you will not make that Mac and cheese.

So what was your Thanksgiving meal and you say running back to your house? Where did you end up having Thanksgiving?

We had it at his house! It’s much bigger than mine with a better kitchen and a ton of playground nearby, so we usually go there.

We did regular thanksgiving food - turkey, mashed potatoes, cranberries, stuffing, etc. I found a great one sheet pan recipe, so everything cooked on one pan. Overall pretty easy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most self-absorbed member of my family (there's competition, but I think everyone except this person's parents would agree) announced a pregnancy. The good news is that the parents-to-be are thrilled. The bad news is ::gestures at the egotist::

I can’t follow this…
The egotist announced someone else’s pregnancy and wanted to make it about herself?

The egotist is pregnant. The good news is that they’re happy to be expecting. The bad news is that it’s hard to imagine such a self-absorbed person will make a good parent. -NP

NP and … PP is awful. Congratulations to the expecting couple!

No. Some people shouldn’t be parents.

But the person who gets to judge and decide that is not the biased, jealous SIL. And yes, I can tell that’s a SIL who hates her brother’s wife and is dripping with jealousy.

Me thinks you are bringing some of your own baggage to this.

Sorry, I don’t even have a SIL. I have two BILs; my husband’s brother, and my sister’s husband. They’re both great, and so are their wives!

[Anonymous]

I am here for a steak tips update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This year I have my kids for thanksgiving. I’m not a holiday person, and overall hate cooking and cleaning, so usually for holidays we’ll just go out or get a pizza.

My new BF (who doesn’t have kids) grew up in a very broken family and later on foster care, so my holiday plan troubled him greatly. He likes the idea of the wholesome family during the holidays. So he said I can’t do pizza, don’t worry, he’ll handle thanksgiving dinner.

Then every night this week has talked about how stressed he is trying to plan dinner and asking me a million questions. Should we do ham or turkey? Should we cook or get it catered? Who should we buy it from? What do we do if it isn’t shipped in time?

Finally I was like omg, shut up, I’ll just handle it. So now here I am making a damn thanksgiving dinner I didn’t want to make so my BF can try to heal his childhood trauma.

And yes, I know I did this to myself.

At least on the plus side, I found a recipe for a one sheet pan thanksgiving dinner. So just a matter of sticking things on the pan over 3 hours. Hoping it’s not too difficult.

PP back with an update!

Thanksgiving went well. BF helped out - both with cooking and entertaining the kids. He took them out to the playground, and also made a run back to my house for some things I had forgotten. And he cleaned everything up so overall a very fair exchange, we were both pretty happy.

I *did* have to stop him from making Mac and cheese about 15 minutes before dinner was served. He said he was hungry, so he was going to cook up some Kraft, have a bite, and put it in the fridge before the kids noticed and wanted it instead of dinner. I was like nooooooo sir you will not make that Mac and cheese.

So what was your Thanksgiving meal and you say running back to your house? Where did you end up having Thanksgiving?

We had it at his house! It’s much bigger than mine with a better kitchen and a ton of playground nearby, so we usually go there.

We did regular thanksgiving food - turkey, mashed potatoes, cranberries, stuffing, etc. I found a great one sheet pan recipe, so everything cooked on one pan. Overall pretty easy.

Can you link to the sheet pan recipe? I was skeptical but if it worked out I might try sometime. We didn’t end up with leftovers and I could really go for some stuffing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This year I have my kids for thanksgiving. I’m not a holiday person, and overall hate cooking and cleaning, so usually for holidays we’ll just go out or get a pizza.

My new BF (who doesn’t have kids) grew up in a very broken family and later on foster care, so my holiday plan troubled him greatly. He likes the idea of the wholesome family during the holidays. So he said I can’t do pizza, don’t worry, he’ll handle thanksgiving dinner.

Then every night this week has talked about how stressed he is trying to plan dinner and asking me a million questions. Should we do ham or turkey? Should we cook or get it catered? Who should we buy it from? What do we do if it isn’t shipped in time?

Finally I was like omg, shut up, I’ll just handle it. So now here I am making a damn thanksgiving dinner I didn’t want to make so my BF can try to heal his childhood trauma.

And yes, I know I did this to myself.

At least on the plus side, I found a recipe for a one sheet pan thanksgiving dinner. So just a matter of sticking things on the pan over 3 hours. Hoping it’s not too difficult.

PP back with an update!

Thanksgiving went well. BF helped out - both with cooking and entertaining the kids. He took them out to the playground, and also made a run back to my house for some things I had forgotten. And he cleaned everything up so overall a very fair exchange, we were both pretty happy.

I *did* have to stop him from making Mac and cheese about 15 minutes before dinner was served. He said he was hungry, so he was going to cook up some Kraft, have a bite, and put it in the fridge before the kids noticed and wanted it instead of dinner. I was like nooooooo sir you will not make that Mac and cheese.

So what was your Thanksgiving meal and you say running back to your house? Where did you end up having Thanksgiving?

We had it at his house! It’s much bigger than mine with a better kitchen and a ton of playground nearby, so we usually go there.

We did regular thanksgiving food - turkey, mashed potatoes, cranberries, stuffing, etc. I found a great one sheet pan recipe, so everything cooked on one pan. Overall pretty easy.

Can you link to the sheet pan recipe? I was skeptical but if it worked out I might try sometime. We didn’t end up with leftovers and I could really go for some stuffing

Here ya go! https://www.anediblemosaic.com/small-thanksgiving-dinner-for-4-made-on-a-sheet-pan/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This year I have my kids for thanksgiving. I’m not a holiday person, and overall hate cooking and cleaning, so usually for holidays we’ll just go out or get a pizza.

My new BF (who doesn’t have kids) grew up in a very broken family and later on foster care, so my holiday plan troubled him greatly. He likes the idea of the wholesome family during the holidays. So he said I can’t do pizza, don’t worry, he’ll handle thanksgiving dinner.

Then every night this week has talked about how stressed he is trying to plan dinner and asking me a million questions. Should we do ham or turkey? Should we cook or get it catered? Who should we buy it from? What do we do if it isn’t shipped in time?

Finally I was like omg, shut up, I’ll just handle it. So now here I am making a damn thanksgiving dinner I didn’t want to make so my BF can try to heal his childhood trauma.

And yes, I know I did this to myself.

At least on the plus side, I found a recipe for a one sheet pan thanksgiving dinner. So just a matter of sticking things on the pan over 3 hours. Hoping it’s not too difficult.

I want to know the sheetpan recipe!

[Anonymous]

I’m happy for Sexy Sheetpan Mom! Sounds wonderful and maybe a traditional recipe for your family going forward? I bet your kids really, really enjoyed it all.

I, too, am waiting for breaking news on Steak Tips Luggage Guy. He’s either gonna wind up, blowing up one of the bathrooms or else he will be totally fine, which will be nice for him, but kind of annoying to the rest of us! 😄

[Anonymous]

I am also here for a Steak Tips update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This year I have my kids for thanksgiving. I’m not a holiday person, and overall hate cooking and cleaning, so usually for holidays we’ll just go out or get a pizza.

My new BF (who doesn’t have kids) grew up in a very broken family and later on foster care, so my holiday plan troubled him greatly. He likes the idea of the wholesome family during the holidays. So he said I can’t do pizza, don’t worry, he’ll handle thanksgiving dinner.

Then every night this week has talked about how stressed he is trying to plan dinner and asking me a million questions. Should we do ham or turkey? Should we cook or get it catered? Who should we buy it from? What do we do if it isn’t shipped in time?

Finally I was like omg, shut up, I’ll just handle it. So now here I am making a damn thanksgiving dinner I didn’t want to make so my BF can try to heal his childhood trauma.

And yes, I know I did this to myself.

At least on the plus side, I found a recipe for a one sheet pan thanksgiving dinner. So just a matter of sticking things on the pan over 3 hours. Hoping it’s not too difficult.

PP back with an update!

Thanksgiving went well. BF helped out - both with cooking and entertaining the kids. He took them out to the playground, and also made a run back to my house for some things I had forgotten. And he cleaned everything up so overall a very fair exchange, we were both pretty happy.

I *did* have to stop him from making Mac and cheese about 15 minutes before dinner was served. He said he was hungry, so he was going to cook up some Kraft, have a bite, and put it in the fridge before the kids noticed and wanted it instead of dinner. I was like nooooooo sir you will not make that Mac and cheese.

Listen yourself and see his actions. You have a 3rd child. I only say noooooo sir to my cats. Not even my 18 and 22 yo DSs.

Break up with him and buy a vibrator.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs sit in total silence. They speak to no one including their son and grandkids, unkess its answerin a question. Any and all socializing is torture for these people. I am indeed afraid that my kids have inherited this defect and as my husband ages he seems to be getting more like them.
My dad sits in blissful solitude because he "forgot" his hearing aids again.
My mom is telling my ILs various sob stories trying desperately to get a reaction or sympathy out of them. She will get nothing and end up tipsy on my deck, in tears, asking why I married into such a weird family.

They just want to be left alone! Why is your mother torturing them?! She can chit chat with someone else.

Introverted people like being at the fringes of the event, without engaging too much socially.

I would much rather have introverted people as guests than have people who cannot let a silence go unchallenged.

Sorry, that's just weird with FAMILY. I somewhat understand your point in other situations, but this is not normal.

I know it's not normal for you, but it's not something they can control. They're clearly on the autism spectrum.

OK and way to completely miss the point. Not sure how you can tell they are CLEARLY on the spectrum based on that short anecdote. No one is forcing the in laws to be there if they don't want to be. If you agree to the visit, you agree to some actual interaction. Otherwise just stay home (which is fine btw!)

[Anonymous]

Spending time with my mom is like being cross-examined. She asks question after question after question. When I ask about what's going on in her life, she gives one or two word answers. It feels less like a conversation and more like a demand that I entertain her.