DS given melatonin gummies as prank by “friends at sleepover

[Anonymous]

OP, please update. I am invested due to anger on your son’s behalf!!

[Anonymous]

Yes, they were likely secretly drugged with excess melatonin at sleepovers they do not attend (DS just does not like sleepovers, and we do not allow DD due to her having a significant medical issue that is preferably monitored at home), and I just never knew it. You've got me.



Why, then it is your kids' upbringing that is atypical.
Not OP's

My son is a rising sophomore. He goes on and hosts sleepovers (although he is a band kid, not a sports kid). He says that is not normal or typical at all. It's abnormal behavior, in addition to being awful. OP, really sorry this happened to your son. I hope he can find better and more trustworthy friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did the coach respond? I saw the parent responses, but am hoping to not have to weed through 20 pages.

OP has gone MIA - may have been a troll...

Jeff said this was not a troll.

I was wishing it was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I have socially awkward teen desperate for friends so I understand.

Bare minimum is that he need to get off that soccer team and find another one. He’s not safe around those kids and should never be around them.

If you can do that then I might consider not contacting the other parents.

Ugh…

He has practice tomorrow and has told me he’s going to pretend it didn’t happen. I haven’t gotten a chance to really talk to DH about it but I do think we are done with this soccer team.

He’s played since he was 6 but this is a newer team he started in last year.

What? Do not send him to practice until you have figured out your response (eg, is he staying on the team? If not, why woukd he ever go back?) and talked to the host parents if not others. Sending him to practice is conceding this was NBD.

We aren’t sending him to soccer.

He’s upset and embarrassed by the entire situation. Yes, he knows it’s not his fault but he is hurt. I don’t want to hurt him more.

We are contacting parents and have gotten mixed reactions. But most likely no soccer this summer. Finding an alternative that will make DS happy.

Honest to God how can the reactions be mixed?! If I was a parent of one of the other kids I'd be utterly horrified and my kid would be off to therapy/off the team/off to volunteer somewhere.

Like was said upthread, this can be a formative age and how you/we react can have long-lasting implications.

I mean they raised kids who would do this. It doesn’t surprise me.

OP, this is so hard. You’re doing everything right. So many people are rooting for you - I wonder if maybe showing your son some of the responses might help?

[Anonymous]

Police report. That's not the same as hiring a lawyer and suing, but it gives you documentation that you may need if you end up deciding to change schools - it give you some weight behind a request to change public schools or to get out of a private school contract, if the school doesn't take this very, very seriously and put protections in place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Police report. That's not the same as hiring a lawyer and suing, but it gives you documentation that you may need if you end up deciding to change schools - it give you some weight behind a request to change public schools or to get out of a private school contract, if the school doesn't take this very, very seriously and put protections in place.

I agree with this 100 percent.
- school system employee

[Anonymous]

OP, how is it going?

[Anonymous]

If this happened to my kid those kids would be facing criminal charges faster than you can blink. They could have killed him or seriously injured him. What they did was incredibly cruel and dangerous, is a form of assault and poisoning, and deserved every inch of punishment the law will allow.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP - any update?

We did find out some of this was uploaded to TikTok so we had to escalate our reactions a bit. Coaches have been great as have a few parents. So we feel mostly supported.


We’re getting it all figured out and I appreciate the feedback.

I can’t believe how calm you are. OP were you bullied yourself? I would have hired a lawyer yesterday and done everything in my power to get those kids a criminal record, and every school, sports and social stigma and consequence available. They are bad people and their age has no bearing. They deserve consequences.

[Anonymous]

You could call them and say that the hospital advised you to contact all of the parents from the sleepover since your son obviously ingested a drug while there and should seek medical treatment if they show similar symptoms..... You can say they suspect it was melatonin gummies. That way you're not the one having to ride it out. You're doing what the hospital has advised you to do. You can even tell your dear son. That's what the hospital has asked you to do to make sure no one else was injured.

[Anonymous]

Thinking of your son Op and hope he is doing okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did the coach respond? I saw the parent responses, but am hoping to not have to weed through 20 pages.

OP has gone MIA - may have been a troll...

Jeff said this was not a troll.

I was wishing it was.

do you mean it's not sock puppeting? Because he could not know if someone is just making up a story.

[Anonymous]

^This.

I hope it's not true.

If it is, just so awful. I'd be working on changing schools for the fall. Switch publics or go private, maybe Catholic school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^This.

I hope it's not true.

If it is, just so awful. I'd be working on changing schools for the fall. Switch publics or go private, maybe Catholic school.

There are, unfortunately, awful children at many schools. Catholic schools included.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^This.

I hope it's not true.

If it is, just so awful. I'd be working on changing schools for the fall. Switch publics or go private, maybe Catholic school.

There are, unfortunately, awful children at many schools. Catholic schools included.

Agree. I think what happened is horrible, but I'm not shocked by it.