DS given melatonin gummies as prank by “friends at sleepover

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Holy ****.

I have an 8 year old, and this whole thread is just making me dread 5 years from now.

Good luck, OP. I’m glad you’ve found some supportive parents and I’m glad the coach is on your side.

Also, props to *you* for ignoring the trolls and naysayers on this thread

It's a bad situation for sure, but the reason it stands out is that it is not something typical. I have a 16 year old and a 14 year old, and neither have encountered anything like this.

Sorry this happened, OP.

That you know of. Let's just say it is not atypical. Boys and girls at this age often do risky things and some of the most popular ones can have some sociopath tendencies. Add social media to the mix and it's pretty toxic.

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Holy ****.

I have an 8 year old, and this whole thread is just making me dread 5 years from now.

Good luck, OP. I’m glad you’ve found some supportive parents and I’m glad the coach is on your side.

Also, props to *you* for ignoring the trolls and naysayers on this thread

It's a bad situation for sure, but the reason it stands out is that it is not something typical. I have a 16 year old and a 14 year old, and neither have encountered anything like this.

Sorry this happened, OP.

You have NO IDEA what your 14 and 16yr olds have encountered. You just like to think you do

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Anonymous wrote:Np. I am so sorry this happened. My thoughts:

1. Tell the school. I’m no longer in DMV but at our public kids can be disciplined for activities that take place outside school. They may be able to help determine whether anything has been uploaded to social media.

You also don’t want your kid to have any classes with these boys and they should have different lunch periods.

2. Tell the coach. He has a problem on his team and needs to know.

3. Tell the parents. I like the idea of a group email to all of them. You shouldn’t have to send 14 separate emails.

4. Help for your son: therapist to process the incident and confirm it was not his fault. Also, to increase confidence so he learns that these guys are not his friends and that he should not aspire to be friends with him.

Good luck and please keep us posted. Your kid sounds awesome and he does not need to hang out with these jerks.

This is unnecessary and very likely impossible.

Restraining order

At that point it’s easier to switch schools.

Only 5 of the kids go to the same school as DS. He has his own friends at school outside these boys.

But these boys (soccer boys) are of a higher social status and could make DS life hell if the wish. He knows that.

When will this social status crap end. They already made his life miserable. He needs to make friends with the football, hockey and lacrosse players if your concern is them bullying him. Soccer isn’t exactly known for, well, anything in the US except children’s activities. Maybe a new sport would help.

Oh, he is in track too. He’s a so-so soccer player on a so-so team but he’s very talented as a long distance runner. Obviously also not a super respected sport, but he truly excels.

This is such a weird comment.

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OP I’m beginning to think you’re a troll or a bored teenager obsessed with social status. If you are not, then please stop trying to decide what’s respected or not, what’s where in a social hierarchy, etc. It’s not clear if your son plays hs soccer or just club. Regardless he should drop both since he doesn’t sound great and his team is not adding anything to his life. Instead put him in hs cross country (same season as soccer anyways), indoor and outdoor track.

I also suspect OP is a troll. Don't most soccer leagues end the season in May?

I suspect your not very bright. I think you and PP are the trolls. Can’t anyone just come on here and ask for support or advice without everyone trying to be a modern Sherlock Holmes and find flaws and pick it apart. Even if soccer ended in May who gives a F? My kids play on teams that ended in May and they all still get together over the summer as a team for things like this. Honestly, you can really see the adults here who probably spawned the very same kinds of kids who do stuff like this to others.

But they had practice yesterday

This does seem suspect. All of the kids are done, except the ones going to championships. This means there’s a very narrow set of kids this could be. OP if your son is on the team I’m guessing he’s on, that culture is highly toxic.

Or this is fabricated, the more likely scenario.

Could be, but when I post about my kids, I always change details. So maybe it’s not soccer or whatever details may not be exact but it may have actually happened. I could see it happening. Kids have melatonin at home and are absolutely being mean and bullies but dont think it’s as serious as a “real drug”.

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Are the cops involved?

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Anonymous wrote:Some teams practice year round. My son's club has soccer camp right now and then evening practices starting in July twice a week. It's definitely plausible that teams are still practicing.

Same for my son's club. There is literally only one week in June that they have fully "off" otherwise, there's always something.
It's also possible that OP said soccer for a bit of anonymity, but it's another sport like lacrosse. Either way it's awful was happened to her child and it's not worth him being part of the "cool kids".

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Anonymous wrote:Oof. While I empathize with your DS I feel like you have to tell the parents what happened. What those boys did was dangerous.

This. What if they had given him or someone else something that made them overdose?
You need to tell the parents.

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If someone drugged my kid I would be following that up w/ Fire and Brimstone. This is exactly the group think and dumb actions that lead to HS and College kids dying. I can guarantee there would not be a kid, parent, nor coach from that team that was not clear about how NOT FUNNY this situation was nor how me and my family feel about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read all the responses but as a parent active in my kids’ soccer club, this is hazing and a Safe Sport violation that should be reported.

https://uscenterforsafesport.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Hazing-Trifold.pdf

Good point. We called the coach but haven’t gotten a response yet. Assistant coach has been helpful and says it will be taken very seriously.

As a coach myself this was my first thought as well. This absolutely should be reported to and taken very seriously the team and the league. It is a form of bully and hazing and should never occur.

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It's a bad situation for sure, but the reason it stands out is that it is not something typical. I have a 16 year old and a 14 year old, and neither have encountered anything like this.

Sorry this happened, OP.


You have NO IDEA what your 14 and 16yr olds have encountered. You just like to think you do

Yes, they were likely secretly drugged with excess melatonin at sleepovers they do not attend (DS just does not like sleepovers, and we do not allow DD due to her having a significant medical issue that is preferably monitored at home), and I just never knew it. You've got me.

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It's a bad situation for sure, but the reason it stands out is that it is not something typical. I have a 16 year old and a 14 year old, and neither have encountered anything like this.

Sorry this happened, OP.


You have NO IDEA what your 14 and 16yr olds have encountered. You just like to think you do

Yes, they were likely secretly drugged with excess melatonin at sleepovers they do not attend (DS just does not like sleepovers, and we do not allow DD due to her having a significant medical issue that is preferably monitored at home), and I just never knew it. You've got me.

Why, then it is your kids' upbringing that is atypical.
Not OP's

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Anonymous wrote:Oof. While I empathize with your DS I feel like you have to tell the parents what happened. What those boys did was dangerous.

This. What if they had given him or someone else something that made them overdose?
You need to tell the parents.

Catch up. OP *did* tell parents and coach.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - any update?

We did find out some of this was uploaded to TikTok so we had to escalate our reactions a bit. Coaches have been great as have a few parents. So we feel mostly supported.


We’re getting it all figured out and I appreciate the feedback.

A bit? I’d go to the police if I had evidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Holy ****.

I have an 8 year old, and this whole thread is just making me dread 5 years from now.

Good luck, OP. I’m glad you’ve found some supportive parents and I’m glad the coach is on your side.

Also, props to *you* for ignoring the trolls and naysayers on this thread

It's a bad situation for sure, but the reason it stands out is that it is not something typical. I have a 16 year old and a 14 year old, and neither have encountered anything like this.

Sorry this happened, OP.

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I have 2 boys now playing in college (and multiple sports prior to college) and have never heard or seen anything like this before. Clearly it happens, but not routinely. OP and her son were just very unlucky.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell parents.
Find another soccer team.
Depending on parents reaction, share with current soccer team coach why you are leaving.

I think that since the boys are underage, you need to tell their parents. What they did was dangerous and their behavior may escalate if not checked hard now. I'd find your son a different social environment. Ideally, maybe he could change to a different school but certainly to a different soccer league. Being pranked this way can have long-term ramifications on your child. Maybe ask your pediatrician for advice? Also, could your son see a counselor or therapist to discuss what's going on socially? I'm really sorry that this happened to your child. It must have been very embarrassing to be singled out and made fun of this way. My heart goes out to him. I hope that you can reassure him and find a better group of young people for him to hang out with. Sometimes schools/teams are just not a good fit and the best thing is to move your child to a different environment and start over. I've known several families who have moved teens to different schools because similar things were happening to them where they were.

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Can we talk about the writing on his face?? The gummies were the most dangerous part, but writing on the face wins the prize for bullying and cruelty.

I’m so sorry, OP.