New observation: Men now want high earning women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly successful men don’t care about their partner’s earning potential. My DH has told me he doesn’t care if I ever work again. He’s worked hard to get where he is and is very proud that his children and I are set up for life if anything should ever happen.

so not true.

True. not pp but my DH has told me the same thing. Earns high 7 figures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly successful men don’t care about their partner’s earning potential. My DH has told me he doesn’t care if I ever work again. He’s worked hard to get where he is and is very proud that his children and I are set up for life if anything should ever happen.

so not true.

+1. Maybe you mean financially ambitious men. Presumably when you were dating he was not as financially successful as he is now. The problem is that not all men who are financially ambitious actually end up that way. The ambition needs to come from a man who is well educated with excellent work experience. And chances are, those men are married to equally well educated women, i.e. associative mating. There are also a lot of successful, high earning men who are proud of their equally accomplished wives, who chose not to stay at home and have impressive careers in their own right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly successful men don’t care about their partner’s earning potential. My DH has told me he doesn’t care if I ever work again. He’s worked hard to get where he is and is very proud that his children and I are set up for life if anything should ever happen.

so not true.

+1. Maybe you mean financially ambitious men. Presumably when you were dating he was not as financially successful as he is now. The problem is that not all men who are financially ambitious actually end up that way. The ambition needs to come from a man who is well educated with excellent work experience. And chances are, those men are married to equally well educated women, i.e. associative mating. There are also a lot of successful, high earning men who are proud of their equally accomplished wives, who chose not to stay at home and have impressive careers in their own right.

Whatever fits your narrative. It’s obvious you won’t quit despite studies to the contrary.

[Anonymous]

I wish we’d stop trying to empower women with the “You can do it all”

The biggest scam is someone trying to sell you this mindset and lead you into a depression when you realize that it’s hard AF and you feel like a failure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish we’d stop trying to empower women with the “You can do it all”

The biggest scam is someone trying to sell you this mindset and lead you into a depression when you realize that it’s hard AF and you feel like a failure.

The problem is that a lot of women have experienced the benefits of having what was traditionally a man’s job. Personally I like the high salary and retirement savings. The salary provides me with a sense of freedom I won’t have if I earn $0.

Fortunately, my spouse does 50/50 and I’m happy. Even if I weren’t, it wouldn’t be worth giving up my career and earnings because I do more chores than my husband. Young kids is a short period of time and will pass. Dropping out of the workforce can have long lasting effects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly successful men don’t care about their partner’s earning potential. My DH has told me he doesn’t care if I ever work again. He’s worked hard to get where he is and is very proud that his children and I are set up for life if anything should ever happen.

so not true.

+1. Maybe you mean financially ambitious men. Presumably when you were dating he was not as financially successful as he is now. The problem is that not all men who are financially ambitious actually end up that way. The ambition needs to come from a man who is well educated with excellent work experience. And chances are, those men are married to equally well educated women, i.e. associative mating. There are also a lot of successful, high earning men who are proud of their equally accomplished wives, who chose not to stay at home and have impressive careers in their own right.

I met my high earning spouse in grad school. I earned more than him when he got married. I am sure he would not have been attracted to a woman who had no goals and wanted to be a stay at home mom. Then we had three kids and we decided together that my staying home would be best for our family.

[Anonymous]

I know plenty of high earning woman who are just stupid people. Have zero desire to be with a stupid person no matter what her income is. Persons income has never crossed my mind when considering long term possibilities with a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly successful men don’t care about their partner’s earning potential. My DH has told me he doesn’t care if I ever work again. He’s worked hard to get where he is and is very proud that his children and I are set up for life if anything should ever happen.

so not true.

+1. Maybe you mean financially ambitious men. Presumably when you were dating he was not as financially successful as he is now. The problem is that not all men who are financially ambitious actually end up that way. The ambition needs to come from a man who is well educated with excellent work experience. And chances are, those men are married to equally well educated women, i.e. associative mating. There are also a lot of successful, high earning men who are proud of their equally accomplished wives, who chose not to stay at home and have impressive careers in their own right.

I met my high earning spouse in grad school. I earned more than him when he got married. I am sure he would not have been attracted to a woman who had no goals and wanted to be a stay at home mom. Then we had three kids and we decided together that my staying home would be best for our family.

Oh again. You are a prime example of a woman whose DH did not care about her high income potential. He didn’t leave you once you stopped earning did he? Understand he married you despite your income, not because.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly successful men don’t care about their partner’s earning potential. My DH has told me he doesn’t care if I ever work again. He’s worked hard to get where he is and is very proud that his children and I are set up for life if anything should ever happen.

so not true.

+1. Maybe you mean financially ambitious men. Presumably when you were dating he was not as financially successful as he is now. The problem is that not all men who are financially ambitious actually end up that way. The ambition needs to come from a man who is well educated with excellent work experience. And chances are, those men are married to equally well educated women, i.e. associative mating. There are also a lot of successful, high earning men who are proud of their equally accomplished wives, who chose not to stay at home and have impressive careers in their own right.

I met my high earning spouse in grad school. I earned more than him when he got married. I am sure he would not have been attracted to a woman who had no goals and wanted to be a stay at home mom. Then we had three kids and we decided together that my staying home would be best for our family.

Oh again. You are a prime example of a woman whose DH did not care about her high income potential. He didn’t leave you once you stopped earning did he? Understand he married you despite your income, not because.

And so much for goals and being a stay at home mom because you actually are one. Own it.