What happens in college? I'm constantly worried about DS' future
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Anonymous
| For those parents whose kids have an IEP, are you worried about college? Ds is still in the process of being diagnosed but it appears he has something similar to dyslexia. It's not quite dyslexia so we don't have a diagnosis yet, but their have been talks about having DS record everything, from the classroom to having someone read him his assignments. Then he will.have separate help for reading. I know there is a.chance he may learn to deal with it and not need as much assistance, but I'm constantly worried about his future. He cant go to college if he's unable to read.well (he can read very slowly, but has trouble then discussing what he's read) and what about a future job? I know, I probably sound crazy but DH and I are both avid readers and fairly successful. Ugh. I wish there was more support for the parents |
Anonymous
| Sorry for typos. On phone and exhausted from 3 month old (so probably hormonal too). Ds is in 4th grade. |
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Why college? Get him training in plumbing/elect/heat a/c/ real estate.
He can be on the path of getting rich while the other morons are in psychology class! |
Anonymous
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^^^^ my ac guy just charged 10k to replace attic a/c.
Mr college graduate taken to the cleaners again!! His wife is smokin too. |
Anonymous
Op here. Haha true. My brother is an electrician and he used to tease me about student loans and being broke in college and a couple of years after. We live in one of "those" towns where if you don't go to a good college you're a failure. I grew up in a town like that and so also nervous about how DS is going to be treated. But, I know I can't have that attitude because he will pick up on.it |
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There is tons of technology that will be able to help him. In this day and age, there is no reason a child with an LD should not go to college if he has the smarts. Text to speech and speech to text, word prediction- Read OutLoud, Write Outloud, DragonNaturally Speaking, Kurzwiel, Cowriter, Inspiration.... Look at wrightslaw.com to help you navigate the 504 and IEP world.
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Don't sweat it. I have hella learning disabilities that I was never treated for. I'm a legal secretary with no degree, who earns $70k.
My cousin has no learning disabilities, was in AP classes in high school, made honor roll and sometimes high honor roll, has a bachelors and a masters, and works as a news anchor and earns almost $60k. It really CAN work out, in many different ways. |
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Colleges are starting to understand kids need support.
http://academicsupport.georgetown.edu/disability/ It's a worry but give him the support to be ready for college and find him the right fit. |
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I work as a college prof and had two students last year with pretty severe dyslexia. Two very different experiences primarily due to the attitude of the student.
One attributed any constructive criticism and feedback as unfair and as being picked on because she had a disability. She was very vocal in her self-advocacy and was obviously used to pulling the 'dyslexia' card (you are victimizing me, you are picking on me) and being allowed to slide through without meeting the expectations. Had she focused more on her learning and less on her dyslexia she might have done fine however she couldn't do so and she was unsuccessful in my course. I know 100% she believes the only reason she was unsuccessful was because I was not accommodating and picked on her. The other student was the opposite. She came to me privately and told me what would help her learn and be successful in my class. We met a few times throughout the course to touch base and so I could adapt for her as needed. She worked hard and never used her dyslexia as an excuse. In one situation I gave a pop quiz and doing that was impossible for her and so afterwards we redid the quiz orally. She advocated for herself in a mature manner without assigning blame to anyone or anything. She took feedback given to her and acted on it. She accessed supports and services available to her and was very successful in the course. |
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Op here. Thank you so much pps. Ds had some reading issues since the beginning, but we didn't realize the full extent until last year and spent last year misdiagnosed (partly because DS didnt want to tell us his difficulties and had kind of learned his own way to get stuff done ). He actually is a pretty good student.
He seems pretty open to getting the help he needs because he wants to be "normal" (which broke my heart). But thank you all again. I will try to stop worrying about this |
Anonymous
As a parent, I like hearing this. Thank you for understanding that children with disabilities don't need free handouts or get unfair advantages when they ask for the accommodations they need to be successful. Success is still in their court. Plus, thank you for treating each student as an individual. |
Anonymous
| OP, I share your concerns. My IEP kid is now in 7th grade and I feel HS and college looming ahead. I have looked and there are a lot of options for kids now. Colleges are getting the message that kids are coming with IEPs and starting programs to work with them and provide support. My current obsession is the DeSousa-Brent Scholars at St. Mary's in Maryland. |
Anonymous
When is your child supposed to learn that life, employers and the real world isn't going to provide accommodations? At what point do all of these accommodations hinder the child instead of help prepare the child for life ahead? |
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I worry about this too with my 8-year old dyslexic son. I take some comfort though that he is slowly and steadily making progress on learning how to read. I hope it is like the tortoise and the hare where by age 18 he can read at the level necessary to succeed in society (but he will probably always be a slow reader). Because it is such hard work for him, he is really learning perseverance and he has a lot of grit. Furthermore, he is personable (where my other kids were bookish) and he is learning to ask a lot of questions if he doesn't understand something. Finally, like a lot of dyslexics, this kid is creative and he is developing good critical thinking skills.
I hope all of those things will make college possible. If not, he will have the full support of his parents in whatever he decides to do. |
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Please go back to general parenting. There are plenty of jobs out there that do not simulate learning in a classroom. I know several dyslexics who got accommodations and now have successful high powered careers. They wouldn't be there if they hadn't gotten through school. I'm really tired of snots like you who know nothing about this issues coming here and sputtering your nonsense. |