Do you plan on telling your children that you were married before?

[Anonymous]

My children were born with my second marriage. I don't know if I will tell them I was married before. What would you do, my kids are still young.

[Anonymous]

Good question. I don't know. No one currently in my life besides my family and my current husband know that I was married before briefly, years ago. I rarely even think of it myself. I wouldn't want to hide it from my kids, but I can't imagine how it will come up naturally either.

[Anonymous]

I agree... I don't have any relics of my first marriage (save my journals) so not sure it will even be a topic of conversation. My kids are toddlers though. Maybe when they are older and starting to form relationships I may mention my first marriage and why it didn't work. Good question OP. Sorry this isn't more helpful!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't lie to them. An astonishing number of public records are available through websites such as Ancestry.com. Even if your kids aren't looking for it your marriage and divorce info may turn up in some future genealogical research. My sister turned up some shocking info about our father's family that he had hidden from us. It destroyed our trust in anything else he ever told us about his family and made us wonder what else he has lied to us about.

[Anonymous]

Hmm. I'm not sure. I wouldn't try to hide it, but I don't think I'd volunteer the info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good question. I don't know. No one currently in my life besides my family and my current husband know that I was married before briefly, years ago. I rarely even think of it myself. I wouldn't want to hide it from my kids, but I can't imagine how it will come up naturally either.

Kids use the Internets.

[Anonymous]

Definitely tell them - secrets are never a good idea and this one truly isn't a big deal. I told my kids when they were old enough to understand - maybe 7 or 8. They were disappointed to learn there were no secret siblings. . Otherwise, aside from a few questions, my brief first marriage was not a major issue for them.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe that you would consider keeping this from them.

[Anonymous]

why would you keep it quiet? I don't understand. It is a part of your life.

[Anonymous]

My kids are 8 and 11. I haven't told them yet. I'm sure some day I will, but it just hasn't seemed relevant to this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good question. I don't know. No one currently in my life besides my family and my current husband know that I was married before briefly, years ago. I rarely even think of it myself. I wouldn't want to hide it from my kids, but I can't imagine how it will come up naturally either.

Kids use the Internets.

There is no record of my marriage that could be turned up by Googling.

[Anonymous]

Tell them. I found out when I was in high school that my mother was married before and actually had step-children in that marriage. Fifteen years later, she still doesn't know that I know! I would have loved for her to have opened up and talked to me about it. I've given her ample opportunities and dropped hints, but I guess she prefers to keep up a certain image.

[Anonymous]

Good question. I don't know. No one currently in my life besides my family and my current husband know that I was married before briefly, years ago. I rarely even think of it myself. I wouldn't want to hide it from my kids, but I can't imagine how it will come up naturally either.

This is me exactly. I *never* think of it, him, etc. It literally almost never comes up. I had a friend who got a little mad when she found out, and I had to laugh. It just never had come up naturally.

I will probably tell DC at around 7 or 8, but won't make a big deal. B/c it wasn't a big deal...

[Anonymous]

Wanna bet?

We found out my grandfather was married for less than a year in the early 1930s online.

There's more online than you realize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good question. I don't know. No one currently in my life besides my family and my current husband know that I was married before briefly, years ago. I rarely even think of it myself. I wouldn't want to hide it from my kids, but I can't imagine how it will come up naturally either.

Kids use the Internets.

There is no record of my marriage that could be turned up by Googling.

I should add that I'm not considering hiding it, but I don't think they would figure it out on their own.