Help!!! 1st day of 3-day potty=disaster!

[Anonymous]

Started 1st day of 3 day potty training with 2.2 year old today and it was a disaster.
I know some will say that is young, but the instruction claims this age is actually ideal for this method.
My husband and I feel like we are in Potty Purgatory - we stayed in all day, kept the TV off and blocked ourselves with her in the kitchen/dining room where there is no carpet or upholstered furniture. We kept her entertained all day with lots of activities, but we also cleaned up pee every hour.
DD was excited this morning to say goodbye to her diapers and pull-ups and run around the house naked all day.
She has happily guzzled water all day and pee'd at least a dozen times...9 of which were on the floor (at least it's not carpet).
The morning was OK, she pooped in the potty once because I saw the look on her face and whisked her right to the potty. Then she pee'd on the floor a few times but we got her to the potty about halfway through a few of them.
After her nap it has been downhill fast. It seems she is fully aware that she is peeing on the floor and I think she sometimes does it intentionally. A few hours ago I asked her if she needed to go, she told me no and then looked right at me while she pee'd on the floor less than a minute later. The one time she did pee on the potty was when I happened to persuade her to sit for a few minutes while we read a story. I know you are supposed to wait until they tell you they have to go, but that doesn't seem to be happening. She is perfectly content will going on the floor or even in her highchair at dinner. When I ask her if she is going to try to pee on the potty next time she says yes. When I ask her if she is going to pee on the floor, she says yes. Uhg.
We give her an M&M when she goes, and have been practicing over the last couple of weeks, she even goes a daycare a few times per week. But she only goes when she happens to be on the potty, she has never once advised that she has to go. She is aware when she goes, protests diapers and can pull up/down her own pants.
Either she doesn't recognize the sensation in time to get to the potty, or she is not happy about this and peeing on the floor intentionally.
Is this normal for day one? When will she start sitting on the potty intentionally not because she started to go on the floor and Mommy whisked her over to the potty.

[Anonymous]

she sounds too young - she's not getting it at all and seems like she peed in the potty by accident.

[Anonymous]

Too young. Just try again later.

[Anonymous]

Too young. Put the potty away.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if your daughter is too young or not, but my Day 1 with 3 yo DS was a nightmare. At least 10 pee accidents (some on carpet, and once on the couch!) and not once did he to in his potty. But evening of Day 1, DH managed to convince him to sit there for 45 mins until be finally peed, and from the on he turned a corner. Maybe only 2 or 3 accidents the next day, and by a week later, he was pretty well potty trained. (At home at least; public toilets came much later.)

I would see what tomorrow brings. If it's as bad as today, I would pull the plug on potty training for now.

Also, no TV? I think you are torturing yourself a bit too much! If we are stuck inside the house, a little tv can go a long way to prevent craziness. I wouldn't confine ourselves to such a small space and nix TV...that's just too much!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like torture for you and not much fun for her. What's the point? Let it go until she's older and it's easier.

[Anonymous]

Waited until 3rd birthday for both ds and dd. Got it right away.

[Anonymous]

Keep trying. Mine was fully trained at 26 months. Didn't use a potty though...regular toilet.

[Anonymous]

Potty training doesn't take 3 days, but she is not too young. I trained both of my kids by 2. It was a process that took a few months. It did not involve the dramatic good bye to diapers that you have to do with a late trainer (3+). Just start teaching her how to use the toilet and take her in there a lot, etc. She'll get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Waited until 3rd birthday for both ds and dd. Got it right away.

Bike riding at 7! Reading at 8! Swimming at 9! It will all be a breeze!

[Anonymous]

DS PT at 2.5, without showing any interest at all. We did 3 day, almost exactly by the guide.

Day 1, every pee and poop was in his underwear/on the floor.

Day 2, 1 pee ended up in the potty.

Day 3, we had one accident.

Day 4, he was a pro.

Day 5, he went to school in underwear only without a single accident.

I vote to hang in there. Magic happened on day 3.

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna guess that the PPs saying this obviously means your kid is "not ready" have not actually done the 3 day, cold turkey method, but either way, here are my thoughts:

-day 1 is supposed to be a disaster of sorts. i would not even evaluate whether it's working or not before the end of day 3 - if your kid is having less than a 75% success rate at the end of it, then i'd give it a rest for a couple months. til then, power through. you've already done the hardest part, giving up now would be such a waste.
-which 3 day method are you using? I used the one outlined on the Baby Center which says not to even ask if they want to go potty - the answer is always no. Just keep them naked from the waist down with a potty in the room - they have to learn to seat themselves there when it's time to go.
-don't forget to take your kid to the potty with you when you go. if she wants to roam around the bathroom while you do your thing, that's fine. but she should get it see you role modeling and have the opportunity to copy you. keep this up all weekend.

[Anonymous]

To me, you are doing a couple things wrong. First off, do not treat her with candy. This is not necessary and a horrible habit. She is not a dog. Do not let her guzzle a bunch of water. There is no need to increase her water intake. Allow her to drink the amount she normally drinks. Do not ask her if she wants to pee, tell her it is time to pee. If I asked my 6 year old if he has to pee, he will always say no and never go. A simple, go to the bathroom and he pees a huge stream. Put her on the potty every 30 minutes to a hour. Praise her for going. Allow her to watch you go to the bathroom, if you feel comfortable with it. It also may just come down to her not being ready yet. With her diapers, when you changed her, was she normally dry most diaper changes? If not, she is not ready. Did she tell you when she pooped in her diaper? If not, probably not ready.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the support! Just what I needed to get up tomorrow and keep trying.
I read the baby center 3-day and varied slightly on a few things today - not intentionally - out of frustration.
Tonight I forked out the $24 for the other 3day Ebook. There are some good tips in there that I will try to incorporate tomorrow. The message consistent in both is be patient, stay the course and let her tell me she has to go.
Here's hoping I am 1/3 through the hardest part!

[Anonymous]

I would try tomorrow and possibly Monday, but if there is no significant progress, I would stop and try again when she is 2.5. Otherwise I think you will be looking at a lot of accidents.

Good luck!