Help!!! 1st day of 3-day potty=disaster!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Started 1st day of 3 day potty training with 2.2 year old today and it was a disaster.
I know some will say that is young, but the instruction claims this age is actually ideal for this method.
My husband and I feel like we are in Potty Purgatory - we stayed in all day, kept the TV off and blocked ourselves with her in the kitchen/dining room where there is no carpet or upholstered furniture. We kept her entertained all day with lots of activities, but we also cleaned up pee every hour.
DD was excited this morning to say goodbye to her diapers and pull-ups and run around the house naked all day.
She has happily guzzled water all day and pee'd at least a dozen times...9 of which were on the floor (at least it's not carpet).
The morning was OK, she pooped in the potty once because I saw the look on her face and whisked her right to the potty. Then she pee'd on the floor a few times but we got her to the potty about halfway through a few of them.
After her nap it has been downhill fast. It seems she is fully aware that she is peeing on the floor and I think she sometimes does it intentionally. A few hours ago I asked her if she needed to go, she told me no and then looked right at me while she pee'd on the floor less than a minute later. The one time she did pee on the potty was when I happened to persuade her to sit for a few minutes while we read a story. I know you are supposed to wait until they tell you they have to go, but that doesn't seem to be happening. She is perfectly content will going on the floor or even in her highchair at dinner. When I ask her if she is going to try to pee on the potty next time she says yes. When I ask her if she is going to pee on the floor, she says yes. Uhg.
We give her an M&M when she goes, and have been practicing over the last couple of weeks, she even goes a daycare a few times per week. But she only goes when she happens to be on the potty, she has never once advised that she has to go. She is aware when she goes, protests diapers and can pull up/down her own pants.
Either she doesn't recognize the sensation in time to get to the potty, or she is not happy about this and peeing on the floor intentionally.
Is this normal for day one? When will she start sitting on the potty intentionally not because she started to go on the floor and Mommy whisked her over to the potty.


I would hope you would know by now but kids haven't read the instruction manual. Your child is an individual. If she doesn't get it in a few days, start again when she is older. No big deal. When they are ready, they will get it quickly.

[Anonymous]

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At 2.2 years old (whatever that means...just say newly turned 2 year old) it is really really really really hard for a child to A) recognized/acknowldedg the full bladder sensation B) recognize the need to allow time to get the potty C) connect A and B

It is asking A LOt in a small amount of time. Is there a reason you are rushing it so much??? Just like any learned activity it takes time. Did you make your child walk everyday when she was still crawling too? And given your experience you might need to change your strategy. Or wait a little bit. Try again in another 3 months or so (when your child is 2.5 years old).

I agree with the first part. I don't agree with the second part. If you wait until a child can do A, B, and C, the child may be in diapers for a long time, when alternatively the parent could just put the child on the potty regularly. I suppose it's true that the child isn't truly toilet-trained until the child can do it all by itself (say, by first grade), but I didn't really care if the child was "truly toilet-trained"; my goal was to get the child out of diapers.

Huh???? Most preKers are potty trained. 1st grade? Do you have or had a child going through potty training?

There were a few kids who didn't make it to the bathroom in time, in both my kids' first grades, even though the bathroom was right there in the classroom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

At 2.2 years old (whatever that means...just say newly turned 2 year old) it is really really really really hard for a child to A) recognized/acknowldedg the full bladder sensation B) recognize the need to allow time to get the potty C) connect A and B

It is asking A LOt in a small amount of time. Is there a reason you are rushing it so much??? Just like any learned activity it takes time. Did you make your child walk everyday when she was still crawling too? And given your experience you might need to change your strategy. Or wait a little bit. Try again in another 3 months or so (when your child is 2.5 years old).

I agree with the first part. I don't agree with the second part. If you wait until a child can do A, B, and C, the child may be in diapers for a long time, when alternatively the parent could just put the child on the potty regularly. I suppose it's true that the child isn't truly toilet-trained until the child can do it all by itself (say, by first grade), but I didn't really care if the child was "truly toilet-trained"; my goal was to get the child out of diapers.

Huh???? Most preKers are potty trained. 1st grade? Do you have or had a child going through potty training?

There were a few kids who didn't make it to the bathroom in time, in both my kids' first grades, even though the bathroom was right there in the classroom.

Having an accident at age six doesn't mean the kid isn't potty trained in the way a toddler isn't potty trained. That's like saying having a car accident after 15 years of driving means you don't know how to drive a car in the way a 10 year old doesn't know how to drive a car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Despite what the book says, your DD is too young. Try again in a couple months.

I don't understand how anybody can conclude that the child is too young based on one day.

[Anonymous]

OP, here is how potty training went for my kid. For many months, we offered opportunities to sit on the toilet. Sometimes he did, sometimes he didn't. Sometimes he went, sometimes he didn't. As time went by, he started occasionally asking to go and more often than not, telling us when he needed a new diaper. At 3 yrs, 2 mos, we put him in underpants and explained he needed to tell us when he had to go to the bathroom. We asked/reminded maybe 3 times that day, but generally, he asked to go. He had one accident. So the next day we went out and he had one accident out of the house but none at home. That was two months ago and no accidents since. Not one. Sure, some people will say I am disgusting and lazy and every other terrible thing, but personally I thought it made more sense to wait until my child could actually be potty trained rather than sit him on the potty every 30 minutes just to get him out of diapers. That's not potty trained. If you wait until they are ready, it is very easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, here is how potty training went for my kid. For many months, we offered opportunities to sit on the toilet. Sometimes he did, sometimes he didn't. Sometimes he went, sometimes he didn't. As time went by, he started occasionally asking to go and more often than not, telling us when he needed a new diaper. At 3 yrs, 2 mos, we put him in underpants and explained he needed to tell us when he had to go to the bathroom. We asked/reminded maybe 3 times that day, but generally, he asked to go. He had one accident. So the next day we went out and he had one accident out of the house but none at home. That was two months ago and no accidents since. Not one. Sure, some people will say I am disgusting and lazy and every other terrible thing, but personally I thought it made more sense to wait until my child could actually be potty trained rather than sit him on the potty every 30 minutes just to get him out of diapers. That's not potty trained. If you wait until they are ready, it is very easy.

I think it depends on how you define "potty trained". I'm guessing PP defines "potty trained" as being able to use the potty reliably and independently and without reminders or accidents. If so, then PP has higher standards than I do. My definition of "potty trained" is being out of diapers.

[Anonymous]

I ditched the diapers a few months shy of my son's 3rd birthday. It wasn't until 9 months later that he started going to the bathroom on his own without me telling him to. So, to me, being potty trained is not simply "being out of diapers."