Help!!! 1st day of 3-day potty=disaster!

[Anonymous]

Get your nose out of the damn books and actually assess your child. You'll realize that she is not ready.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Waited until 3rd birthday for both ds and dd. Got it right away.

Bike riding at 7! Reading at 8! Swimming at 9! It will all be a breeze!

Ahh, actually it's reading at 4, biking AND swimming at 7 and Nobel Prize at 15.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, you are doing a couple things wrong. First off, do not treat her with candy. This is not necessary and a horrible habit. She is not a dog. Do not let her guzzle a bunch of water. There is no need to increase her water intake. Allow her to drink the amount she normally drinks. Do not ask her if she wants to pee, tell her it is time to pee. If I asked my 6 year old if he has to pee, he will always say no and never go. A simple, go to the bathroom and he pees a huge stream. Put her on the potty every 30 minutes to a hour. Praise her for going. Allow her to watch you go to the bathroom, if you feel comfortable with it. It also may just come down to her not being ready yet. With her diapers, when you changed her, was she normally dry most diaper changes? If not, she is not ready. Did she tell you when she pooped in her diaper? If not, probably not ready.

Pretty much the exact opposite of the 3 day potty training method, so.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me, you are doing a couple things wrong. First off, do not treat her with candy. This is not necessary and a horrible habit. She is not a dog. Do not let her guzzle a bunch of water. There is no need to increase her water intake. Allow her to drink the amount she normally drinks. Do not ask her if she wants to pee, tell her it is time to pee. If I asked my 6 year old if he has to pee, he will always say no and never go. A simple, go to the bathroom and he pees a huge stream. Put her on the potty every 30 minutes to a hour. Praise her for going. Allow her to watch you go to the bathroom, if you feel comfortable with it. It also may just come down to her not being ready yet. With her diapers, when you changed her, was she normally dry most diaper changes? If not, she is not ready. Did she tell you when she pooped in her diaper? If not, probably not ready.

Pretty much the exact opposite of the 3 day potty training method, so.....

Yeah why would you do this? No one goes to the bathroom every 30-60 minutes and no one should train their child to do this. You want your kid to recognize the feeling and signals of a full bladder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Waited until 3rd birthday for both ds and dd. Got it right away.

Bike riding at 7! Reading at 8! Swimming at 9! It will all be a breeze!

Um yeah, pretty much. Not those specific ages, but I potty trained my child the same way I did other things. I gave him lots of opportunities to see how other people did something,and waited until he showed interest and signs that he was ready. With him in the lead he picked things up super fast.

Somethings came very early -- he swam at 2. Some things were right on schedule -- potty training in 24 hours right around his 3rd birthday, bike riding in about 20 minutes at age 6, and some things were on the late side -- he learned his letters in a week while we were on a family vacation the summer before Kindergarten. Whatever. He's headed off to college, and I can assure you that he swims, and pees, and rides a bike, and reads as skillfully as kids who parents pushed them to do these things early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Started 1st day of 3 day potty training with 2.2 year old today and it was a disaster.
I know some will say that is young, but the instruction claims this age is actually ideal for this method.
My husband and I feel like we are in Potty Purgatory - we stayed in all day, kept the TV off and blocked ourselves with her in the kitchen/dining room where there is no carpet or upholstered furniture. We kept her entertained all day with lots of activities, but we also cleaned up pee every hour.
DD was excited this morning to say goodbye to her diapers and pull-ups and run around the house naked all day.
She has happily guzzled water all day and pee'd at least a dozen times...9 of which were on the floor (at least it's not carpet).
The morning was OK, she pooped in the potty once because I saw the look on her face and whisked her right to the potty. Then she pee'd on the floor a few times but we got her to the potty about halfway through a few of them.
After her nap it has been downhill fast. It seems she is fully aware that she is peeing on the floor and I think she sometimes does it intentionally. A few hours ago I asked her if she needed to go, she told me no and then looked right at me while she pee'd on the floor less than a minute later. The one time she did pee on the potty was when I happened to persuade her to sit for a few minutes while we read a story. I know you are supposed to wait until they tell you they have to go, but that doesn't seem to be happening. She is perfectly content will going on the floor or even in her highchair at dinner. When I ask her if she is going to try to pee on the potty next time she says yes. When I ask her if she is going to pee on the floor, she says yes. Uhg.
We give her an M&M when she goes, and have been practicing over the last couple of weeks, she even goes a daycare a few times per week. But she only goes when she happens to be on the potty, she has never once advised that she has to go. She is aware when she goes, protests diapers and can pull up/down her own pants.
Either she doesn't recognize the sensation in time to get to the potty, or she is not happy about this and peeing on the floor intentionally.
Is this normal for day one? When will she start sitting on the potty intentionally not because she started to go on the floor and Mommy whisked her over to the potty.

At 2.2 years old (whatever that means...just say newly turned 2 year old) it is really really really really hard for a child to A) recognized/acknowldedg the full bladder sensation B) recognize the need to allow time to get the potty C) connect A and B

It is asking A LOt in a small amount of time. Is there a reason you are rushing it so much??? Just like any learned activity it takes time. Did you make your child walk everyday when she was still crawling too? And given your experience you might need to change your strategy. Or wait a little bit. Try again in another 3 months or so (when your child is 2.5 years old).

[Anonymous]

Have her sit in the potty and "try" regularly throughout the day. I trained my DDs easily before they were 2.5 but that first day was a tough one until they made that connection about what it felt like to release on the potty.

Try it for a few days before you let others tell you she's not ready. Lots of folks claim their kids aren't ready when in truth they are just too lazy to try training them! If she's truly not, you can back off and try again in a month or two.

[Anonymous]

If you find yourself getting frustrated again tomorrow, and feeling like your toddler is peeing on the floor "on purpose", I would put it aside for a while.

It usually is pretty easy close to the 3rd birthday (for my son and daughter, it was between 2 years, 9 months and the 3rd birthday). It's fast, and not stressful. And it's one of the more ridiculous things to turn into a competition (over the age at which your child is potty trained).

[Anonymous]

I would try leaving underwear on her. Yes she will pee in them but it probably won't feel good....that helped with our son. He was about 6 months older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

At 2.2 years old (whatever that means...just say newly turned 2 year old) it is really really really really hard for a child to A) recognized/acknowldedg the full bladder sensation B) recognize the need to allow time to get the potty C) connect A and B

It is asking A LOt in a small amount of time. Is there a reason you are rushing it so much??? Just like any learned activity it takes time. Did you make your child walk everyday when she was still crawling too? And given your experience you might need to change your strategy. Or wait a little bit. Try again in another 3 months or so (when your child is 2.5 years old).

I agree with the first part. I don't agree with the second part. If you wait until a child can do A, B, and C, the child may be in diapers for a long time, when alternatively the parent could just put the child on the potty regularly. I suppose it's true that the child isn't truly toilet-trained until the child can do it all by itself (say, by first grade), but I didn't really care if the child was "truly toilet-trained"; my goal was to get the child out of diapers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

At 2.2 years old (whatever that means...just say newly turned 2 year old) it is really really really really hard for a child to A) recognized/acknowldedg the full bladder sensation B) recognize the need to allow time to get the potty C) connect A and B

It is asking A LOt in a small amount of time. Is there a reason you are rushing it so much??? Just like any learned activity it takes time. Did you make your child walk everyday when she was still crawling too? And given your experience you might need to change your strategy. Or wait a little bit. Try again in another 3 months or so (when your child is 2.5 years old).

I agree with the first part. I don't agree with the second part. If you wait until a child can do A, B, and C, the child may be in diapers for a long time, when alternatively the parent could just put the child on the potty regularly. I suppose it's true that the child isn't truly toilet-trained until the child can do it all by itself (say, by first grade), but I didn't really care if the child was "truly toilet-trained"; my goal was to get the child out of diapers.

+1. both of my kids took a few weeks to be potty trained right before and around they turned 2. both were out of diapers by 25 months. i think it is too much to do the 3 day method when they are a young 2. it is a process, and there will be accidents, and yes, there will be purposeful peeing on the floor. parenting should not be boot camp.

i think parents want perfection, so if there is a day of accidents they say "oh, s/he must not be ready yet, back to diapers." kids need multiple days/weeks of having accidents, sitting on the potty, recognizing what the whole process is about. they need parental (and day care/nanny) support and encouragement and they need us to get over the fact that we have to change wet and sometimes poopy underpants. they need consistency. so if you decide it is time (and yes, OP, your child is showing plenty of signs that she is ready) then you ditch the diapers and stick with it. but you go about your normal life (with 2 changes of underpants/shorts). you don't saturate her with liquids, you don't stay in the house for fear of an accident. you just live your life, you take her potty, praise her when she goes in the toilet, explain where pee and poo go when she has an accident.

in essence, just be an everyday parent.

[Anonymous]

immediate PP here again. my kids have had on and off accidents/regressions until they turned 3. by 3 they were totally fine. we just rolled with it but never went back to diapers/pullups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

At 2.2 years old (whatever that means...just say newly turned 2 year old) it is really really really really hard for a child to A) recognized/acknowldedg the full bladder sensation B) recognize the need to allow time to get the potty C) connect A and B

It is asking A LOt in a small amount of time. Is there a reason you are rushing it so much??? Just like any learned activity it takes time. Did you make your child walk everyday when she was still crawling too? And given your experience you might need to change your strategy. Or wait a little bit. Try again in another 3 months or so (when your child is 2.5 years old).

I agree with the first part. I don't agree with the second part. If you wait until a child can do A, B, and C, the child may be in diapers for a long time, when alternatively the parent could just put the child on the potty regularly. I suppose it's true that the child isn't truly toilet-trained until the child can do it all by itself (say, by first grade), but I didn't really care if the child was "truly toilet-trained"; my goal was to get the child out of diapers.

Huh???? Most preKers are potty trained. 1st grade? Do you have or had a child going through potty training?

[Anonymous]

Despite what the book says, your DD is too young. Try again in a couple months.

[Anonymous]

I tried this and had to abandon it several times before my son potty trained at about 3. Honestly, it sounds like she isn't ready. Whatever the books or videos say, you have to go with what your own child shows you. And there is nothing wrong with not being ready to PT at 2.2. This has NOTHING to do with whether your child will be gifted, talented, ivy-league material, star athlete, or homecoming queen.