No one eats in this house

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Anonymous wrote:I have no desire to spend my entire vacation wiping crumbs off the couches and shining fingerprints out of the stainless steel appliances. If you really must load up on powdered donuts and potato chips - Go.Out.

Why bother hosting?

Oh good grief. I make nice holiday meals. I decorate a lovely home. I have baths and guest rooms well stocked. But I do not enjoy serving a nice brunch and then being asked what's for lunch. If you must have a gas station chili cheese dog - go to the gas station and get one. Do not bring that into my clean house.

Do you mind sharing how old you are?

You go first. How old are you?

I was starving in Suffolk and 34 years old.

I'm 20 or so years older than you. So older, but not elderly.

[Anonymous]

This thread is cracking me up. Try being the (slightly) overweight DIL in a house like this. I could never say the food wasn't enough because that would be vry harshly judged. MIL weighs 90. And she's sooooo proud of it. She loves to point out that she weighs less than our 13 year old boy, or that she can fit in a car seat, or that she can jump on the kiddie trampoline with a 100 lb weight limit. She gave everyone one slice of the spiral ham and packed up the rest. The 13 year old boy begged to sneak away for food!
I spoke up a bit during pregnancies but even that was met with an eye roll.
I do pack Kind bars and of course hide the wrappers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is cracking me up. Try being the (slightly) overweight DIL in a house like this. I could never say the food wasn't enough because that would be vry harshly judged. MIL weighs 90. And she's sooooo proud of it. She loves to point out that she weighs less than our 13 year old boy, or that she can fit in a car seat, or that she can jump on the kiddie trampoline with a 100 lb weight limit. She gave everyone one slice of the spiral ham and packed up the rest. The 13 year old boy begged to sneak away for food!
I spoke up a bit during pregnancies but even that was met with an eye roll.
I do pack Kind bars and of course hide the wrappers.

NP here who has followed this whole thread. I’m shocked she wouldn’t feed her grandson more, if he asked. Feeding the boys of the family while maintaining a bird-like diet, should make her feel wonderful!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Age aside, I have always hosted this way, pp. I go all out with decorations, plan/cook/serve beautiful meals and I simply do not enjoy tidying up after snackers and grazers.

It sounds as though I'm not the only host who feels this way, It's not an age thing. It's personal preference.

What I love about you PP, and I mean this with admiration, is how defiantly unrepentant you are. I am sure no one has ever said that you do not have the courage of your convictions.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

We leave my in laws on Monday. We won't be returning anytime soon.


DH and I are yet again starving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is cracking me up. Try being the (slightly) overweight DIL in a house like this. I could never say the food wasn't enough because that would be vry harshly judged. MIL weighs 90. And she's sooooo proud of it. She loves to point out that she weighs less than our 13 year old boy, or that she can fit in a car seat, or that she can jump on the kiddie trampoline with a 100 lb weight limit. She gave everyone one slice of the spiral ham and packed up the rest. The 13 year old boy begged to sneak away for food!
I spoke up a bit during pregnancies but even that was met with an eye roll.
I do pack Kind bars and of course hide the wrappers.

NP here who has followed this whole thread. I’m shocked she wouldn’t feed her grandson more, if he asked. Feeding the boys of the family while maintaining a bird-like diet, should make her feel wonderful!

She food shames him! It's awful. He's not fat or anything. She sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

We leave my in laws on Monday. We won't be returning anytime soon.


DH and I are yet again starving.

We got home today! I’ve posted a few times Bc this happens for us - but my in laws do go to bed by 9 pm and I will sneak cereal at that point ... we also were allowed to make dinner for everyone one night and I way over cooked so was able to sneak some of that - however I cooked roasted potatoes and was met with extreme scorn for serving a potato product!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

We leave my in laws on Monday. We won't be returning anytime soon.


DH and I are yet again starving.

We got home today! I’ve posted a few times Bc this happens for us - but my in laws do go to bed by 9 pm and I will sneak cereal at that point ... we also were allowed to make dinner for everyone one night and I way over cooked so was able to sneak some of that - however I cooked roasted potatoes and was met with extreme scorn for serving a potato product!

Oh and my file is heavy - my mil is average to thin but I think they drink a lot of their calories - I’m slightly over weight - size 12 but 5’9 so not huge anywhere but. A big girl and I think it bothers them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you suck as a host if you let your guests go hungry. point blank period.

Yes. This one hundred percent. I cannot believe people are even justifying this by saying things like my meals are beautiful and you had lunch at a restaurant so you do not need dinner. Wtf. If you host, your eating habits are not important. You go ahead and starve yourself under the delusion of being healthy all you want. But you make sure your guests have enough food. No one cares if it looks pretty if they are starving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is cracking me up. Try being the (slightly) overweight DIL in a house like this. I could never say the food wasn't enough because that would be vry harshly judged. MIL weighs 90. And she's sooooo proud of it. She loves to point out that she weighs less than our 13 year old boy, or that she can fit in a car seat, or that she can jump on the kiddie trampoline with a 100 lb weight limit. She gave everyone one slice of the spiral ham and packed up the rest. The 13 year old boy begged to sneak away for food!
I spoke up a bit during pregnancies but even that was met with an eye roll.
I do pack Kind bars and of course hide the wrappers.

What the hell? This is MY MIL too. She loves to tell her weight and that it's under 100. She loves to regale us with tales of shopping in the kids' department. And my fave, told oh so many times, is that she weighed the same the day she left the hospital with baby DH as she did before she got pregnant. I am the poster with the fasting MIL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

We leave my in laws on Monday. We won't be returning anytime soon.


DH and I are yet again starving.

We got home today! I’ve posted a few times Bc this happens for us - but my in laws do go to bed by 9 pm and I will sneak cereal at that point ... we also were allowed to make dinner for everyone one night and I way over cooked so was able to sneak some of that - however I cooked roasted potatoes and was met with extreme scorn for serving a potato product!

Oh and my file is heavy - my mil is average to thin but I think they drink a lot of their calories - I’m slightly over weight - size 12 but 5’9 so not huge anywhere but. A big girl and I think it bothers them

MY ILs feel the same about me, I am a tall strong woman. Far from shrinking, I now make sure to bust out the high heeled boots and dramatic outfits (MIL dresses like a little girl), then stand at my full height towering over her, OWNING it. It took me years to get there, but now I make no apologies for my height and shapely boobs and butt. Sometimes I even bust out my cape. This is what my DH chose, he loves it, and I finally stopped shrinking and started eating when visiting them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:you suck as a host if you let your guests go hungry. point blank period.

Yes. This one hundred percent. I cannot believe people are even justifying this by saying things like my meals are beautiful and you had lunch at a restaurant so you do not need dinner. Wtf. If you host, your eating habits are not important. You go ahead and starve yourself under the delusion of being healthy all you want. But you make sure your guests have enough food. No one cares if it looks pretty if they are starving.

This +1000
We are Greek and I would be horrified if a guests were hungry in my home.
We have an open kitchen, I plan 3 full meals daily plus stock up on snacks and make it clear that the kitchen is open and eat what you want, when you want. I do ask that if you are treating your kids in the house, try to treat the other kids too. Culturally for us, not feeding guests is a cardinal sin!

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Anonymous wrote:I have no desire to spend my entire vacation wiping crumbs off the couches and shining fingerprints out of the stainless steel appliances. If you really must load up on powdered donuts and potato chips - Go.Out.

Why bother hosting?

Oh good grief. I make nice holiday meals. I decorate a lovely home. I have baths and guest rooms well stocked. But I do not enjoy serving a nice brunch and then being asked what's for lunch. If you must have a gas station chili cheese dog - go to the gas station and get one. Do not bring that into my clean house.

Do you mind sharing how old you are?

You go first. How old are you?

I was starving in Suffolk and 34 years old.

Lol I'm also 34 and I grew up in sufolk. So glad I've moved!

[Anonymous]

At my mother-in-law's house there is no shortage of food but she really bad knee pain and can't clean or cook. She invited us to come over for brunch at 9 and then told us it was okay we were running late because she was behind. We got there at 10 and the kitchen was an absolute disaster Zone mess and nothing has been cooked. I finally volunteered to cook breakfast and got food on the table by 11:30. I also pay for Chinese food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Age aside, I have always hosted this way, pp. I go all out with decorations, plan/cook/serve beautiful meals and I simply do not enjoy tidying up after snackers and grazers.

It sounds as though I'm not the only host who feels this way, It's not an age thing. It's personal preference.

But you serve actual meals right? I'm not asking to snack or graze, and I don't want a chili dog from the convenience store. All I'm asking for is a proper breakfast, lunch and dinner. And no, peanut butter and cream cheese and a can of Campbell's soup is not a proper dinner for grownups.