No one eats in this house

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is cracking me up. Try being the (slightly) overweight DIL in a house like this. I could never say the food wasn't enough because that would be vry harshly judged. MIL weighs 90. And she's sooooo proud of it. She loves to point out that she weighs less than our 13 year old boy, or that she can fit in a car seat, or that she can jump on the kiddie trampoline with a 100 lb weight limit. She gave everyone one slice of the spiral ham and packed up the rest. The 13 year old boy begged to sneak away for food!
I spoke up a bit during pregnancies but even that was met with an eye roll.
I do pack Kind bars and of course hide the wrappers.

What the hell? This is MY MIL too. She loves to tell her weight and that it's under 100. She loves to regale us with tales of shopping in the kids' department. And my fave, told oh so many times, is that she weighed the same the day she left the hospital with baby DH as she did before she got pregnant. I am the poster with the fasting MIL.

+1

Crazy MILs!

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Anonymous wrote:you suck as a host if you let your guests go hungry. point blank period.

Yes. This one hundred percent. I cannot believe people are even justifying this by saying things like my meals are beautiful and you had lunch at a restaurant so you do not need dinner. Wtf. If you host, your eating habits are not important. You go ahead and starve yourself under the delusion of being healthy all you want. But you make sure your guests have enough food. No one cares if it looks pretty if they are starving.

+1
Thank you!! Some people truly don't understand what a good host does. When you are hosting it's all about the comfort of your guest. If you don't like that idea, don't host, hotels exist for a reason.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

We leave my in laws on Monday. We won't be returning anytime soon.


DH and I are yet again starving.

We got home today! I’ve posted a few times Bc this happens for us - but my in laws do go to bed by 9 pm and I will sneak cereal at that point ... we also were allowed to make dinner for everyone one night and I way over cooked so was able to sneak some of that - however I cooked roasted potatoes and was met with extreme scorn for serving a potato product!

Oh and my file is heavy - my mil is average to thin but I think they drink a lot of their calories - I’m slightly over weight - size 12 but 5’9 so not huge anywhere but. A big girl and I think it bothers them

MY ILs feel the same about me, I am a tall strong woman. Far from shrinking, I now make sure to bust out the high heeled boots and dramatic outfits (MIL dresses like a little girl), then stand at my full height towering over her, OWNING it. It took me years to get there, but now I make no apologies for my height and shapely boobs and butt. Sometimes I even bust out my cape. This is what my DH chose, he loves it, and I finally stopped shrinking and started eating when visiting them.

I LIKE YOU!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:you suck as a host if you let your guests go hungry. point blank period.

Yes. This one hundred percent. I cannot believe people are even justifying this by saying things like my meals are beautiful and you had lunch at a restaurant so you do not need dinner. Wtf. If you host, your eating habits are not important. You go ahead and starve yourself under the delusion of being healthy all you want. But you make sure your guests have enough food. No one cares if it looks pretty if they are starving.

This +1000
We are Greek and I would be horrified if a guests were hungry in my home.
We have an open kitchen, I plan 3 full meals daily plus stock up on snacks and make it clear that the kitchen is open and eat what you want, when you want. I do ask that if you are treating your kids in the house, try to treat the other kids too. Culturally for us, not feeding guests is a cardinal sin!

Different culture but same thing. The most embarrassing thing is to run out of food - there should always be more at the end of the meal!

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Anonymous wrote:I have no desire to spend my entire vacation wiping crumbs off the couches and shining fingerprints out of the stainless steel appliances. If you really must load up on powdered donuts and potato chips - Go.Out.

Why bother hosting?

Oh good grief. I make nice holiday meals. I decorate a lovely home. I have baths and guest rooms well stocked. But I do not enjoy serving a nice brunch and then being asked what's for lunch. If you must have a gas station chili cheese dog - go to the gas station and get one. Do not bring that into my clean house.[/quote] Wow, I know this will sound harsh but honestly you sound like a snobbish b&tch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you suck as a host if you let your guests go hungry. point blank period.

Yes. This one hundred percent. I cannot believe people are even justifying this by saying things like my meals are beautiful and you had lunch at a restaurant so you do not need dinner. Wtf. If you host, your eating habits are not important. You go ahead and starve yourself under the delusion of being healthy all you want. But you make sure your guests have enough food. No one cares if it looks pretty if they are starving.

This +1000
We are Greek and I would be horrified if a guests were hungry in my home.
We have an open kitchen, I plan 3 full meals daily plus stock up on snacks and make it clear that the kitchen is open and eat what you want, when you want. I do ask that if you are treating your kids in the house, try to treat the other kids too. Culturally for us, not feeding guests is a cardinal sin!

Irish-American here and same! Our food is probably not as tasty as yours, but good lord, we'll give you enough tea and baked goods to fill you up if you're hungry. I can't imagine hosting someone and then giving them grief for eating. That's insane, and horribly ungracious.

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Anonymous wrote:I have no desire to spend my entire vacation wiping crumbs off the couches and shining fingerprints out of the stainless steel appliances. If you really must load up on powdered donuts and potato chips - Go.Out.

Why bother hosting?

Oh good grief. I make nice holiday meals. I decorate a lovely home. I have baths and guest rooms well stocked. But I do not enjoy serving a nice brunch and then being asked what's for lunch. If you must have a gas station chili cheese dog - go to the gas station and get one. Do not bring that into my clean house.

Do you mind sharing how old you are?

You go first. How old are you?

I was starving in Suffolk and 34 years old.

I'm 20 or so years older than you. So older, but not elderly.

I bet you're crazy in bed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is cracking me up. Try being the (slightly) overweight DIL in a house like this. I could never say the food wasn't enough because that would be vry harshly judged. MIL weighs 90. And she's sooooo proud of it. She loves to point out that she weighs less than our 13 year old boy, or that she can fit in a car seat, or that she can jump on the kiddie trampoline with a 100 lb weight limit. She gave everyone one slice of the spiral ham and packed up the rest. The 13 year old boy begged to sneak away for food!
I spoke up a bit during pregnancies but even that was met with an eye roll.
I do pack Kind bars and of course hide the wrappers.

What the hell? This is MY MIL too. She loves to tell her weight and that it's under 100. She loves to regale us with tales of shopping in the kids' department. And my fave, told oh so many times, is that she weighed the same the day she left the hospital with baby DH as she did before she got pregnant. I am the poster with the fasting MIL.

+1

Crazy MILs!

Yes!! Shopping in the kids department!! She's SO proud of that. Then she buys matching outfits with my toddler daughters and buys herself the size large in girls sizes- and then points out that she would have bought me one too, but it doesn't come in MY SIZE.
Omg how I hate her

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^^^My MIL always tries to ride with us between the car seats, and gets put out because we say no (no seatbelt).

[Anonymous]

So sorry! My parents ask In advance what they can get for us and their home is stocked! They encourage us to help ourselves and be comfortable-- they want us to come back!

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These MILs sound like there were raised in age when young women were told to eat before a date so that when they went to the restaurant with a date they would appear more feminine by having just a few bites of what was served.

[Anonymous]

I side with the in-laws. Americans are fat AF and tend to eat all the time. OP most likely thinks she needs multiple snacks between heavy holiday meals. The MILs are probably NOT overweight and understand you can't eat all the time and stay thin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I side with the in-laws. Americans are fat AF and tend to eat all the time. OP most likely thinks she needs multiple snacks between heavy holiday meals. The MILs are probably NOT overweight and understand you can't eat all the time and stay thin.

I think you missed the many posts where it was clear that the MILs were drinking their calories.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I side with the in-laws. Americans are fat AF and tend to eat all the time. OP most likely thinks she needs multiple snacks between heavy holiday meals. The MILs are probably NOT overweight and understand you can't eat all the time and stay thin.

I think you missed the many posts where it was clear that the MILs were drinking their calories.

Starving in Suffolk, I'm 5'7 and 130 lbs. MIL is my height and probably 180, she eats but it's all processed, expired or canned. Not everyone has a tiny MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I side with the in-laws. Americans are fat AF and tend to eat all the time. OP most likely thinks she needs multiple snacks between heavy holiday meals. The MILs are probably NOT overweight and understand you can't eat all the time and stay thin.

This is BS. I provide my guests tons of snacks and food during the holidays and an open kitchen with food constantly on offer and was raised the same way and all the women and men in my family are thin.

Because, unlike the crazy MILs, we have a healthy attitude about food, alcohol, guests, and celebrations and stay active. In fact, have you noticed a lot of overweight people have mothers who have food issues?