women who don't work or raise kids

[Anonymous]

You have half a kid?

Yes.

Someone who has never been pregnant - wouldn't get that.

Umm, someone who's never had a brain wouldn't get that.

Am I missing my brain? Someone please explain to me this concept of telling people you have half a kid.

Seriously? You still don't understand?

NP to this discussion. I'm assuming the 2.5 kids poster is pregnant.

If that's the case, I think this terminology is stupid. I don't tell people I have 1.5 kids b/c I'm pregnant. Sorry I'm not up on all the juvenile shorthand.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about women who SAH as the moms of grown-up children? Are they also lazy, pointless human beings because they don't work and they are no longer active parents? At what age are a woman's children when she crosses the line between SAHM and SAHW? 10? 15? 18? 25?

But the RAISED their children and are now in retirement. There IS a difference between them and women who neither work nor raise a family.

So, a SAHM works for 18 years and then retires and that is admirable. But, a person who works for 18 years and then becomes a SAHW at 40 is lazy. If you have a kid at 25, are you retiring at 43?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a SAHM. I had my first child (at Sibley). My brain fell out my vagina. I got pregnant with my second child, not sure how. After that child, I lost more brain. What was that degree I got? Where was it from?
Can anyone help me?

This is stupid whats the point of your post?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:O.P I went to law school with this woman who always said she couldn't wait to graduate, seduce some rich lawyer,get married and stay home.
We have been out of law school for 6 years now and that's exactly what her life is.She is a show off stay at home woman,no kids and enjoying life.I still wonder why she bothered going through law school.

Duh, to maximize her exposure to rich lawyers! I ain't mad at her!

Gold digging whore

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me ill.

At first i thought I was jealous, but even if I had the option to stay home and do nothing, I have way too much pride to do that.

I'd like to be a decent role model for my daughter--I want to teach her that her goal shouldn't be to marry "well," but it should be to fulfill her potential rather than just take the easy/lazy way out. Seriously, ladies, you stay home without kids to raise? Your husbands are going to get tired of that real fast. I know I'd kick my man to the curb if he decided to do that (and we didn't have 2.5 kids, which we do). Why do you as women get that luxury, but your husbands don't?

You have half a kid?

Yes.

Someone who has never been pregnant - wouldn't get that.

Umm, someone who's never had a brain wouldn't get that.

Am I missing my brain? Someone please explain to me this concept of telling people you have half a kid.

Seriously? You still don't understand?

NP to this discussion. I'm assuming the 2.5 kids poster is pregnant.

Im trying to figure this out too. Maybe there is one singleton and then a pair of conjoined but one of the conjoined is missing half of s body?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about women who SAH as the moms of grown-up children? Are they also lazy, pointless human beings because they don't work and they are no longer active parents? At what age are a woman's children when she crosses the line between SAHM and SAHW? 10? 15? 18? 25?

But the RAISED their children and are now in retirement. There IS a difference between them and women who neither work nor raise a family.

SAHMs do not "retire." SAH is not a job!

[Anonymous]

Is this thread really still going? Sheesh.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this thread really still going? Sheesh.

Because everybody wants the last word. Will it be me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess: You people also have "no respect" for moms who stay home after their children are in school? And obviously having a job is what "gives life purpose"? Please! If you feel THIS vocal about the issue, you clearly have some resentment.

In my case, DH owns his own company and loves what he does. He will never stop working. That is a choice, because we can financially both retire now and be very comfortable. I do not derive fulfillment from my former lobbying career. I feel fulfilled by volunteering, helping others, running our house and finances, and especially raising our child. But - my point is that it's not just my child that makes staying at home fulfilling - there are many, many other aspects of this life that I love. My goal is to become more involved with my charity when my child is in school. I like being able to make a difference and do what I really enjoy- rather than the daily grind from 9-6 every day.

I know there are people out there that are truly satisfied with and love their jobs - my husband is one, but frankly - I haven't met many women who truly feel this way.

Why would you stay home after your kids are in school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have half a kid?

Yes.

Someone who has never been pregnant - wouldn't get that.

Umm, someone who's never had a brain wouldn't get that.

Am I missing my brain? Someone please explain to me this concept of telling people you have half a kid.

Seriously? You still don't understand?

NP to this discussion. I'm assuming the 2.5 kids poster is pregnant.

If that's the case, I think this terminology is stupid. I don't tell people I have 1.5 kids b/c I'm pregnant. Sorry I'm not up on all the juvenile shorthand.


NP (different one). THat is stupid--I assumed a half a kid meant a step child who is around only half the time--shared custody. Makes more sense than being pregnant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me guess: You people also have "no respect" for moms who stay home after their children are in school? And obviously having a job is what "gives life purpose"? Please! If you feel THIS vocal about the issue, you clearly have some resentment.

In my case, DH owns his own company and loves what he does. He will never stop working. That is a choice, because we can financially both retire now and be very comfortable. I do not derive fulfillment from my former lobbying career. I feel fulfilled by volunteering, helping others, running our house and finances, and especially raising our child. But - my point is that it's not just my child that makes staying at home fulfilling - there are many, many other aspects of this life that I love. My goal is to become more involved with my charity when my child is in school. I like being able to make a difference and do what I really enjoy- rather than the daily grind from 9-6 every day.

I know there are people out there that are truly satisfied with and love their jobs - my husband is one, but frankly - I haven't met many women who truly feel this way.

Why would you stay home after your kids are in school?

Because she may need to cart her child off to practice or other activities. She may want to help with homework. Also, schools let out pretty early. There are probably still a lot of things that need to be done to manage the house. This isn't for me but I can understand it and I think it's totally different from women who don't have kids yet stay at home.

Signed,


WOHM

[Anonymous]

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Let me guess: You people also have "no respect" for moms who stay home after their children are in school? And obviously having a job is what "gives life purpose"? Please! If you feel THIS vocal about the issue, you clearly have some resentment.

In my case, DH owns his own company and loves what he does. He will never stop working. That is a choice, because we can financially both retire now and be very comfortable. I do not derive fulfillment from my former lobbying career. I feel fulfilled by volunteering, helping others, running our house and finances, and especially raising our child. But - my point is that it's not just my child that makes staying at home fulfilling - there are many, many other aspects of this life that I love. My goal is to become more involved with my charity when my child is in school. I like being able to make a difference and do what I really enjoy- rather than the daily grind from 9-6 every day.

I know there are people out there that are truly satisfied with and love their jobs - my husband is one, but frankly - I haven't met many women who truly feel this way.


Why would you stay home after your kids are in school?

You do know that the odds are in favor of your husband leaving you and you will no longer have this life you love, right? I know you think you are important and that you deserve the life you want, but as long as that life is predicated on someone else's earning potential, you have no security.

Over 50% of marriages in this country end in divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Let me guess: You people also have "no respect" for moms who stay home after their children are in school? And obviously having a job is what "gives life purpose"? Please! If you feel THIS vocal about the issue, you clearly have some resentment.

In my case, DH owns his own company and loves what he does. He will never stop working. That is a choice, because we can financially both retire now and be very comfortable. I do not derive fulfillment from my former lobbying career. I feel fulfilled by volunteering, helping others, running our house and finances, and especially raising our child. But - my point is that it's not just my child that makes staying at home fulfilling - there are many, many other aspects of this life that I love. My goal is to become more involved with my charity when my child is in school. I like being able to make a difference and do what I really enjoy- rather than the daily grind from 9-6 every day.

I know there are people out there that are truly satisfied with and love their jobs - my husband is one, but frankly - I haven't met many women who truly feel this way.


Why would you stay home after your kids are in school?

You do know that the odds are in favor of your husband leaving you and you will no longer have this life you love, right? I know you think you are important and that you deserve the life you want, but as long as that life is predicated on someone else's earning potential, you have no security.

Over 50% of marriages in this country end in divorce.

I am not this PP, but where are you getting your information? The odds of a college-educated couple in a long-term marriage getting divorced is actually very low. 50% of all marriages end in divorce but not 50% of all people get divorced. Some people get married and divorced multiple times and marriages are much more likely to end in the first few years. Of course you can't know the future, but there is no reason to overestimate the chances of a bad outcome.

[Anonymous]

Oh geez people. If I won the lottery tomorrow, I would absolutely quit my job. I doubt most people want to work 40 plus hours a week just for fun. Why all the hate for people who can afford to do that?? To each their own.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who puts down SAHMs are just jealous. There is nothing difficult about what OPs problem is. If OP could stay home, she would. But she can't, nor will she ever, and she is pissed off about it and is trying to bully others into their explaining their stance to her; as if they owe her (of all people) an explanation. BS. If I could stay home, I would owe NO ONE an explanation!

I have neighbors like this who are nasty about SAHMs, especially if those SAHMs have a nice demeanor and/or have nicer houses. The jealousy oozes from the WM neighbors. You can almost smell it, it is so very obvious. Grow up, people.

If someone else is successful, it has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with you. Grow up.