Any other moms out just not order when you eat with your family?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

Do you think the kid doesn't notice or care that the family is out to dinner and Mom has nothing to eat?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

And the waiter is upset because this party of 3 is taking up a four top and only ordering two things.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

What else is he going to say when Mommy is sitting there, with no food, waiting for him to finish so she can eat something? My kids would probably not only eat less than they wanted, they’d hurry up and not fully enjoy, if they saw me sitting there watching them eat with no food in front of me. It’s a very hovering, pressure-fueled way for OP to act.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Well, I'm triggered because my mother never ordered any ice cream and then she ate mine. Not too much fun to 'go out for ice cream' if someone else eats it all. And she was so worried about calories that frequently she made us walk 1.5 miles each way to the ice cream shop where she then proceeded to eat our ice cream. Great memories!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

Even in the most generous interpretation of this scenario, that kid genuinely orders something silly and doesn't eat it, there are bad things at play here. Mom is displaying lack of confidence in the kid, or allowing the kid to continue a trend of over ordering expensive food and not eating it. Mom isn't included in the entree decision process when deciding what SHE will eat. The entire meal becomes about the kid making a decision that mom thinks is bad but catered to anyway. And meanwhile dad is off eating whatever he ordered in peace. This is an unhealthy dynamic that has nothing to do with the actual amount of food being consumed.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

What else is he going to say when Mommy is sitting there, with no food, waiting for him to finish so she can eat something? My kids would probably not only eat less than they wanted, they’d hurry up and not fully enjoy, if they saw me sitting there watching them eat with no food in front of me. It’s a very hovering, pressure-fueled way for OP to act.

totally agree with all this.

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I do not order...but that is becuase I know my 5 year old never finishes his food! However is older brother (10) always does and sometimes eats two meals..so I'm not sure how much longer i'll be able to do.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

Exactly. I honestly cannot believe how idiotic most of these outraged responses are.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Well, I'm triggered because my mother never ordered any ice cream and then she ate mine. Not too much fun to 'go out for ice cream' if someone else eats it all. And she was so worried about calories that frequently she made us walk 1.5 miles each way to the ice cream shop where she then proceeded to eat our ice cream. Great memories!

At least you admit that you’re triggered. Next step is to admit your response is totally irrational.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

Even in the most generous interpretation of this scenario, that kid genuinely orders something silly and doesn't eat it, there are bad things at play here. Mom is displaying lack of confidence in the kid, or allowing the kid to continue a trend of over ordering expensive food and not eating it. Mom isn't included in the entree decision process when deciding what SHE will eat. The entire meal becomes about the kid making a decision that mom thinks is bad but catered to anyway. And meanwhile dad is off eating whatever he ordered in peace. This is an unhealthy dynamic that has nothing to do with the actual amount of food being consumed.

No. You’re being dramatic. It’s not this serious or important.

You really do not need to psychoanalyze every interaction or event.

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Anonymous wrote:What?! No this is bizarre. If we go out to eat we all get an entree. If you can’t afford it just cook at home.

Not that I need to defend this but when I did it recently we were flying out of DCA and we needed to eat before our flight. We went to Ben Chili’s bowl which didn’t have a kid’s menu and when my daughter got chicken fingers I just didn’t get anything because I didn’t want to fly with leftovers or waste a crap ton of food. One chicken finger order was enough for both of us. She weighs about 45 lbs.

The ultimate White DCUM Almond Mom: go to a well-known DC landmark restaurant because you can snap a pic of the famous sign outside for Instagram, then go in and order not the world-famous chili or half-smokes, but nothing for you and then Mommy’s Going to Share Your Food. But hey, you put that pic up on Instagram and got your “street cred” for visiting Black-owned DC institution.

I don’t know what an almond mom is, my husband was the one who wanted to eat there, I don’t consider the airport location a well-known DC landmark, and I don’t post on social media anymore, but nice try.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

op - that's exactly it.
there is some severe too many fs given happening around this general topic. sheesh. i'm not telling anyone else not to order food!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Well, I'm triggered because my mother never ordered any ice cream and then she ate mine. Not too much fun to 'go out for ice cream' if someone else eats it all. And she was so worried about calories that frequently she made us walk 1.5 miles each way to the ice cream shop where she then proceeded to eat our ice cream. Great memories!

um - that's your sh*t. don't project.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

Even in the most generous interpretation of this scenario, that kid genuinely orders something silly and doesn't eat it, there are bad things at play here. Mom is displaying lack of confidence in the kid, or allowing the kid to continue a trend of over ordering expensive food and not eating it. Mom isn't included in the entree decision process when deciding what SHE will eat. The entire meal becomes about the kid making a decision that mom thinks is bad but catered to anyway. And meanwhile dad is off eating whatever he ordered in peace. This is an unhealthy dynamic that has nothing to do with the actual amount of food being consumed.

op - no.
when you go out to eat, and a kid's meal isn't offered, the kid has no choice but to order an adult sized meal or split it.
my 2 kids like completely opposing foods so while sometimes they will split with each other, typically that doesn't work.
they don't object to sharing with me on principal, they just have that kid thing where they think they're going to eat it ALL even though it's an adult sized portion. so i say 'why dont you share with your brother?' and they say 'no he wants a burger and I want chicken' and i say 'ok then share with me' and they say ' but i will eat the whole chicken' and i say 'I don't think that is true.'
i dont sit there staring while they eat, but i do essentially force them to share with me.
i'm sorry if this horrifies people but honestly i think it's weird when people order way too much food that their kids were never going to be able to finish. kids are kids for a reason - they think they know a lot of stuff they actually dont know.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow I can’t believe OP is still come back and defending this weirdness. It’s a free country! No one can make you order a meal (well actually I guess the restaurant manager could give you the choice of doing that or leaving but they won’t realistically). But it’s a really ridiculous choice. You already said your family finds you weird and cheap. I still remember an older cousin doing this while out to eat with our family doing and eating her toddler’s scraps when I was like 8 so a good 30 years ago. My mom was SO humiliated and tried not to show but leaving a huge tip to try to compensate. It’s weird and awkward for everyone else but it sounds like you prefer that to wasting any food at all (or eating it later, which I really can’t understand either). I posted earlier that I really think you should stop going to restaurants and I still feel that way. It sounds like you’re miserable and making everyone else uncomfortable.

where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable?

Um, literally her post just a few back where she says she TELLS (not asks) them that she is going to eat their food, and they say no, then she does it anyway. And they have no choice but leave some for her because Mommy Has No Food.

no idea why you are so triggered by this, but again there are many posters on this thread who say they do a version of this. calm down. no one is taking YOUR food.

Asked and answered. Don't want to hear the answer? Don't ask the question "where was it said that op's family feels uncomfortable." OP herself has said that her kids push back and say they want their own food and they are hungry. Then she orders nothing, so now they know they have to share with her: Mommy has no food.

I read it more like this:
Kid: I'm ordering the hangar steak
Mom: you are not going to finish that
Kid: Yes I am I suuuuuper hungry
Mom: ok fine order it (he's not going to finish it so I won't order)
Kid: I'm full

Even in the most generous interpretation of this scenario, that kid genuinely orders something silly and doesn't eat it, there are bad things at play here. Mom is displaying lack of confidence in the kid, or allowing the kid to continue a trend of over ordering expensive food and not eating it. Mom isn't included in the entree decision process when deciding what SHE will eat. The entire meal becomes about the kid making a decision that mom thinks is bad but catered to anyway. And meanwhile dad is off eating whatever he ordered in peace. This is an unhealthy dynamic that has nothing to do with the actual amount of food being consumed.

op - no.
when you go out to eat, and a kid's meal isn't offered, the kid has no choice but to order an adult sized meal or split it.
my 2 kids like completely opposing foods so while sometimes they will split with each other, typically that doesn't work.
they don't object to sharing with me on principal, they just have that kid thing where they think they're going to eat it ALL even though it's an adult sized portion. so i say 'why dont you share with your brother?' and they say 'no he wants a burger and I want chicken' and i say 'ok then share with me' and they say ' but i will eat the whole chicken' and i say 'I don't think that is true.'
i dont sit there staring while they eat, but i do essentially force them to share with me.
i'm sorry if this horrifies people but honestly i think it's weird when people order way too much food that their kids were never going to be able to finish. kids are kids for a reason - they think they know a lot of stuff they actually dont know.

OK? So do whatever you want and STFU. Here you are 22 pages later. You do you, but when you actively go out of your way to post here and ask if others do it, and we say we don’t and we think it’s weird or here’s why we don’t do that, you get the feedback you get. If what you are doing works for you, just do it.