Does your husband work ridiculous hours, leaving him with scant time for family, exercise, or hobbies? |
He did for years. Since he has made partner, his life is much better. He's usually home by 6:30 and puts kids to bed (though admittedly logs on at night fairly often) |
| Non-lawyer in large law firm and IT administrator - HHI of about $300K. |
That sounds miserable. DH has a really busy week at work last week and was logging back on from home until 9 pm. It's fine as an occasional thing, but it really sucks to barely see your spouse and for him to barely get time with the kids during the week. Also, I like that DH has time to go to the gym and stay in shape. The money trade off would totally not be worth it to me when you can still live comfortably on much less. I hope your DH is able to find some better work life balance soon. |
NP- Are you for real? If you're not a troll, I just can't believe there are people in this world who are so transparent. |
How many years after making equity partner did it take for your income to climb that high? DH works for big law, and the hours can be hard at times but he likes the work and finds it rewarding. |
NP. Why would you think that person is a troll? It isn't crazy for someone to say they don't want to work those hours, particularly if they can still make a solid living (however they define it) working better hours with less stress. DH is an income partner, so making a bit less than a third of what your's makes, but still a shit ton of money. If he can have a reasonable life as an income partner (a very big if), he might prefer that to the hours and pressure of an equity partner even if that meant double or more money. If he does make equity, I could very much see him doing it for a relatively short time while we stockpile money and then he moves to something saner. We live well below our means now, so I would like to think we would keep doing so if he got a big raise so we could keep our flexibility. |
| Small business owner |
PP here - it's funny that people are posting that logging on at night is "miserable." Do you live in DC? I think most career professionals (regardless of the salary) in the DC area work outside of 9-5, and when I was working (at a fraction of his salary), I would do the same. Maybe I've been jaded by the work culture of the area, but I feel so fortunate that we have the income we have and my DH can be home to see the kids. Also, FWIW, he loves his job and his work. |
| HHI around 315k. I stay at home and DH is General Counsel to a company. Had a franchise but sold it in two years. Difficult to run a business on the side. Expenses high. Two SUVs (luxury), kids in top private, etc. Vacations are the real difficult expense because they have large price tag. Net Worth around 1.6 million but most not liquid. Retirement account and investment properties. |
Yes, but working outside of the 9-5 doesn't mean most people are routinely getting home at 6:30 pm and then frequently logging back on at night unless you have a long crappy commute and not much flexibility. |
That's not HHI, it's your husband's income. |
| And maybe you have older kids, but ours go to bed by 7:30ish, so getting home at 6:30 would mean they get to see their dad for an hour per day. |
I was responding to the PP re: most people working until 6:30 at night. Not the jerk trying to differentiate between HHi and "his income." |
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