What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?

[Anonymous]

+2 to the expensive cars. I need gas mileage, a/c, and a radio with blue tooth and nothing else.

I also don't really need the high end clothing/bags. I have a few from years back and never use them. And honestly, the vintage bags I buy for a few bucks get way more positive comments than anything from Coach or Marc Jacobs or whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:Expensive cars or brand new cars
Country club membership , I will never understand
Designer bags. I have never cared about a bag/purse.

You will never understand...how some people like to spend time golfing, playing tennis, or swimming with their friends?

Here we go again. It’s fine that you like your club. Why so insecure about it? I like some of the other things people mentioned here. It’s cool.

DP. There’s a difference between “it’s not for me, I don’t value things so I don’t want it ” and “I will never understand”

Not a huge difference (NP). I don't understand it either as it is a lot of money. You don't need to join a country club to engage in shared activities with friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Fancy kitchens. Often people with the fanciest kitchens and appliances aren't great cooks.

I think it’s really people with super clean kitchens and clutter-free counters who aren’t great cooks. I don’t care if you have a housekeeper; if you cook a lot, there are telltale signs.

Nope. I hate clutter and I feel so happy when my kitchen is totally clean and the countertops almost cleared. I specifically built and organized cabinets (both lower and upper) to hold things that would be needed for cooking tons of dishes. I work from home so I am often making three meals a day, and that includes using the ovens, stove, griddle (part of the eight-burner stove), convection oven/air fryer, and grill (although that it outside). People regularly compliment my cooking and we host large parties with meals often. I love starting to cook and having a totally clean workspace. I don't need to leave spices out or have a cannister of utensils by the stove. I have no problem bringing appliances out as needed (and I have a ton of appliances). With the exception of the espresso machine and the convection over/air fryer, they all live in cabinets.

NP. I’m the same way as you! We cook 3 meals a day and have a gorgeous kitchen. For me, I need the countertops and island to be free of clutter and wiped down. When they are a mess, it gives me anxiety for some reason. I never made my bed and am not otherwise that great about home stuff, but i absolutely MUST have my countertops clear in the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Expensive cars or brand new cars
Country club membership , I will never understand
Designer bags. I have never cared about a bag/purse.

You will never understand...how some people like to spend time golfing, playing tennis, or swimming with their friends?

Here we go again. It’s fine that you like your club. Why so insecure about it? I like some of the other things people mentioned here. It’s cool.

DP. There’s a difference between “it’s not for me, I don’t value things so I don’t want it ” and “I will never understand”

Not a huge difference (NP). I don't understand it either as it is a lot of money. You don't need to join a country club to engage in shared activities with friends.

It’s a big difference. And no you don’t. But in most places, it’s the only way to play a lot of golf and tennis. If you don’t enjoy those things then no, it’s not for you. I would never join a social club because I don’t enjoy parties and small talk. But I understand why other people might like that. It’s just not for me.

[Anonymous]

Gray hair.
Expensive cars.
Big house far from things.

[Anonymous]

My kids to be travel athletes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Expensive cars or brand new cars
Country club membership , I will never understand
Designer bags. I have never cared about a bag/purse.

You will never understand...how some people like to spend time golfing, playing tennis, or swimming with their friends?

Here we go again. It’s fine that you like your club. Why so insecure about it? I like some of the other things people mentioned here. It’s cool.

DP. There’s a difference between “it’s not for me, I don’t value things so I don’t want it ” and “I will never understand”

Not a huge difference (NP). I don't understand it either as it is a lot of money. You don't need to join a country club to engage in shared activities with friends.

Its just an expression. That poster doesn't literally mean they "don't understand." You don't need to EXPLAIN it to us.

[Anonymous]

Right now I don’t feel like I want to have a huge group of friends that I’m constantly socializing with. That’s a lot of work to keep up with and it feels really fleeting to me, even as I see so many people my age posting their nights out.

I would rather have a small group of more high quality friendships. I would rather socialize 1:1 or in a very small group than do a dinner with 10-plus people. I would rather Netflix and chill than go to a ball.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Expensive cars or brand new cars
Country club membership , I will never understand
Designer bags. I have never cared about a bag/purse.

You will never understand...how some people like to spend time golfing, playing tennis, or swimming with their friends?

Here we go again. It’s fine that you like your club. Why so insecure about it? I like some of the other things people mentioned here. It’s cool.

DP. There’s a difference between “it’s not for me, I don’t value things so I don’t want it ” and “I will never understand”

NP - someone’s a little defensive about their country club

[Anonymous]

A pool. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A big yard

+100. When I see a yard, all I think of are responsibility and upkeep

[Anonymous]

My husband

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Anonymous wrote:Fancy kitchens. Often people with the fanciest kitchens and appliances aren't great cooks.

I think it’s really people with super clean kitchens and clutter-free counters who aren’t great cooks. I don’t care if you have a housekeeper; if you cook a lot, there are telltale signs.

Agree. Most of the posters who say otherwise claim they cook a lot or well, but hard to be pulling out the stand mixer or vitamix out that often or even basics like salt pig or olive oils out constantly.

[Anonymous]

Shopping. I try to get in and out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A big yard

+100. When I see a yard, all I think of are responsibility and upkeep

+1. Same with a second home. I don't even feel like managing the home I have!