What are some things that others think are desirable that you actively do not want?

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Anonymous wrote:country club membership. why? i dont get it. it's not 1950

Where else can I get clay tennis courts and an immediate network of players?

Oh look! Someone else who doesn’t understand the point of the thread! We know people like country clubs!

You missed their reference to 1950 as if it’s about social segregation. And they literally asked “why?” Relax.

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Anonymous wrote:Stanley cup

+ 1

I don’t even play hockey.

I got it even if no one else did.

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I miss my feet not hurting.

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Anonymous wrote:To see Taylor Swift in concert.

But I would like to see her get married.

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Anonymous wrote:Large houses. I truly do not understand the appeal. We are looking to move in the next few years and our budget is such that in our preferred neighborhoods, we could either buy something smaller for cash or mostly cash, or we could get a large house and pay about what we currently pay. The realtor and my mom and several friends keep telling me "just get the bigger house, you won't regret it" but I really don't want to. We have plenty of space now at less than 1500 sq ft. I don't think I want something more than 2000 sq ft. What is it for? I also don't want to furnish and design and decorate all that extra space. We only have one kid and she'll be in MS by the time we move. The idea of some 3000-4000 sq ft house sounds like way too much for a small family, much less empty nesters. I value good layout (or getting a great price and then being able to spend money to renovate it to make the absolute most of it) over extra square footage, but the market really seems geared toward the idea that larger houses are always better. They definitely seem to appreciate better.

Post-pandemic, both of us WFH. The extra space makes a huge difference now.

Same. I'm so glad we had both an official office and a spare room to turn into an office without sacrificing a regular bedroom or guest room. We also work on different floors so it's really like we're both at work except for when we rendezvous somewhere in the house.

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BMW, Botox/fillers

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Anonymous wrote:Microblading eyebrows. It looks so fake and so much money

Fake nails or gel nails. Also fake and how do you get any work done! Lots of money and so much maintenance.

Do you realize that gel is just a kind of nail polish that sets under UV light? I get gel manicures but my nails are very short an they just look like they have polish on them except it lasts a lot longer. Gel nails do not equal fake nails.

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Anonymous wrote:A home next to a highway
A home on less than 1/2 acre
A home within feet of my next door neighbor
A Tesla
A WFH job

I’m not sure anyone finds these things “desirable.” Sometimes in expensive areas you are forced to make compromises to stay on budget. That’s not the same thing as something being desirable.

Sure they are. Some people want houses on small lots so there is less upkeep. My friend lives on two acres and their front lawn is just ridiculous. I would absolutely hate having to maintain that.

Also, some people love living in a condo or townhouse (where your neighbors are feet away). So it's not like everyone living in multi-family housing or on small lots is poor and out of options.

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Anonymous wrote:ANY sort of conspicuous consumption. Lulu, stanley, LV, Tesla, fancy kitchens.

Teslas are actually practical.

Also odd that Lulu is on this list. I mean I guess I could do a bunch of research to find athleticwear that performs as well but costs less, but why? How much time spent to save $30?

And as for “fancy” kitchens….most people do not spend lots of money on kitchens for them to be impractical. The better appliances perform better, and yes, tend to look nicer. This is for the space that is the beating heart of my private residence that the public does not see. How is that “conspicuous consumption”?

Right, so in those categories you would fall into the "others think are desirable" part of the OP. Its literally the point of the thread.

I guess my point is that I don’t think of Teslas

or Lulus as particularly desirable or aspirational (which seems to be what people are really talking about) either. They just…are? So it’s hard for me to think of them as great examples of gross “conspicuous consumption” against which PP is railing. It doesn’t seem quite worthy of the hate.

Is the point that if *other* people seem to think of them as Name Brands à la Gucci, LV (in other words, aspirational “lifestyle” brands), then am I really being such a conspicuous consumer? I mean, they’re leggings?? I’m puzzled.

They are $120 leggings that YOU think are desirable (I certainly hope if you are paying that much!) and I actively do NOT want. Literally the words of the OP. What don't you understand? Same with Tesla - overprice junk to me. Desirable to others.

The first PP that mentioned these items called them “conspicuous consumption”, and others disagree that these are things that one buys just for the status.

I prefer the material and the only way someone can tell what brand they are is if they lift up my shirt and look for the logo at the back of my waist which fortunately never happens. I tried the Amazon knock offs and don’t like them.

I think the term “conspicuous consumption “ is way overused. Some people recognize and enjoy the design or quality difference and some don’t. It doesn’t have to be an insult. Something like a LV keychain? That’s for the label. But a designer purse? No, that’s also design, function, and style. It’s ok to appreciate good design. It doesn’t make you shallow.

Um, no. People can spot Lululemon clothing from miles away if they are familiar with it. You're not fooling anyone. It's fine if you like their stuff, but stop acting like you HAVE to buy it because you just can't find the same stuff anywhere else.

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Anonymous wrote:Fancy kitchens. Often people with the fanciest kitchens and appliances aren't great cooks.

I think it’s really people with super clean kitchens and clutter-free counters who aren’t great cooks. I don’t care if you have a housekeeper; if you cook a lot, there are telltale signs.

Nope. I hate clutter and I feel so happy when my kitchen is totally clean and the countertops almost cleared. I specifically built and organized cabinets (both lower and upper) to hold things that would be needed for cooking tons of dishes. I work from home so I am often making three meals a day, and that includes using the ovens, stove, griddle (part of the eight-burner stove), convection oven/air fryer, and grill (although that it outside). People regularly compliment my cooking and we host large parties with meals often. I love starting to cook and having a totally clean workspace. I don't need to leave spices out or have a cannister of utensils by the stove. I have no problem bringing appliances out as needed (and I have a ton of appliances). With the exception of the espresso machine and the convection over/air fryer, they all live in cabinets.

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Many anti-snob snobs on here- still important for everyone to differentiate themselves from the strivers. Now we fetishize formerly peasant stuff: salt, bread, cotton sheets, tomatoes, etc. No one here saying they prefer microfiber sheers and banquet frozen dinners.

I love microfiber sheets. Especially those with spandex in them. I like my bottom sheet to be really tight and I like the softness. Sue me.

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Anonymous wrote:Expensive cars or brand new cars
Country club membership , I will never understand
Designer bags. I have never cared about a bag/purse.

You will never understand...how some people like to spend time golfing, playing tennis, or swimming with their friends?

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Anonymous wrote:Expensive cars or brand new cars
Country club membership , I will never understand
Designer bags. I have never cared about a bag/purse.

You will never understand...how some people like to spend time golfing, playing tennis, or swimming with their friends?

Here we go again. It’s fine that you like your club. Why so insecure about it? I like some of the other things people mentioned here. It’s cool.

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Anonymous wrote:To see Taylor Swift in concert.

But I would like to see her get married.

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:Expensive cars or brand new cars
Country club membership , I will never understand
Designer bags. I have never cared about a bag/purse.

You will never understand...how some people like to spend time golfing, playing tennis, or swimming with their friends?

Here we go again. It’s fine that you like your club. Why so insecure about it? I like some of the other things people mentioned here. It’s cool.

DP. There’s a difference between “it’s not for me, I don’t value things so I don’t want it ” and “I will never understand”