How to be a likeable person?

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Anonymous wrote:keep your negativity to yourself.
be quick to compliment others.
be prepared to respond to others words with simple phrases like, 'oh that sounds like fun, are the kids/your parents/your spouse excited?' - it doesn't matter that it sounds like fun or not.

This is sycophancy and screams fake. Not likable. Fake.

+1

-1. Depends on how you do it. If you're over the top and insincere, then it's not likable. But pretty much everyone has good qualities. If you take the time to notice them and comment on them in a way that's not overwrought, people will appreciate it.

But not everyone is seeking approval. I think it patronizing and frankly assumes the person is a bit of a fuking idiot if you think they're going to glow and be all happy because you told them they were *great* in some way. No thanks. Talk to me about things that actually interest and engage me, don't comment on ME.

You read a lot into that. I'm not saying you need to dig up someone's thesis and give them a deep run down of their successful argument. I'm saying if someone has on cool sunglasses, tell them "nice shades".

Yeah but no. That's still not going to make you likable, superficial maybe...