How to deal with painful envy and disappointment in life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lady, you're crazy. I had a child when I was earning $45k a year. I stopped working and went on welfare and food stamps in order to stay home with her the first five years of her life.. She is now 18 and I now earn $90k. She never had a nanny, went to public school, and now goes to community college. I rent a tiny one bedroom apartment. My daughter is smart, funny, kind, and has great friends. I would LOVE to be earning six figures.

You need to work on appreciating what you have. There will ALWAYS be people better off than you. And people worse off than you. That's life.

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Clearly this strategy worked for you. Is this something that’s commonplace? 👀

[Anonymous]

Oh ffs OP. Get over your self and your sense of entitlement. I too had a prestigious education , did extremely well at a top ivy and yet also made very little money well into my 30s since I pursued a PhD.. Rented an apartment, bought first home at 38 after I married an equally poor (but interesting) person and had kids later in life. We don't make 300k combined in our late 40s and yes I have many friends pulling in 7-8 figures, a few with multiple homes in Aspen, London etc. While I'm envious at times (I wish we could afford a housekeeper it never occurred to me to lament how *unfair* it all is! I mean, look at most people in the world. Look.at those who lose their lived ones to disease,illness. To those struggling to pay medical bills. I feel grateful bi have a good spouse, a stable job, health, don't have to worry about paying for food medicine rent etc.

So you are 34, happily married, in good health in the us with a HHi of 300k (without your contribution). I honestly think you have so, so much and it angers and saddens me you don't see it. I can only urge you to embrace it and be thankful and live your life now, stop obsessing on what others have, you're not a teenager. If you want a baby, then get started. You don't need tons of money or a million dollar home for an infant . If you're still miserable I suggest volunteering with those less fortunate

[Anonymous]

I'm 47, single, childless, and spent ten years and my life savings trying to have a child. I also don't have much of a career despite having four degrees, because I prioritized finding love and having children. I'd do anything to have your life. And I'm sure millions of women around the world would do anything to have mine. I do have a roof over my head, good physical health, freedom, and don't live in fear of violence. My life is very disappointing in many ways, and I am envious of people who have more than I do, but I also have very few problems.