I'm sorry you think I hate you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously. Get a life. This dude does not want a fling with his wife’s counterpart I promise you.

Why are you so triggered that you needed to post the same thing 3 times? re you worried there's someone.out there who is into your husband but who won't keep her distance?

I didn’t! Clearly others agree! And while I’m sure there are some women that like my husband - he’s cute and has a great body and is a high earner for those who care - I am confident that he wouldn’t have the time of day for one of my fellow mid 40s ladies. Now a hot young thing, yes, of course, I can see.

You might be surprised. Hot young things are great to look at, but they have NOTHING in common with your husband. And if he is mature at all (Hoping for your sake) he'll more likely to be attracted to a woman maybe just a few years younger than him.

[Anonymous]

My AP suggested I get more friendly with his wife. I think for her sake, so she'd have friends and feel good about herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because you're awesome and we have a lot in common. In many ways you are the better version of me. I can see us being besties. However things are what they are , and I'm in love with your husband so there's no possible way we could be friends. I can't be your friend when I wish you didn't exist and I had met him first. It would be easier if you were someone completely different so that I could hate you, but I can't because you are so much like me that I think it's confirmation he would have fallen for me too. So just know that when I avoid you when I keep my distance it's nothing to do with you because you're great and I do wish we could be friends, but I have to keep my distance from you and your husband.

Snicker. Whatever you need to tell yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because you're awesome and we have a lot in common. In many ways you are the better version of me. I can see us being besties. However things are what they are , and I'm in love with your husband so there's no possible way we could be friends. I can't be your friend when I wish you didn't exist and I had met him first. It would be easier if you were someone completely different so that I could hate you, but I can't because you are so much like me that I think it's confirmation he would have fallen for me too. So just know that when I avoid you when I keep my distance it's nothing to do with you because you're great and I do wish we could be friends, but I have to keep my distance from you and your husband.

Snicker. Whatever you need to tell yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My AP suggested I get more friendly with his wife. I think for her sake, so she'd have friends and feel good about herself.

Oh that is so messed up. How do I erase this from my brain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My AP suggested I get more friendly with his wife. I think for her sake, so she'd have friends and feel good about herself.

Oh my god that's messed up on multiple levels!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because you're awesome and we have a lot in common. In many ways you are the better version of me. I can see us being besties. However things are what they are , and I'm in love with your husband so there's no possible way we could be friends. I can't be your friend when I wish you didn't exist and I had met him first. It would be easier if you were someone completely different so that I could hate you, but I can't because you are so much like me that I think it's confirmation he would have fallen for me too. So just know that when I avoid you when I keep my distance it's nothing to do with you because you're great and I do wish we could be friends, but I have to keep my distance from you and your husband.

Snicker. Whatever you need to tell yourself.

That bolded is sociopathic. Single white female type thinking.

[Anonymous]

I hope you wouldn't hate the wife if she were very different from you, OP. That would be very unfair. Try not to think of her at all.

[Anonymous]

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I hope you wouldn't hate the wife if she were very different from you, OP. That would be very unfair. Try not to think of her at all.

Op here. I agree it would be totally unfair, but if she were a different kind of woman I could easily let myself be jealous and purely critical of her. Since she's a lot like me I can't. I realize it's really , really effed up way of thinking but it's how I currently feel.

Also it's not so much that I think he'd instantly fall love with me, but if I were to let myself get any closer to them than I am it would be really bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I hope you wouldn't hate the wife if she were very different from you, OP. That would be very unfair. Try not to think of her at all.

Op here. I agree it would be totally unfair, but if she were a different kind of woman I could easily let myself be jealous and purely critical of her. Since she's a lot like me I can't. I realize it's really , really effed up way of thinking but it's how I currently feel.

Also it's not so much that I think he'd instantly fall love with me, but if I were to let myself get any closer to them than I am it would be really bad.

GOD, HE'S MARRIED. STOP DWELLING ON HIM.

Go out and do something. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for OP for recognizing that she could make a terrible mistake that adversely affects both hers and others' lives and removing herself from their periphery. The wife probably saw her as a potential friend and reached out a couple of times. OP may be feeling guilty for both having inappropriate feelings for a married man and turning down a friendship with a perfectly nice person and using this to process her feelings. Hopefully this is one of the many future healthy decisions she makes moving forward.

I'm OP and thank you for understanding. I know my thought process is a mess, but it's how I feel and I'm trying to do the right thing and feel like a jerk for blowing her off and liking her husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because you're awesome and we have a lot in common. In many ways you are the better version of me. I can see us being besties. However things are what they are , and I'm in love with your husband so there's no possible way we could be friends. I can't be your friend when I wish you didn't exist and I had met him first. It would be easier if you were someone completely different so that I could hate you, but I can't because you are so much like me that I think it's confirmation he would have fallen for me too. So just know that when I avoid you when I keep my distance it's nothing to do with you because you're great and I do wish we could be friends, but I have to keep my distance from you and your husband.

Oo you sure have an inflated sense of worth. How do you know that the husband wouldn't have preferred his wife over you? What make you think wife is even thinking of you? Honestly, both are better off you staying clear as you sound psychotic.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is 15 and the “husband” is a “boyfriend” and to OP I say, just use a hard copy diary so you can burn it when you grow up.

[Anonymous]

OP, the reality is that the wife and the husband both likely think you’re an odd duck, if they think of you at all. Best not to concern yourself too much with what other people think of you. Not really something you have much control of. Instead try to be less of a teen.

[Anonymous]

Oh god, grow up. You are not in love with him. How ridiculous. Get your own life.