I'm sorry you think I hate you

[Anonymous]

FFS Grow the F up.

[Anonymous]

Seriously. Get a life. This dude does not want a fling with his wife’s counterpart I promise you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously. Get a life. This dude does not want a fling with his wife’s counterpart I promise you.

Why are you so triggered that you needed to post the same thing 3 times? re you worried there's someone.out there who is into your husband but who won't keep her distance?

[Anonymous]

OMG! I fell in love with someone unavailable and it was super awkward. Smart move OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously. Get a life. This dude does not want a fling with his wife’s counterpart I promise you.

Why are you so triggered that you needed to post the same thing 3 times? re you worried there's someone.out there who is into your husband but who won't keep her distance?

I didn’t! Clearly others agree! And while I’m sure there are some women that like my husband - he’s cute and has a great body and is a high earner for those who care - I am confident that he wouldn’t have the time of day for one of my fellow mid 40s ladies. Now a hot young thing, yes, of course, I can see.

[Anonymous]

So much drama.

[Anonymous]

How did you met him? And how do you know the wife well enough to know you’d be “besties” and get also know she thinks you hate her. Weird dynamic

[Anonymous]

Nope. We'd never be friends because you are a desperate loser that preys on other people's spouses.

Loser sitting around pining away instead of taking charge of their life is not the type of woman I mesh with. Loser

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well quit obsessing about the wife. That’s super creepy. I doubt she cares how you feel about her. Get over yourself. You’re imagining she’s jealous or he also is pining over you.

I don't read that at all. It might even answer someone's question as to why an acquaintance seems standoffish.

It is still super odd and imagining a pressing concern in someone’s head space which sounds misguided and nonexistent. Inflated importance. Sounds like classic narcissism. “I know you’re thinking about how I hate you.”

YEP. Self-importance. Messed up individual. The wife is NOTHING like her

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: It is still super odd and imagining a pressing concern in someone’s head space which sounds misguided and nonexistent. Inflated importance. Sounds like classic narcissism. “I know you’re thinking about how I hate you.”

I don't think it's narcissism. It's someone struggling with being in love with an unavailable person. This happened to me because I had issues stemming from emotionally unavailable parents. I worked them out, and now I'm married to someone who loves me back, but I still have issues with intimacy! I don't think I'm a narcissistic, though...

IT'S NOT LOVE!!! She doesn't even really know this guy. It's lust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: It is still super odd and imagining a pressing concern in someone’s head space which sounds misguided and nonexistent. Inflated importance. Sounds like classic narcissism. “I know you’re thinking about how I hate you.”

I don't think it's narcissism. It's someone struggling with being in love with an unavailable person. This happened to me because I had issues stemming from emotionally unavailable parents. I worked them out, and now I'm married to someone who loves me back, but I still have issues with intimacy! I don't think I'm a narcissistic, though...

IT'S NOT LOVE!!! She doesn't even really know this guy. It's lust.

And jealousy of the wife too. Women like this get a twisted self-esteem fix by thinking they are better for a man than his wife or can get him to sleep with her. Daddy issues or just severe low self esteem. Need male validation.

[Anonymous]

Good for OP for recognizing that she could make a terrible mistake that adversely affects both hers and others' lives and removing herself from their periphery. The wife probably saw her as a potential friend and reached out a couple of times. OP may be feeling guilty for both having inappropriate feelings for a married man and turning down a friendship with a perfectly nice person and using this to process her feelings. Hopefully this is one of the many future healthy decisions she makes moving forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: It is still super odd and imagining a pressing concern in someone’s head space which sounds misguided and nonexistent. Inflated importance. Sounds like classic narcissism. “I know you’re thinking about how I hate you.”

I don't think it's narcissism. It's someone struggling with being in love with an unavailable person. This happened to me because I had issues stemming from emotionally unavailable parents. I worked them out, and now I'm married to someone who loves me back, but I still have issues with intimacy! I don't think I'm a narcissistic, though...

IT'S NOT LOVE!!! She doesn't even really know this guy. It's lust.

And jealousy of the wife too. Women like this get a twisted self-esteem fix by thinking they are better for a man than his wife or can get him to sleep with her. Daddy issues or just severe low self esteem. Need male validation.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for OP for recognizing that she could make a terrible mistake that adversely affects both hers and others' lives and removing herself from their periphery. The wife probably saw her as a potential friend and reached out a couple of times. OP may be feeling guilty for both having inappropriate feelings for a married man and turning down a friendship with a perfectly nice person and using this to process her feelings. Hopefully this is one of the many future healthy decisions she makes moving forward.

+1 so many triggered wives posting and projecting. Op seems smart. Keep staying away you'll find your own special guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good for OP for recognizing that she could make a terrible mistake that adversely affects both hers and others' lives and removing herself from their periphery. The wife probably saw her as a potential friend and reached out a couple of times. OP may be feeling guilty for both having inappropriate feelings for a married man and turning down a friendship with a perfectly nice person and using this to process her feelings. Hopefully this is one of the many future healthy decisions she makes moving forward.

+1 so many triggered wives posting and projecting. Op seems smart. Keep staying away you'll find your own special guy.

Massive eye roll. It’s the whole I must keep myself from breaking up a marriage and the wife thinking you “hate” her that’s over the top. OP, has the husband given you any indication that he feels the same?