My wife talks bad about me to her friends but treats me normal…

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing that you have little kids. Yes, women do this, but at the same time, a lot if men are kind of assholes and not great supportive partners or co-parents when kids are little.

Ultimately, the best course of action is to think about what she said and just be a better husband. I don’t even really think you have to talk to her about it.

[Anonymous]

Cheat on her gossip a$$. Give her something to really complain about.

[Anonymous]

She’s gotten tired of complaining to you about it, but she isn’t quite ready to divorce, so she is talking to her friends and trying to figure out what’s normal and how much to put up with.

[Anonymous]

Every time I hear women bad mouth their husbands I just listen and keep my mouth shut though I might nod and say that’s unfortunate. Then I want to go home and jump on my husband for being such a good guy. What I like is that I’ve heard from many of his friends that he says I’m very special. When I hear that I want to jump on him again. I do a lot of jumping and that helps us have a good marriage.

[Anonymous]

Call her out on that in front of her friends and watch her try to explain her actions.

She sound like a real piece of work. I'm sorry for you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She might also be seeking a gut check on whether the thing that bothering her is a real problem that she needs to deal with, or a normal, petty annoyance that is common to other women. She's getting the feedback that this is a normal thing that married women deal with, so she's not saying anything to you about it.

OR she's afraid to raise it with you, because she's conflict-avoidant, or out of fear of an argument, or your bad temper, or because she thinks it will be futile, or because you always deflect it back onto her, or some other reason.

+1. Suss it out OP, does it have any merit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a woman in our friend group who is notoriously annoying with the complaining of her husband. The topic of conversation leads back to how unhappy she is in her marriage. The broken record of conversation has become embarrassing to be around with other people. You should confront her directly. Her friends are tired of the pity party.

Or they all complain about their spouses, and there's one tattletale in the group who's trying to start some drama.

Yep.

And she supposedly got one male sucker to post on dcum. Score!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call her out on that in front of her friends and watch her try to explain her actions.

She sound like a real piece of work. I'm sorry for you, OP.

+1 Call the cow out on her BS. Find AP cut your losses with the gossip queen.

[Anonymous]

DH to DW: I heard you been talking sh*t about me to your friends

DW to DH: Oh yeah? Whattaya gonna do about it???

Classic.

[Anonymous]

What is “talking bad about you” and how is this different than venting to her friends ?

[Anonymous]

Word to the wise, she should be including other people in your affairs. Are you should start having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is “talking bad about you” and how is this different than venting to her friends ?

He doesn’t know. He doesn’t really have many friends, and the ones he does have, he “does” stuff with, but they don’t really talk. If he wants to vent to someone, the only person he has is his wife. So, he is hypercritical of her, guilty, and angry that she has this other outlet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even the best husband sucks. If a woman friend never complains about her husband I get rid of her. We have to support each other in managing spousal misery.

[Anonymous]

Better than bottling it up and raging on your kids or spouse.

[Anonymous]

Wait, women exist that don't *ever* complain about their husband to their close girlfriends? Must be aliens.