GF is very possessive and jealous

[Anonymous]

Op, you need to drop her and don't worry about the cops. Keep a record of everything and also that you hv been asking her politely to leave the house.

[Anonymous]

Does she know it’s over?

If she harasses you then you can rslj to your local police precinct to express your concerns and get their advice.

[Anonymous]

Yup. What they said. It actually works out really well in your favor that you have been able to maintain a cordial relationship with your ex.

If she starts stalking you, showing up at your house or work etc file a complaint with the police.

If she shows up at your house do not open the door even just to talk to her. Tell her she needs to leave politely. And text someone else what is going on. You may also want to invest in a ring camera or some sort of device to record any inappropriate behavior on her part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she know it’s over?

If she harasses you then you can rslj to your local police precinct to express your concerns and get their advice.

What is RSLJ?

[Anonymous]

The problem isn't her, it's you. You don't want to risk losing the great sex, so you put up with her BS. She knows what a wench she is, so she clings to the relationship with you by making sure you are happy with the sex she offers. Be man and find someone who offers what you deserve.

[Anonymous]

dump her dump her dump her. now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have to answer the door. You can talk with her in a public place, to be safe. The fact that you even have to worry about this reflects her abusiveness and the red alarm telling you to exit this relationship ASAP.

She behaved like this with me during our vacation trip about 10 days ago. We were in a hotel bar/restaurant and she got mad after seeing me texting my ex-wife on the well being of kids. She started shouting in public and threw hotel key card at me. I told her to leave which she did but came back again and made a scene there. I finished my food and quietly left.

Honestly, I am concerned that she would call cops to get me in trouble if she don't get her way. At a situation like this, they do hear what a woman is saying and always take guy as the miscreant. I have heard and seen enough horrible stories about it.

Yes, I am planning to not see her again and maintain my distance.

She was fine for first year and may be we had arguments now and then in the second year but gone pretty bad in last 3-4 months.

Ok, so sounds off and like she has a drinking problem so I would end it.

I’m not saying you deserved her behavior, but FYI for future reference - if you are out with another woman and you need to text your ex about the kids, you should apologize for doing so and try to make it quick. Or, if possible, wait until you guys are having downtime or she is in the bathroom and then reply. Generally speaking, it is rude to be on your phone and texting when you are on a date. Your focus should be on her, not your phone, unless it is really important that you text back right away.

I’ve dated several divorced dads. Most of them rarely had to text their ex while with me. I do wonder if you communicate with your ex more than is normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: The problem isn't her, it's you. You don't want to risk losing the great sex, so you put up with her BS. She knows what a wench she is, so she clings to the relationship with you by making sure you are happy with the sex she offers. Be man and find someone who offers what you deserve.

You could be right and for a while I thought about it but now I feel like all the mess and trouble is not worth it. I am done with it and waiting for it to over without making a mess.

[Anonymous]

Run. Fast. Don't expose your kids to this. She will try to drive a wedge between you and the kids.

I had a similar GF before I met my now-wife. That woman had borderline personality disorder, which she was hiding from me. A major component of BPD is fear of abandonment.

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-does-everybody-leave-me-425201

Read about BPD and see if it fits within the behavior of your GF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she know it’s over?

If she harasses you then you can rslj to your local police precinct to express your concerns and get their advice.

What is RSLJ?

Oh gosh, typo - so sorry!! Meant *report

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Run. Fast. Don't expose your kids to this. She will try to drive a wedge between you and the kids.

I had a similar GF before I met my now-wife. That woman had borderline personality disorder, which she was hiding from me. A major component of BPD is fear of abandonment.

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-does-everybody-leave-me-425201

Read about BPD and see if it fits within the behavior of your GF.

This sounds like my ex-wife. She would just stick around and come back after moving out for the fear of being alone. Confused the heck out of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have to answer the door. You can talk with her in a public place, to be safe. The fact that you even have to worry about this reflects her abusiveness and the red alarm telling you to exit this relationship ASAP.

She behaved like this with me during our vacation trip about 10 days ago. We were in a hotel bar/restaurant and she got mad after seeing me texting my ex-wife on the well being of kids. She started shouting in public and threw hotel key card at me. I told her to leave which she did but came back again and made a scene there. I finished my food and quietly left.

Honestly, I am concerned that she would call cops to get me in trouble if she don't get her way. At a situation like this, they do hear what a woman is saying and always take guy as the miscreant. I have heard and seen enough horrible stories about it.

Yes, I am planning to not see her again and maintain my distance.

She was fine for first year and may be we had arguments now and then in the second year but gone pretty bad in last 3-4 months.

Ok, so sounds off and like she has a drinking problem so I would end it.

I’m not saying you deserved her behavior, but FYI for future reference - if you are out with another woman and you need to text your ex about the kids, you should apologize for doing so and try to make it quick. Or, if possible, wait until you guys are having downtime or she is in the bathroom and then reply. Generally speaking, it is rude to be on your phone and texting when you are on a date. Your focus should be on her, not your phone, unless it is really important that you text back right away.

I’ve dated several divorced dads. Most of them rarely had to text their ex while with me. I do wonder if you communicate with your ex more than is normal.

I was just thinking the same thing. I wonder if there are two sides to this story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have to answer the door. You can talk with her in a public place, to be safe. The fact that you even have to worry about this reflects her abusiveness and the red alarm telling you to exit this relationship ASAP.

She behaved like this with me during our vacation trip about 10 days ago. We were in a hotel bar/restaurant and she got mad after seeing me texting my ex-wife on the well being of kids. She started shouting in public and threw hotel key card at me. I told her to leave which she did but came back again and made a scene there. I finished my food and quietly left.

Honestly, I am concerned that she would call cops to get me in trouble if she don't get her way. At a situation like this, they do hear what a woman is saying and always take guy as the miscreant. I have heard and seen enough horrible stories about it.

Yes, I am planning to not see her again and maintain my distance.

She was fine for first year and may be we had arguments now and then in the second year but gone pretty bad in last 3-4 months.

Ok, so sounds off and like she has a drinking problem so I would end it.

I’m not saying you deserved her behavior, but FYI for future reference - if you are out with another woman and you need to text your ex about the kids, you should apologize for doing so and try to make it quick. Or, if possible, wait until you guys are having downtime or she is in the bathroom and then reply. Generally speaking, it is rude to be on your phone and texting when you are on a date. Your focus should be on her, not your phone, unless it is really important that you text back right away.

I’ve dated several divorced dads. Most of them rarely had to text their ex while with me. I do wonder if you communicate with your ex more than is normal.

I was just thinking the same thing. I wonder if there are two sides to this story.

Op Here, it could be as you are only hearing it from me. My concern is the reaction she gives that remotely gives her an idea that I could be cheating. It is way worse if she is drinking and then you can't have a peaceful conversation with her.

[Anonymous]

OP, no need to justify. If you are not feeling it then it is probably not a good fit. Dump her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Overall, she is nice and cares about me but there could be anything that could set her off. She gets pretty angry when drunk and that could be on anything even if I am communicating with my ex-wife about kids business or responding to a text for business. She used to listen when I discuss this the next day or after taking a break from the fight but getting pretty combative recently. She seems very possessive and gets mad if I don't respond to her "I love you" right away which she says like 50 times a day. Also, don't understand when I try to take a break during fights and continue to call or harass me. I have recommended therapy but apparently she is upset with something that's hard to work with.

I don’t get it. You’re both out drunk and drinking and your still get out your cell phone during the date to text tour ex and your colleagues. Yuck.