GF is very possessive and jealous

[Anonymous]

Op here. I am 40 and she is 41 with one child in teenage years. Sorry for not responding yesterday. I wasn't feeling well and slept early. I am not seeing her for last few days and now seriously thinking of letting this relationship go. Yes, a some of you are right that a few things she does are pretty awesome including sex but all this drama is getting to me.

The question I was asking is if there is any reason for me to give her another chance or if she can improve with therapy? I know she needs to have the willingness to improve but does it happened for some people? Thanks for all the answers

[Anonymous]

Op, is she aware of these issues or ignore/distract you when you speak to her about this? How mad she gets when things don't go her way.

[Anonymous]

"She's an angry drunk" and "She seems very possessive and gets mad if I don't respond to her "I love you" right away which she says like 50 times a day." both sound abusive/controlling. Why do you want to stick around this? Either you both go to couples counseling or you break it off with her.

[Anonymous]

I am having the same thoughts but looks like OP has conflicting opinion about this and he would take time to get over or let go of this relationship.

One of the PPs was correct in talking about this cycle.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been together, OP?

[Anonymous]

Please do not impregnate her. But breaking up would be best. She sounds like waaay too much work.

[Anonymous]

Op here. We have been together for about 2.5 years. I took an year of dating before introducing kids to her and my kids like her a lot.

I won't be impregnating her as both of us are fixed. Thank god, as it would be a nightmare to raise a child with her.

She also doesn't have good relationship with her ex after he left and frown upon when I try to contact my ex for any business related with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We have been together for about 2.5 years. I took an year of dating before introducing kids to her and my kids like her a lot.

I won't be impregnating her as both of us are fixed. Thank god, as it would be a nightmare to raise a child with her.

She also doesn't have good relationship with her ex after he left and frown upon when I try to contact my ex for any business related with kids.

Why on earth have you wasted this much time with this person? Do you want your kids to think an angry drunk is a good life partner??

And of course she doesn’t get along with her ex — she has anger issues.

You really need to run.

[Anonymous]

Just break up. The only thing she has going for her is the sex? Seriously, find somebody else. Everything else just seems like you don't like her a lot and she's more effort than she's worth.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like loser. Her p is not worth it.

[Anonymous]

You should break up. I’m not understanding why you are together at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We have been together for about 2.5 years. I took an year of dating before introducing kids to her and my kids like her a lot.

I won't be impregnating her as both of us are fixed. Thank god, as it would be a nightmare to raise a child with her.

She also doesn't have good relationship with her ex after he left and frown upon when I try to contact my ex for any business related with kids.

Why on earth have you wasted this much time with this person? Do you want your kids to think an angry drunk is a good life partner??

And of course she doesn’t get along with her ex — she has anger issues.

You really need to run.

Op here again. That's what I am planning to do and she is not at home. She has never made an issue in front of kids and truly love my kids but other than that it could be hit or a miss.
She is not coming over anymore and I want it to stay that way. I am concerned that she would show up one day to discuss whatever she was thinking and wouldn't leave if asked to.

[Anonymous]

You don’t have to answer the door. You can talk with her in a public place, to be safe. The fact that you even have to worry about this reflects her abusiveness and the red alarm telling you to exit this relationship ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Geesh ! OP her behavior is not normal or healthy. Abusers are mean all the time, they can turn it on and off, and don't for a second believe she won't become nasty with your kids. She will.

Please stick to your plan of not seeing her again. If she shows up at your house, do not let her end, and text someone you trust, that she is at your house and you are concerned for your safety.

And think about a few sessions of therapy, to help sort out why you felt being treated this way for so long was okay. Childhood trauma?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t have to answer the door. You can talk with her in a public place, to be safe. The fact that you even have to worry about this reflects her abusiveness and the red alarm telling you to exit this relationship ASAP.

She behaved like this with me during our vacation trip about 10 days ago. We were in a hotel bar/restaurant and she got mad after seeing me texting my ex-wife on the well being of kids. She started shouting in public and threw hotel key card at me. I told her to leave which she did but came back again and made a scene there. I finished my food and quietly left.

Honestly, I am concerned that she would call cops to get me in trouble if she don't get her way. At a situation like this, they do hear what a woman is saying and always take guy as the miscreant. I have heard and seen enough horrible stories about it.

Yes, I am planning to not see her again and maintain my distance.

She was fine for first year and may be we had arguments now and then in the second year but gone pretty bad in last 3-4 months.