Husband can’t cuddle!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Male here. Cuddling right before going to bed disturbs my sleep. Once we start cuddling I get a hard on and then if there is no sex, I cannot get sleep easily. At that point being the master of one's domain does not help either.

So I have to consciously just go through the motions and not actually involve myself too much when I know that cuddling does not lead to sex. Early on in the day or middle of the day is fine as I can take care of myself.

I attribute this kind of friction just to gender differences. No need to assume women are all bit**** or men or are all dogs/gross....

Don’t all men get a hard-on from cuddling??

+1. Unless we have been doing it 4 times a week, then I’m happy to snuggle in that afterglow.

There are some men who immediately want to distance themselves from DW after sex, I would look out for those.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband cannot cuddle with me without it leading to sex! I just think that’s weird and why can’t he just cuddle with me?

Are you new to men?

Is this what you are teaching your children? Are you telling your daughter that if she cuddles with a guy she better be prepared to have sex with him. are you telling your son that if he cuddles with a girl he's owed sex.

Hahahahahaha! What? How did you get that from the post?

Just as I was taught by my parents I would teach my daughter not to be a tease and not to lead a person on. Men and women think differently about relationships and sex.

My male child would be told to be repecful of women and that no means no.

That's so messed up! And you can't teach both things at the same time. Because your first rule negates the second.

[Anonymous]

OP here. It happened again last night! Geez I can’t get close to him without him wanting sex. It’s annoying as hell because if I am not in the mood it’s not an option. I feel like he is being selfish and just thinking about his needs. Guess I’ll just have to grab one of my cats from now on when I just need cuddling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It happened again last night! Geez I can’t get close to him without him wanting sex. It’s annoying as hell because if I am not in the mood it’s not an option. I feel like he is being selfish and just thinking about his needs. Guess I’ll just have to grab one of my cats from now on when I just need cuddling.

Too bad you do not have someone - maybe a platonic gay male friend - who could occasionally fulfill your need to cuddle with zero expectation of sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It happened again last night! Geez I can’t get close to him without him wanting sex. It’s annoying as hell because if I am not in the mood it’s not an option. I feel like he is being selfish and just thinking about his needs. Guess I’ll just have to grab one of my cats from now on when I just need cuddling.

Have you talked to him about this? Does he have a tantrum or push you away if you say no sex tonight?