Husband can’t cuddle!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband cannot cuddle with me without it leading to sex! I just think that’s weird and why can’t he just cuddle with me?

Unless this is a humble-brag post....OP, have you actually asked him just to cuddle for the sake of it? Have you communicated with him that you want physical contact sometimes for comfort and intimacy that isn't sexual intimacy? I'm wondering if you've actually discussed this. I"m thinking not.

[Anonymous]

OP - recently they have come out with new, weighted plush animals (I discovered them here on DCUM!).

The important part is they are weighted. They come in various types (bear, frog, pony); and various sizes (adult or larger sizes too of course). The weight makes all the difference in terms of how well they work / how comforting they are.

You should try one of these.

[Anonymous]

My husband is the same way and it drives me NUTS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cuddling doesn't have to lead to sex. It's so pathetic that so many of you think this way.

Sex is way better than cuddling though, isn't it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cuddling doesn't have to lead to sex. It's so pathetic that so many of you think this way.

Sex is way better than cuddling though, isn't it?

-- said no woman ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cuddling doesn't have to lead to sex. It's so pathetic that so many of you think this way.

Sex is way better than cuddling though, isn't it?

-- said no woman ever

LOL. DW here. You're having bad sex if you think cuddling is better than sex.

[Anonymous]

Male here. Cuddling right before going to bed disturbs my sleep. Once we start cuddling I get a hard on and then if there is no sex, I cannot get sleep easily. At that point being the master of one's domain does not help either.

So I have to consciously just go through the motions and not actually involve myself too much when I know that cuddling does not lead to sex. Early on in the day or middle of the day is fine as I can take care of myself.

I attribute this kind of friction just to gender differences. No need to assume women are all bit**** or men or are all dogs/gross....

[Anonymous]

I think you mean "won't" cuddle with you without it leading to sex.

[Anonymous]

Wow. DH is glad to cuddle but sex rarely results, which has made me the rare DW who dislikes cuddling because it doesn't turn into anything more fun.

[Anonymous]

give it 10 years.

[Anonymous]

My DH cuddle? Rarely! But he is so great otherwise that I don't really care. He cuddles with our little ones and that is enough for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband cannot cuddle with me without it leading to sex! I just think that’s weird and why can’t he just cuddle with me?

Are you new to men?

Is this what you are teaching your children? Are you telling your daughter that if she cuddles with a guy she better be prepared to have sex with him. are you telling your son that if he cuddles with a girl he's owed sex.

Hahahahahaha! What? How did you get that from the post?

Just as I was taught by my parents I would teach my daughter not to be a tease and not to lead a person on. Men and women think differently about relationships and sex.

My male child would be told to be repecful of women and that no means no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cuddling doesn't have to lead to sex. It's so pathetic that so many of you think this way.

Sex is way better than cuddling though, isn't it?

-- said no woman ever

I’m a woman and I’d rather have def than cuddle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Male here. Cuddling right before going to bed disturbs my sleep. Once we start cuddling I get a hard on and then if there is no sex, I cannot get sleep easily. At that point being the master of one's domain does not help either.

So I have to consciously just go through the motions and not actually involve myself too much when I know that cuddling does not lead to sex. Early on in the day or middle of the day is fine as I can take care of myself.

I attribute this kind of friction just to gender differences. No need to assume women are all bit**** or men or are all dogs/gross....

Don’t all men get a hard-on from cuddling??

[Anonymous]

A man who isn’t turned on by cuddling his wife is probably gay.

Or having an affair.