Husband said he didn’t like the recipe I cooked

[Anonymous]

Not everything's a hit. Believe me, I've made some duds, and my husband goes the opposite direction - he'll INSIST on eating something that came out horrible! One time I just brain farted and made a recipe I've made a million times and like tripled an ingredient.... It was inedible, and he's like, "What? It's fine" eating the most horrendous chowder that ever was made. I said, "please don't eat that $h!t, it's giving me anxiety. I'm not touching it..." We still joke about it.

Let it go, OP. It's not a big deal. It's not even a small deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Cause lord, if THAT hurt your feelings just wait until your kid gets old enough to give their feedback!

LOL + a million trillion!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Cause lord, if THAT hurt your feelings just wait until your kid gets old enough to give their feedback!

My kids aren’t allowed to critique my food. I just don’t want to hear it. They don’t have to eat it but if they can’t critique it.

[Anonymous]

Effort does not guarantee success in cooking. Some cookbooks have elaborate instructions that take forever and produce mediocre results. Some cookbooks are great but have a few bad recipes. Most cookbooks will have recipes for foods that you (or your DH) won't enjoy and won't be worth the effort.

Depending on where you are on your cooking journey, you might want to focus on less time consuming recipes that deliver the kind of flavors you and your husband enjoy. Only put a lot of time and effort into meals that you are pretty sure will be a winner for the two of you.

[Anonymous]

DH and I cook every day. Lot of dishes, various cuisines. Which means that we are constantly rating the dishes.

OP's problem seems to be of a family that does not really cook and cooking is a mighty big deal for them.

[Anonymous]

I agree this was fine. My husband has more than once referred to something I’ve made as disgusting slop (once was beef stroganoff and another was like a chicken in a cream sauce, so apparently he doesn’t like meat in a cream sauce)—but he’s often an a-hole. Your husband sounds fine, although he probably could have been a little more diplomatic. I’ve tried to reach the kids diplomatic ways to say that they’d prefer something a different way. My son just dumps hot spice on anything he thinks is too bland but he recognizes that his sister can’t tolerate his preferred level of heat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He forgot to do the positivity sandwich:

Positive: I think it's wonderful that you're trying to stretch our palettes by trying out a new cookbook.

Negative: It was good, but maybe we can add some more spices next time?

Positive: Thank you for taking so much time and effort to make delicious meals. I really know how much you love me through your cooking.

Just be honest, and teach him about the sandwich. He'll do better next time.

AKA the crap sandwich (sandwiches are named for the filling, not the bread)!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Cause lord, if THAT hurt your feelings just wait until your kid gets old enough to give their feedback!

My kids aren’t allowed to critique my food. I just don’t want to hear it. They don’t have to eat it but if they can’t critique it.

Same. That goes for his hands too. You can no thank you. You can say why you liked something. You can also pass on a meal ( after at least trying it once) for a sandwich. But if you don't cook you can't critique.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He forgot to do the positivity sandwich:

Positive: I think it's wonderful that you're trying to stretch our palettes by trying out a new cookbook.

Negative: It was good, but maybe we can add some more spices next time?

Positive: Thank you for taking so much time and effort to make delicious meals. I really know how much you love me through your cooking.

Just be honest, and teach him about the sandwich. He'll do better next time.

This. Op ignore the posters attacking you, they are used to their husbands talking any kind of way to them and bad manners in general. I understand..

Just be honest with him. Let him know you actually agree with him on the flavor, but it hurt you the only thing he said was a criticism and you would like some appreciation for the cooking. And make sure you do the same for him.

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Anonymous wrote:I took quite a bit of time last night cooking lamb meatballs from a cookbook I recently bought. The result was pretty good. A little bland. I amazed my husband what he thought an he said it was bland and he missed it not having spices.

I was a little hurt after all the effort I put in. I told him so. He said he was commenting on my cooking abilities but the recipe itself.

Omg either you are emotionally 10, or you never cook.

I cook 6 days a week. On rare occasions, particularly with new store or new recipe, the food isn't great, and I am not shy to say so myself. It is what it is. Your reaction to this is bizarre

[Anonymous]

If food isn't good, it isn't good. That's it. You are an adult. No need to lie and tell you your lumpy clay bowl or stick figure drawing was amazing. That is for babies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Cause lord, if THAT hurt your feelings just wait until your kid gets old enough to give their feedback!

My kids aren’t allowed to critique my food. I just don’t want to hear it. They don’t have to eat it but if they can’t critique it.

Same. That goes for his hands too. You can no thank you. You can say why you liked something. You can also pass on a meal ( after at least trying it once) for a sandwich. But if you don't cook you can't critique.

Wait they're not allowed to say, this was too bland for me? Thanks for making it but I think we should try with more spices next time (or less)? Or even just: I don't like eating this? Do they not get any say in their food?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Cause lord, if THAT hurt your feelings just wait until your kid gets old enough to give their feedback!

My kids aren’t allowed to critique my food. I just don’t want to hear it. They don’t have to eat it but if they can’t critique it.

Same. That goes for his hands too. You can no thank you. You can say why you liked something. You can also pass on a meal ( after at least trying it once) for a sandwich. But if you don't cook you can't critique.

NP.

I listen to feed back (critiques) from both my kids and spouse. Ironically I made lamb meatballs last week and the feedback was that I over seasoned them. Guess what the critique was correct. Next time I will cut the seasoning. I let everyone have their opinions. They still eat the food (always edible). Sometimes it's enough to not use a recipe again.

[Anonymous]

If he spit the food out, yelled, "this is terrible" and then fed it to the dog...Yes, be offended.

If he refuses to finish and goes and buys a McDonald's hamburger...Yes, be offended.

If he ate the meal, and kindly said, the lamb needs more seasoning/next time use more salt/this is a little bland...No, don't be offended.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Cause lord, if THAT hurt your feelings just wait until your kid gets old enough to give their feedback!

My kids aren’t allowed to critique my food. I just don’t want to hear it. They don’t have to eat it but if they can’t critique it.

Same. That goes for his hands too. You can no thank you. You can say why you liked something. You can also pass on a meal ( after at least trying it once) for a sandwich. But if you don't cook you can't critique.

Okay, you're talking about something else. Nobody said anything about critiquing food. This isn't a detailed analysis or evaluation of the food. My kids don't "critique" at all, but they are certainly free to say "I don't like this". Doesn't mean they get a pass from eating it, but they are feel free to tell me what they do and do not like.