Parents must change diapers at daycare policy?

[Anonymous]

No such policy at our center. When I've arrived and DS has a poop, the caregiver has kindly "fought" with me over who gets to change his diaper.

[Anonymous]

My child has pooped only once during the ride to daycare -- we apologized and she said no problem and changed him after we were on our way to work. It would not have bothered me had she asked me to change him; I would have been surprised and a bit overwhelmed, considering I have no idea where the supplies are and who's is who's, but it's my son, I change his poop.

He is dressed and put in a clean diaper every day before we leave the house and our provider also has him dressed and in a clean diaper when we pick him up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am having a hard time swallowing why this is so terrible... it's your child, correct? I understand that it may be inconvenient, but to assume that is someone else's responsibility simply because your child pooped after you left the house... ?

But it IS someone else's responsibility at this point in the day. Not the OP, but I understand her consternation. Part of the reason for daycare is because people need to be at work and need help with their kids!

Sorry, but it is a parents responsiblity to bring a child to daycare ready to go...that means they are clean, properly dressed, and fed (if it is after meal-time anyway). That means if they poop while you are on your way to daycare, chaning them is up to you. That said, I actually do change kids rather than create ill-will with a parent. Fortunately for me, most of my parents recognize their responsiblity for their kids and would be appreciative of my extra efforts rather than feeling entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am having a hard time swallowing why this is so terrible... it's your child, correct? I understand that it may be inconvenient, but to assume that is someone else's responsibility simply because your child pooped after you left the house... ?

But it IS someone else's responsibility at this point in the day. Not the OP, but I understand her consternation. Part of the reason for daycare is because people need to be at work and need help with their kids!

Sorry, but it is a parents responsiblity to bring a child to daycare ready to go...that means they are clean, properly dressed, and fed (if it is after meal-time anyway). That means if they poop while you are on your way to daycare, chaning them is up to you. That said, I actually do change kids rather than create ill-will with a parent. Fortunately for me, most of my parents recognize their responsiblity for their kids and would be appreciative of my extra efforts rather than feeling entitled.

Ugh. I'm glad we go to daycare that doesn't have such an antagonistic relationship with the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am having a hard time swallowing why this is so terrible... it's your child, correct? I understand that it may be inconvenient, but to assume that is someone else's responsibility simply because your child pooped after you left the house... ?

But it IS someone else's responsibility at this point in the day. Not the OP, but I understand her consternation. Part of the reason for daycare is because people need to be at work and need help with their kids!

Sorry, but it is a parents responsiblity to bring a child to daycare ready to go...that means they are clean, properly dressed, and fed (if it is after meal-time anyway). That means if they poop while you are on your way to daycare, chaning them is up to you. That said, I actually do change kids rather than create ill-will with a parent. Fortunately for me, most of my parents recognize their responsiblity for their kids and would be appreciative of my extra efforts rather than feeling entitled.

Ugh. I'm glad we go to daycare that doesn't have such an antagonistic relationship with the parents.

Antagonistic? I just said that I would have changed the diaper rather than create ill will... How is that antogonistic? I also feel very blessed that my parents wouldn't have "expected" it. Nothing antogonistic there...

[Anonymous]

LOL...on another note...this morning I had a Mom come in at 9:30 and tell me that she "forgot" to feed him. He's 10 months old.

I did feed him, but the reasons that daycares come up with these rules is for the parents who routinely bring kids in icky diapers or without being fed.

I really didn't see that in the OP comments, I just think that her center has probably had this happen before so they created a blanket policy to avoid these kinds of problems in the future. Now you hate to "punish" a parent who never does this stuff...ut on the other hand, you can't really enforce it for one and not the other.

[Anonymous]

How does one *forget* to feed their child?? That just peeves me when someone comes in and says they forgot to feed the child, change the child, didnt have time to dress the child and figure you should be able to do so, while you have your hands full with other kids.

[Anonymous]

I think it is the child care's responsibility to provide a service. However I think there is a clear line between service and servant. As a service, every effort should be in place to attend to the need of the children in care. On the contrary to be handed a poopy child during drop off is a bit of a stretch. It is the equivalent to handing a poopy child to a parent during pick up at the time of closing. That said, I believe that if a child poops in their pants on the way to the daycare, it is parent's responsibility to change the child before checking in. To hear that a parent doesn't have the proper diapering supplies in their vehicle (when caring for a young child) is amazing. That's just like saying you don't have toys/books in the car, a change of clothes, or a bottle of water. When caring for young children who are not potty trained it is reasonable to expect parents to have supplies available. It is also reasonable to expect parents to feed their child before dropping them off. Especially if mealtime has passed. It's about common courtesy and respect. If the event the parents is really rushing exceptions should be made.

[Anonymous]

I do not carry diapers in my car for the trip to day care. Listen and be amazed! In fact, for a short trip I have none of those things in my car, except sometimes the bottle of water.

[Anonymous]

So obviously none of you are these parents, but they do exist and are the reason why some daycares and providers are so hard nosed.
I sent a FOUR year old into the bathroom to wash her hands before breakfast and checked on her when I heard her crying. She couldn't get her urine soaked pull-up pulled down to use the potty. Mom had just decided we could take of it that particular morning. So a sign goes up on the door to please make sure your child is dressed and ready to go for the day, to include clean underwear, at drop off.
Another time a mother ran in carrying her 3 year old son in one arm and his dog poop encrusted shoes in her other hand. She put her son down and handed the poop shoes to my co-worker turned around and left the building. We were all kind of stunned. So.... another sign went up on the door reminding parents that the staff are not there to clean up messes that happen when the child is with their parents.
Sometimes we all catch the flack from other people acting like knuckleheads. It's just the way the monkey screeches.

[Anonymous]

As some of the PPs stated, our daycare center always changes my DS diapers if he poops in the morning or evening while I'm there. They have sanitary procedures that they follow (gloves, wipe down, wrapping diaper, etc.). For you parents who are changing your kids diapers at the center, do you follow the same health procedures that the daycare workers do? Do you wear gloves, wipe down the changing pad, etc.? I'm just wondering because if not, that sounds like an unsanitary situation to me.

[Anonymous]

These policies are often in place because one (or maybe a few) thought it would be easier to pluck the child out of bed and bring them to daycare in wet/dirty diapers, still in pj's and unfed. I had one little boy show up like that a few times. Still in his pj's and the diaper he had worn overnight. After however many times like that I put it in writing that children had to arrive clean, fed, dressed and ready to start the daycare routine. (As opposed to still in wake up mode)


OP your provider didn't need to approach this with an attitude though, she could simply have reminded you of the policy. Even if you were running really, really late that isn't her fault or her issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As some of the PPs stated, our daycare center always changes my DS diapers if he poops in the morning or evening while I'm there. They have sanitary procedures that they follow (gloves, wipe down, wrapping diaper, etc.). For you parents who are changing your kids diapers at the center, do you follow the same health procedures that the daycare workers do? Do you wear gloves, wipe down the changing pad, etc.? I'm just wondering because if not, that sounds like an unsanitary situation to me.

Yes, it was required. And leaving my child ready to start the day made a lot more sense to me than having the teachers spend the first hour of daycare getting them that way. Especially when they were babies, I was glad to know the morning cuddle wasn't going to be interrupted by a diaper change that the parent could have done at drop-off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As some of the PPs stated, our daycare center always changes my DS diapers if he poops in the morning or evening while I'm there. They have sanitary procedures that they follow (gloves, wipe down, wrapping diaper, etc.). For you parents who are changing your kids diapers at the center, do you follow the same health procedures that the daycare workers do? Do you wear gloves, wipe down the changing pad, etc.? I'm just wondering because if not, that sounds like an unsanitary situation to me.

Yes, it was required. And leaving my child ready to start the day made a lot more sense to me than having the teachers spend the first hour of daycare getting them that way. Especially when they were babies, I was glad to know the morning cuddle wasn't going to be interrupted by a diaper change that the parent could have done at drop-off.

PP here. This is part of the reason we go to a more expensive daycare so we don't have to worry about trying to change diapers when I need to get to work. I always change my kids before we leave the house and they arrive clean, but on the rare occasion that they do poop on the way to school, then the daycare handles it. I guess you get what you pay for. I can't imagine a large center requiring parents to change diapers.

[Anonymous]

How can a large centre handle all the parents in their facility changing diapers?
From what I have gathered, they are a little uneasy about parents just hanging around