Car Dilemma

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he have feet and/or a bike?

Problem solved. Time for your DS to realize that actions have consequences, many of which are uncomfortable and/or inconvenient.

We're in the area where you need a car...Western Loudoun.

Then he can pay for an Uber if he can’t get a ride with friends.

Seriously—he was texting while driving and had an accident? Then he either gives up the car or the phone. Clearly he’s not responsible enough to have both.

+1

No car!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he have feet and/or a bike?

Problem solved. Time for your DS to realize that actions have consequences, many of which are uncomfortable and/or inconvenient.

We're in the area where you need a car...Western Loudoun.

A. You didn't answer the question - does DC have two working legs? Access to a bicycle?

B. Define "need". A human is very capable of biking or walking long distances. Will it be convenient or fun? Perhaps not. But, again, there are consequences.

Now, if you want to be beholden to a teen who has to be shuttled around, that's your choice. Personally, if I even agreed to that, they would be on my schedule, no matter how inconvenient it was for them.

A. Yes, but we don't live on the bike trail and biking on a state highway is not safe.
B. Teenager works and it's about a 9-mile walk.

a 9 mile bike ride isn't long and texting and driving isn't safe either

9-mile bike ride is long if you get off work after 10pm.

Then you should have thought about that before texting and driving. Get an Uber -- you can afford it.

[Anonymous]

No car. He's lucky no one was killed. You can drive him at your convenience, he can Uber or bum rides with friends.

[Anonymous]

There is near unanimity on this, and how often does that happen on DCUM? No car. He has PLENTY of options for transport. If you're feeling charitable, offer to pick him up after work. The rest, he's on his own.

[Anonymous]

You don't really need a car in college, only to and from.

[Anonymous]

I'd be making him pay for the Ubers, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he have feet and/or a bike?

Problem solved. Time for your DS to realize that actions have consequences, many of which are uncomfortable and/or inconvenient.

We're in the area where you need a car...Western Loudoun.

A. You didn't answer the question - does DC have two working legs? Access to a bicycle?

B. Define "need". A human is very capable of biking or walking long distances. Will it be convenient or fun? Perhaps not. But, again, there are consequences.

Now, if you want to be beholden to a teen who has to be shuttled around, that's your choice. Personally, if I even agreed to that, they would be on my schedule, no matter how inconvenient it was for them.

A. Yes, but we don't live on the bike trail and biking on a state highway is not safe.
B. Teenager works and it's about a 9-mile walk.

a 9 mile bike ride isn't long and texting and driving isn't safe either

9-mile bike ride is long if you get off work after 10pm.

Then you should have thought about that before texting and driving. Get an Uber -- you can afford it.

Exactly. I am a PP who did not replace my sons car and made him walk and take the bus. I cannot believe OP is making excuses for behavior that could have killed or seriously injured someone.

[Anonymous]

Even my teen student driver agrees that OP's son shouldn't just automatically have his car replaced if the accident was his own fault.

[Anonymous]

OP—our HS is a girl. Just want led to clarify, because everyone thinks she is a boy. I convinced my husband to wait on buying a car and see how the shuttling will play out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP—our HS is a girl. Just want led to clarify, because everyone thinks she is a boy. I convinced my husband to wait on buying a car and see how the shuttling will play out.

OP—arghhhh.....phone.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't matter. What she did is dangerous. No car for her until she is mature enough to be a safe driver.

[Anonymous]

Tell us more about her job. How many days each week does she work? If driving her is too far for you, can you drop where there is public transportation. Worse case scenario, a job closer to home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell us more about her job. How many days each week does she work? If driving her is too far for you, can you drop where there is public transportation. Worse case scenario, a job closer to home.

OP--Works at a restaurant and lifeguards as well. So, different hours on different days. She will be working almost every day this summer. We do not have reliable public transportation in LoCo....like none.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell us more about her job. How many days each week does she work? If driving her is too far for you, can you drop where there is public transportation. Worse case scenario, a job closer to home.

OP--Works at a restaurant and lifeguards as well. So, different hours on different days. She will be working almost every day this summer. We do not have reliable public transportation in LoCo....like none.

I know it is frustrating for your husband, but getting kids where they need/want to be is part of parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. He can uber or bus or get a ride with friends. Or you can drive him. Just be sure to put on music he hates and sing. Do not make the experience comfortable for him.

OMG are you me? I agree with everything, esp. the bolded!

OP’s son has a job. Well, his paycheck will be going toward bus fare or Uber, I guess.